Is it okay to invite the Ex's?

[Sarah Jang]

What do people think about inviting the Ex's to the wedding? I have a friend who was my high school sweetheart ten years ago and we have been friends ever since. We talk about once or twice a month since he lives out of town and he has met my fiance, and I know he would like to come to the wedding. Is it better just to avoid the issue and not invite any of the ex's, no matter what, even if it may hurt many feelings?

[Ivonna]

I am just going to ask you to forget you ever read the above reply and just to listen to my sensible advice, not the yammerings of an imbicile. Your high school sweetheart should pose no problem at your wedding as long as the romantic relationship you had is far enough in the past. How far is far enough, ask you fiancee. If he gives you the green light, by all means invite him. Make sure your FI knows you are only friends and your frinedship means alot, but do not pressure him into saying it is OK, let him talk about it honestly. If you have open communucation, you should have no problem. If he is hesitant, maybe set up a time when the three of you can get together before the wedding so he may feel more at ease with your friend. If he still does not like the idea, do your friend the courtesy of letting him know he is very special to you and you do not want to hurt his feelings, but your FI is just not comfortable with the idea. As long as the guest in question is not an ex-wife or the last girl or guy you were with before meeting each other, it should work out just fine.

[eliza]

NO WAY!!! I don't care if anyone is "just friends", I think it makes for an extremely awkward situation, and may have a lot of people talking. My husband had issues with his ex; I told him he had to choose--me as a wife or her as a friend. You see, the entire time they were just friends, she was plotting to win him back...calling him multiple times a day, trying to run into him at different places...my husband was too blind to realize the non-innocence of sending her an e-mail here and there. It just made her think she had a chance...mind you, she was a crazy ex. Maybe it'd be okay for you and with your fiance to have exes present, but at my wedding I would never in a million years think of inviting exes or allowing them.

[AngelicAlwys]

If you and your ex have remainded friends and your fiance is okay with it, then go ahead and invite your ex. I am inviting my ex and he and my fiance are best friends. So as long as your fiance is okay with it, invite your ex.

[swelch]

Very Poor Taste. Do not even consider this.

[imgettnmarrried]

If its is really OKAY with your Fiancee, and he/she considers your ex to be both of you guys friend then cool, but if not, let it go. Also, If you are not sure of the feelings that an ex has for you, then its not okay to invite them, because although I am still friends with my ex's and have no feelings for them except friendship, they don't want to attend my wedding, they wish me all the luck in the world, but they don't wanna attend.

[szyq0719]

I say it is ok to invite your ex as long as your Fiance is comfortable with it. I could see if you and your ex split up within the last few years, but 10 years is enough time to have moved on and gotten rid of those feelings. If your fiance and friend have met and get along, I see no problems what so ever. If people talk about the ex that was invited and showed up at your wedding, who cares...it was 10 years ago and most important it is your and your fiance's day. Whoever you guys want to invite to celebrate with you is all that matters.

[KBrook]

Sarah,

My fiancee's ex wife will be attending our wedding. Her and I are close and I have no problem with her. Not to mention we need her there to take the two girls home with her while we go onto the honeymoon. My family will be like a lot of the women on here about it. They won't think it is appropiate. That it is in "bad taste." However, it is my wedding day and I want her there then she will be there.

As long as your current sweetheart is okay with the high school sweetheart being there, then go for it. It's your day and well to . . . with anyone else. Enjoy your day. Congratulations by the way. I wish you the best of luck.

Kim

[luluvdon22]

why would it be ok to invite the ex's to your own ceremony?