Mom's in the picture now!

[hudsonbc]

My parent's divorced when I was a toddler; I consider my father as a part-time dad. He's there when times are good, that's it! When I told him I was getting married, he assumed he would be walking me down the aisle. I haven't told him yet, but I am going to have my mother walk me down the aisle! I chose this route because my stepfather is very much in my life and I love him dearly. I know my Dad is only a part-time dad, but he's in my life enough that I don't want to hurt his feelings. Do you think my decision is the right one?

[Mandisa]

I think that's a very good decision. Since you're having your mom walk you down the aisle and not your step dad, Your father shouldn't be hurt. He may feel a little upset at first but I think he'll understand.

[Karen1290]

Divorces are sticky!!

My parents divorced when I was very young as well ( I was 2). I married at 25 and my grandfather who was the father figure in my life had passed away prior to my wedding date. I did however have another father figure who I love dearly (my best friends dad). I had read that one of the Kennedy dauthers took the aisle by herself since her father had passed on and I felt that I was strong enough woman to do this as well. Thru much discussion with my mother, I chose to take the aisle alone. My mother told me that since the Kennedy daughter could do it, this I sure could too.

Mom met me and my soon to be husband at the front of the church and gave me away. My father was no part of that, he was not a part of my life then so why should he be a part of it now when that day was all about my husband and I.

Of course the knees were weak but I did it! This was a neat feeling and my stood by me proudly.

Good luck on your decisions and best wishes!

[Floridacouple]

That is a Tough Decision being that I am a single father. I would feel that if I had a daughter and was divorce, I wouldn't blame her for the divorce there for I would also feel that she shouldnt blame me. Its traditional that the Father escort the bride. It would look very embarassing to the Father. Now if he was some alcoholic and didn't provide support and stuff then I would understand having hurt feelings towards that and not wanting him to do that, if that is the case then dont invite him at all but if you are going to have him there at the wedding based on what you provided, I would think it would be more appropriate to have him walk you down the aisle. That is something a father looks forward too in a way. Its totally up to you but just my feelings, I would be hurt.

[Kim&Jared]

here's another option that you might what to consider. Let both your father and Step-father give you away together. this way it's still traditional, and no one gets hurt. I think this is what i would do if i were in this situation, but it's your day and do what you feel is best.

Good luck!

[christina_rivard]

My parent's divorced when I was a toddler; I consider my father as a part-time dad. He's there when times are good, that's it! When I told him I was getting married, he assumed he would be walking me down the aisle. I haven't told him yet, but I am going to have my mother walk me down the aisle! I chose this route because my stepfather is very much in my life and I love him dearly. I know my Dad is only a part-time dad, but he's in my life enough that I don't want to hurt his feelings. Do you think my decision is the right one?

I think you should do what makes you feel comfortable. I would suggest closing your eyes and imagine yourself walking down the aisle and think of who you want by your side. It is probably a good idea to tell your part time dad soon. Of course his feelings will be hurt but, you are not getting married to please other people. It is going to be your day, be strong. :)