Confused bride to be

[dooda05]

Hello all. I am having some trouble with deciding how my mom should dress at my wedding. Some consultants I have spoken with say she is not to wear the colors of the wedding party but she is to blend. Others say she is to wear whatever color I am wearing which happens to be ivory. I don't know which is correct. Help.

[koolade]

my opinion-as long as the color(s) go together, even if it is the same as the bridal party, she can wear what she wants. thats what my mom, stepmom, and future MIL are doing!!!!

[nle5]

I believe that your mother is to wear something that will blend with the wedding colors but not have any of the colors on. However, I think that you can have it the way that YOU want because it is your wedding. Do what feels right to you and your mother.

[Kelly1Mickey]

I agree with the other ladies...do whatever you and your mom feel ok with. I have found myself getting caught up with decisions like this. Whenever I am having trouble with a detail with my wedding, I just try to look at the big picture. You start seeing pretty quickly that somethings are just not as huge as they seem.

[www.asyouwishwed.com]

It is the custom in some cultures to see the mothers in the wedding color but a different style dress than the bridesmaids. This makes for a nice photo if nothing else.

[MOH]

The others are right... do what YOU want. It is YOUR day so don't let others stress you with restrictions.

My mom and MIL both wore complimenting colors to the maids. My Maids wore plum and Mom wore lavender & my MIL wore a sage. However, I told them to pick colors they looked good in. That was the only restriction. They photographed well and moreover all were comfortable in what they wore.

[bjmy1975]

I think that she can wear whatever she wants as long as it doesn't clash. Our colors are lavander and yellow with a little silver. My mother is going to wear a seafoam color.... unless she changes her mind again!!! I swear I found my dress in 1 try.... she's up to three dresses now. And the FMIL wants to wear a dark purple. I don't care as long as they don't clash!

My MOh told me that her aunt and mother said that the MOB chooses the color of her dress and the MOG shows up, shuts up, and wears beige!

[nle5]

Well, I would never tell either of the mothers to sit down, shut up and wear beige. However, I am going to be going with my mother to pick out her dress and then will also try to help my FMIL find something that she likes. I really don't care what the two of them wear as long as they look good. I asked my FFIL if he is going to be wearing a tux and he just laughed at me. My future in laws are helping out with a lot of the planning of the wedding because I see them more than I do my own parents. My parents really don't care that they are helping out so much because they know that I am paying the majority of the wedding. Heck, maybe I should tell my mother and my FMIL to go shopping for their dresses together. LOL LOL LOL

[reecey]

I'm going to be picking out my mother's and FMIL's clothing. I'm kindof picky in this area and it will be done as a gift to them. I know neither of them can afford to be buying any kind of formal wear, and I don't want them to feel out of place. I want to get them something they can wear at another special occassion. I also want the colors to go well. My colors are navy blue and yellow with silver as an accent. So if I tell them that, they'll show up in a god-aweful blue or the wrong shade of yellow My stepmom asked me what she should wear - I told her I didn't care as long as it wasn't pink or black (I'm not a good pink person) and I asked that if she were going to wear something that was in the wedding colors to please come get a swatch to match/blend with the colors - she was great with that. She has much better ability to choose formal wear.

[nle5]

Reecey,
My colors are Navy blue, silver, with ivory accents to match my dress. It seems we can help each other out with some of the colors. LOL My mother has been looking at dresses and she found a really cute gray dress that she thought she would like .... but didn't try it on. The dress was at the bridal salon that I am getting my dress from so it is formal and would look good on her. Plus, mom is getting gray hair so it would match her hair since I can't convince her to dye it. She tells me that all of those gray hairs she has earned. LOL LOL