Is A Black & White Wedding Still Elegant or Too Morbid?

[Kelly1Mickey]

I LOVE black and white weddings. The only reason I am not doing one is that I had my heart set on a location and I don't think black and white goes well with my site.

I was at one black and white wedding where the bridesmaids wore tea-length black dresses. They looked gorgeous and since the dresses weren't floor-length, the black didn't seem as heavy...you know what I mean? Plus, the maids were all thrilled that they had bought a dress that they could actually wear again.

Someone mentioned a flower girl in black would make it look like a funeral...the flower girl could wear a white dress with a black sash.

[ca_dawson]

I don't think it's morbid at all! I mean unless you all are painting your faces white and dying your hair black! I am actually doing black, white and red....in April! (insert gasps here!) I am having an evening wedding so I can get away with it! My sisters have given me the most grief about it, but I am so not a pastel person! My girls will be in red though not black, because I love red! Do whatever you want! I've also seen alot of black and white weddings with a splash of color. Maybe that would be an option to make everyone happy? I think it's very elegant!

[kg4eoh]

I agree with the other girls here...black and white is classy. I have seen this done very, very well. Also, you don't have to put your flowergirl in black, put her in white like you. My flowergirl is wearing Ivory like me and my girls are wearing chocolate, so my wedding will have the dark colors too. I think it can be beautiful and it is YOUR wedding, so do what YOU want.

i think a black and white wedding is very elegant.

[BroncosGal]

Originally Posted by Lacey

Another great thing about everyone else in black is how much more you, the beautiful bride, in white will stick out.

My girls are wearing black tea length dresses. My flower girls are wearing black ball gowns with white sashes. Our groomsmen and Sean are all wearing black tuxedoes with black vests and ties. All the flowers are going to be white or white with just a hint of blush pink.

It isn't going to look like a funeral at all, it is going to look elegant. By the way tell your mother in Chinese and Korean cultures white is usually worn to mourn a death.

That is so funny you mention the Korean culture, Lacey - - - my mother IS Korean and knows this yet she is so caught up with what the American society views as the color to mourn death: black. Go figure!
Thank you for your input along with everyone else's on this forum. I think I will go along with my gut instinct to theme the bridesmaid dresses in elegant black. Your wedding sounds as if it will be just as elegant if not more - thanks!

[Lacey]

It could be me but sometimes when I start to talk about my black and white wedding I chuckle. I start to think of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry eats the black and white cookie while waiting in line with Elaine at the bakery for the chocolate babka. Of course it ends his throw up streak. This has nothing to do with the post (and I apologize) but God I miss new episodes of Seinfeld. (I have to have black and white cookies on my cookie table.)

[BroncosGal]

To all that are out that responded to my forum - thank you soooooooo much for the enthusiastic "yes" to black and white weddings! I couldn't be more happier with the help of all you fine gals who believe I can choose this color scheme (regardless of what my lovely mother thinks). Thanks all and I know your weddings will be just as beautiful as long as you, the bride, will be happy...

PS to anyone who has a question about their upcoming wedding or is new to this site like me - - - these girls are here to help you so ask as many questions as you want! Ciau!

[Cashy98]

Originally Posted by BroncosGal

My wedding is on Sept 23, 2006 so I have a little over a year to plan it and the only thing that I can't seem to be decisive on are the bridesmaid dresses! I thought I was confident on black formal gowns with white roses - very sleek, very classy, very.....MORBID (per my mother)? My mother tells me that black would be too blah and funeral-like. She says because this is to be my "special/joyous day", I should have my bridemaids wear something brighter and colorful like hunter green or wine/burgundy dresses to compliment my white gown. Due to it being a fall wedding, everyone agrees that darker/warmer colors are more suitable, however what's wrong with black?? Am I being dull?? I just want a simple yet elegant wedding. Help, ladies!

Black isn't dull at all! It would be very sophisocated if paired with white and red. Or, how about a red dress? That would be exciting... and perhaps less "morbid"... you could satisfy both sides.

[kimwed05]

First of all congrats. Im getting married the same day just this year instead of next year. It's only four days away! Anyway, my girlfriend picked out black dresses for her maids to wear with a small amount of silver crystals at the neckline. We all carried blood red roses and i thought we looked awesome. I thought that the black dresses were very elegant and I thought that it was appropriate for her wedding which was in December. I think that if you want to do black you should. Black is a flattering color on almost EVERYONE. Plus the girls might not have to buy new shoes if they already have nice ones at home. I think you should go for it. Mom's aren't always right.