Bridal Shower

[Banning3030]

Hello...
My best friend is my maid of honor and she wants to have a shower for me and wants the quests to give money. I have been married before and my fiance' and I have a home and all we need. How does she state it in the invitation without offending people? I am not going to register anywhere. She thought about maybe stating something about giving towards our honeymoon. What do you think? If anyone can help with the wording it would be greatly appreciated.
Please help!!!!!
Donna

[reecey]

Originally Posted by Banning3030

Hello...
My best friend is my maid of honor and she wants to have a shower for me and wants the quests to give money. I have been married before and my fiance' and I have a home and all we need. How does she state it in the invitation without offending people? I am not going to register anywhere. She thought about maybe stating something about giving towards our honeymoon. What do you think? If anyone can help with the wording it would be greatly appreciated.
Please help!!!!!
Donna

I really have no idea what you would say in this situation. Typically a shower is for gifts. Its kinda different for a wedding for your family and bridal party to spread the word that you don't need items, that you could really use funds toward your honeymoon -but for a shower, which is specifically to give gifts to the bride, its kinda hard to do.

[miguelsbridetobe]

I am not sure how sensitive the people that are being invited are, however in a book I read that if it is towards the honemoon then they could buy items that are related to the honeymoon. Like they can call to the hotel you are staying and pay for a breakfast in bed or an excursion, it just depends on where you are going. The book I am refering to is the Everything guide to a bridal shower, it also talks about having a money tree.

Now about the invites, if the people are close to you, and in most showers they give you gifts, I can only suppose that you get your maid of honor to talk to each individuala and tell them your request personally that way they will not be offended.

Hope that helped.

[kitntrip]

Originally Posted by Banning3030

Hello...
My best friend is my maid of honor and she wants to have a shower for me and wants the quests to give money. I have been married before and my fiance' and I have a home and all we need. How does she state it in the invitation without offending people? I am not going to register anywhere. She thought about maybe stating something about giving towards our honeymoon. What do you think? If anyone can help with the wording it would be greatly appreciated.
Please help!!!!!
Donna

Any mention of money or even gifts on any invite is pretty tacky.People aren't required to give a gift,whether it be a cash or silverware.People give gifts because they *want* to,not because they have to.

[Kelly1Mickey]

I don't think there is any polite way to ask for money at the shower. I would suggest that maybe your MOH could make it a Travel theme and tell the guests to make the gifts honeymoon related. Where are you going for your honeymoon? Maybe we can get some more ideas from that.

My mom has all my resort contact info and reservation numbers so IF anyone ASKS she can mention that we were really hoping to go on such-and-such excursion or eat at such-and-such restaurant.

[SOM Z28]

I was sorta in the same boat. My FI & I decided on a honeymoon registry. Check with some local travel agencies and find out if any of them will set it up. I had a hard time finding one in my area, but once I did, they just set up an account for us and people could call to 'deposit' a gift into the account. If the account accumulated more than we needed for the trip, then we'd get that money after the honeymoon. And if we didn't accumulate enough, then we had to pay the difference.

And while this might not sound like the most honest idea, you could go register somewhere that has a lenient return policy regarding registry gifts (Bed Bath & Beyond and Target are good choices), and then just return everything and spend the money on anything you want. I hate to say that, but if you've got everything you need or don't have room for extra stuff you might like to have, you could do it.

Or you could just register for stuff that you'd normally never splurge on yourself. This is what we have done. Our honeymoon registry hit a glitch b/c our travel agency couldn't get us a good deal, so we just registered for stuff that I'd never spend the money on myself, like really nice towels. As funny as that sounds, I'll buy decent towels, but never the really soft, fluffy ones. Or bed linens...I'll buy decent ones, but never the really high thread count ones. Not that I'm cheap...I just buy what I can afford. So that's the sort of stuff we registered for. I'm not trying to be greedy by picking expensive stuff. And I figure if someone gets us the 'decent' towels b/c the others are too pricy, then I can exchange them for the others and just pay the difference. Then we still get what we want and don't end up spending a fortune.

[nette]

a girl i know had a money tree at her shower, & she got alot of money. my friend want to have a honeymoon fund at my shower but i told her not to.