Cake as a gift?

[UMN Nic]

Hi- I'm a newbie to the forums. Personally, I am in the "waiting for the ring" phase, although we already have a tentative date set a couple years down the road.

This post, however, is about my best friend's wedding. I am her maid of honor, and am making her wedding cake. She bought my dress for me, and I am paying for everything related to her cake (silver plateau, all the supplies for baking, decorating, etc). My question for all of you who are planning weddings is, would it be appropriate for me to consider the cake as her gift? The cake and supplies will cost me 2-3 times the cost of the dress, and I'll be missing school and work to fly out to her wedding and make the cake. As a medical student, I don't think I can afford anything else!!! I was thinking, though, if she hasn't bought her cake server/knife, maybe I could get her that?

What do you all think? Thanks!

[_Laurie_]

I think that is perfectly fine!! When I was 18, right out of highschool, my best friend got married. I was her MOH. I was working a part time job and starting college in the fall. I didn't have a whole lot of money. I bought my dress myself and I also threw her a bridal shower and a small bachelorette party (as exciting as you could get with 16-18 year olds!) I also made her a scrapbook of our friendship. That is all I got her, I didn't give her any additional gifts. I think if you are making the cake and buying everything that goes along with it, that is perfectly acceptable. That is a lot of money and hard work!!

[Oct_wedding_girl]

Hey, I've asked a friend to take photos all day and consider that our gift! That's an awesome gift as it is, not having to worry about paying for the cake. If you want to throw in the serving set, that would be a sweet bonus, I think.

[chiefsgirl]

that's how i'm doing pretty much our whole wedding! my MOH is helping me with the cake, my aunt is making my dress, a friend of the family is doing my hair and another of my bridesmaids offered to pay for and help me arrange my flowers if i was going to use silk (my parents pried open the piggy bank a little wider and are paying for real ones)...i think it is wonderful that you are doing all of that for her! that just makes it so much more special that it ***e from you, and not just from some bakery.

[alley06]

My great aunt is doing my cake and uncle my photography. That is all I'm asking them to give me since they aren't charging me. I will specifically tell them that's all I need as a gift. I don't a problem with that.

[UMN Nic]

Thank you all for your help and opinions! I just wanted to be sure that I didn't seem too cheap. Thanks!!!

[DNM1010]

i think its a great idea and a beautiful gift! but i also do like the idea of you getting her the knife set for the cake.. its not that the cake seems cheap or anything it seems WAY more than enough.. it just sounds so nice to give her the whole "set" (cake, serving set) ... but i know thats an additional cost and if u "only" fly out there and make her cake i think she will be very very pleased and happy and lucky :)

[SweetDesigns]

my sister in law gave us her wedding bands from her wedding
that never happened as a wedding gift, in return two years later
I made my first wedding cake! I think it was a fair trade!