Mom's ex-husband vs. Mom's New Boyfriend

[KBrook]

Growing up I did not know my real father. The closest thing that I ever had to a father was my grand-father, who passed away when I was four and my Mom's ex-husband. He was there for the ball games, first dates, prom and my son's birth. Mom and him has been divorced now for seven years but I still call him my Dad. However, Mom's boyfriend does not like him and refusses to be in the same room. (Boyfriend kinda stole Mom away from Dad.) I have already decided that my brother will be the one to walk me down the aisle. But what I want to know is it ok to invite my "Dad" and Mom but not invite the boyfriend. I wonder because the boyfriend has been that for seven years. I just don't know what to do. Please help.

[germaine]

You must invite your dad! He was there for you when he did not have to be. Let your mom know what you are doing and if her boyfriend wants to be immature about it, it is better not to invite the drama. If your mom's ex was as good as you say, you need to do the right thing. He earned it!

[MaxMoi]

Well, what we have here is an interesting situation. I know all about it though, I'm dealing with the same problem. My parents divorced when I was mid-teens, and my mom ended up with a man that is completely evil to me and others in the family. So, if he ***e to my wedding, noone else would show up.

In this situation it is neccesary to play triage and maybe hurt the 'boyfriends' feelings and not invite him. It would be unfair to those who truly love you, and especially to you since it's yours are your fiance's day, to have to put up with a devisive element.

My mom has threatened to not come if her husband can't go, and to that I've said "Fine". You can't let other people control your wedding. Everyone is gonna have a request that affects other people, and you can't please them all. Just make sure you and you're fiance are happy, that's what matters.