To invite the ex-wife or not??

[darrensgirl]

I was just wondering what the proper thing to do would be in this situation. My fiance's ex-wife (she is remarried) and mother of his 2 children (that will be in the wedding as a jr. bridesmaid and jr. groomsman) is an old friend of my family. As a matter of fact, she use to be my babysitter when I was younger. Her and I get along great, so my question is, should she be invited to the wedding? I am sure she would like to see the kids but isn't this going to be weird? Please help! I need some advice!

[Tasha23]

I feel if you are good friends that is shouldn't be that weird. But if you feel you will be uncomfortable then don't invite her because it is your day and you should not feel out of place at your own wedding.

[BriTia Consulting]

If you, FH, and ex are all ok with it sure why not. I think more couples who are getting married to someone who is re marring and there are children involved should if at all possible. Like it or not the ex is becomming an extention of the new family. I think that unity is a big part of an extended family.

[carrie s]

it depends on what your fh feels. if they`re still communicate on a friendly basis( i assume so because of their kids),i see no problem.and with all the modern patchwork families it is not weird at all. :)

[apetties]

My FH & I are going to invite both of our ex's. I will not say that his ex and i are friends; we are cordial. She has never done anything to me & vice verse. His kids are grown all but 1 who's near grown and she's going to be a junior BM. So, she may want to see her daughter. My son is a junior Groosmen & my ex may want to see him. However, I don't believe my ex will attend but his family will. My ex-MIL and ex-SIL's we are all still very close. I should not call them ex because we are all still family. So, I'f my ex-in laws are being invited then I will certainly invite his ex-wife.

I don't think she will come & I know my ex will not come but his family will but I'm inviting him as well. So, please invite; its a start of new beginnings so start off on the right foot. Now, if she does not come then it's on her but you did the proper thing by inviting her & her family.

[reecey]

If she wasn't his ex - would you invite her?
Take the friendship etc you have with her now. Forget about the fact that she's his ex...would you invite that person?
That's your answer.

[jt2lang]

Touché, Reecey! Couldn't have said it better! ;)

[kyzmit]

Although the thought of inviting an ex to the wedding is kindof strange when you consider it in general, it really depends on your relationship with the person.

My uncle and his ex-wife sat together at my reception and had a blast... so did my parents and my mom's boyfriend.

As long as you're okay with having her there (you said you're old friends, so that sounds fine) and he's fine with it, I'd invite her. If she thinks it'll be weird for her or you 2, she won't come.