crewgirl96
12-09-2003, 07:12 AM
I have to give you a little background on my family. We're a huge traditional Italian family that has the huge weddings with no expenses spared. My parents had a 240 packed wedding and paid for by their parents. All of my cousins in my generation have all had the same weddings with help from the parents as in tradition. Well now I have finally gotten engaged and my parents seemed happy about it. But on the night after it happened my mom told me not to expect my father to help me at all with this wedding. I was a little taken back from that, only becuase in my family it's been a tradition all threw the years, even for them. I'm the kind of person that never asks my father for anything, he did help me slightly with college, but that was only paying the interest on my loan which was minimal, and he also offered. He has not offered any kind of help at all to me or my fiance and we need to start planning soon. I feel as if he is not giving me his blessing at all and I'm really upset by it, because it's not like he doesn't have the money, in fact he has more than enough. My fiance's parents are also deceased. So I would think that my parents would at least step up and try to help a little. We can still have a wedding on our own, but it's not going to be as big as we would of wanted it since we refuse to go in a 20K hole for a wedding. But my family is the type that looks for the big gala, and will immediate start gossiping behind your back if you are cheap on certain things. So I'm just feeling alot of pressure from that and am upset that my own father is just not willing to help. Upset enough not to want to do a father daughter dance, or even have him walk me down the aisle. I refuse to lower my pride and ask him for help since I don't even think that's proper to ask for handouts. I feel that he should be the one offering if he is. I realize that many people do not get help with their weddings, but in my family it's just tradition, and one that I'm being completely ingnored from and it hurts alot.