White

[janicehulen]

I know this may be a silly question, but how do you know when to wear white. I've only been with my fiance. Would it be appropriate?

[SOM Z28]

As you will hear a lot on this board, do what makes you happy and what looks the best on you. If you want a white dress, go for it. I don't think it makes much difference, and I'm not sure that most people put much stock in the old "only virgins wear white"/"first wedding" things anymore. I'm wearing an ivory dress (this is my second marriage), but only b/c the gown I fell in love with only comes in ivory.

[nle5]

I am getting married for the second time and when I went in to look at a wedding gown the gal told me that I could wear any color I choose. I asked her about the saying of white and she told me that doesn't really matter anymore. The only thing that first time brides are supposed to wear and no one else is the blusher veil (I hope that is spelled right). I agree that you should do whatever makes you happy. I thought that I would want a white wedding dress and when I went in to try on the dresses I found out that the white drains all of my color out of my skin so I will wear ivory.

[reecey]

you can wear anything you want. You can show up in a burlap bag if you want its absolutely your day and that whole traditional ettiquette thing is for people who enjoy it - which, doesn't seem to be most of us haha Make your own tradition

[nle5]

reecey,
You are absolutely right. By reading most of the boards we are all throwing out a lot of the traditional ways. The most important thing is that the bride and groom are happy on their special day.

[iviissbrandi]

Whew! I feel a lot better...I REALLY wanted to ask this "white" question also!
But now it brings me to a second...the blusher veil??? This goes over the face if virgin right??? Or am I mistaken??? I have a son for my FH and wanted to wear one but not covering my face ... is this proper? I don't want to make a mistake!

[reecey]

Originally Posted by Brandi

Whew! I feel a lot better...I REALLY wanted to ask this "white" question also!
But now it brings me to a second...the blusher veil??? This goes over the face if virgin right??? Or am I mistaken??? I have a son for my FH and wanted to wear one but not covering my face ... is this proper? I don't want to make a mistake!

There are no mistakes. Once again, its tradition for a virgin to wear the blusher over the face. I haven't been to too many weddings lately where the bride OR groom was still a virgin - and the bride still wore white AND a blusher veil. The veil was traditionally used to disguise the bride from evil spirits or some such stuff like that. It was contorted later into the whole virgin thing - You could be walking down the isle 8 months pregnant and wearing a blusher if you want and be perfectly fine - if its what you want. People aren't going to pick apart your choices in your wedding. And if they do - good heavens are their lives so boring that they can't think of something better to do????
Just remember its your day - think back to when you were a little girl - what did you imagine yourself to be wearing when you married your prince charming? If a veil, blusher, tiara, sweatsuit whatever is what you pictured, then wear that! That means its right - I see the wedding day as the day that you get to make your imagination come to life - the day you get to share all you dreamed of with everyone. Don't worry about what other will think or whether or not you're following some ancient tradition that doesn't mesh with your life. None of us (that I'm aware of) are in a prearranged marriage with a dowry and having a royal title bestowed upon us Although, if you are in any of those situations, WOW!

[nle5]

I agree with reecey, there are no mistakes when planning YOUR wedding. It's YOUR wedding and you need to do what makes YOU and your FH happy.

The only thing that I have heard lately about the blusher veil is that the only women who should wear one are those that this is their first marriage. I haven't heard anything lately about this being for a virgin.

[iviissbrandi]

Thank u both so much! I was so paranoid about that belief... but truly wanted to wear the veil!