Honeymoon or Not?

[Kikki]

Anyone here not going on a honeymoon? And why not?



I don't think we will, because we invited more people to the wedding, instead of putting the money into the honeymoon. We didn't want to make anyone upset or dissapointed that they were'nt invited to the wedding. Is that stupid?

[Kelly1Mickey]

Anyone here not going on a honeymoon? And why not?



I don't think we will, because we invited more people to the wedding, instead of putting the money into the honeymoon. We didn't want to make anyone upset or dissapointed that they were'nt invited to the wedding. Is that stupid?

No, I don't think it is stupid. You want the people that mean the most to you at your wedding. I think it is incredibly gracious of you to give up your honeymoon to be able to invite more guests!

You could always go on one later after the dust has settled and you have a chance to save the money for it.

[Lacey]

I don't think that there is anything wrong with that at all. Having a wedding is all about prioritizing. It was more important to you to have a bigger wedding to spend time with your guests. Some people would rather have something smaller and a lavish honeymoon. What is the saying around here....do what you want, right? You could still go on your real honeymoon as a first anniversary gift to each other. Or, you coul djust take a long weekend right after the wedding and go into hiding to decompress from all this work.

[Kikki]

I don't think that there is anything wrong with that at all. Having a wedding is all about prioritizing. It was more important to you to have a bigger wedding to spend time with your guests. Some people would rather have something smaller and a lavish honeymoon. What is the saying around here....do what you want, right? You could still go on your real honeymoon as a first anniversary gift to each other. Or, you coul djust take a long weekend right after the wedding and go into hiding to decompress from all this work.

Yes, that was something else we considered. Maybe just going down town san diego for a few nights. Jamaica sounded so nice though! We also have 8k in dept because he spent too much on his sports car, so he said that we can do better things with our money like get out of dept than a honeymoon. The honeymoon is important to me, and I kinda feel that he spent all this money on his car when I told him not to, and I feel like he got all the car parts, and I got no honeymoon. Is that bad that I feel that way?

[Lacey]

Yes, that was something else we considered. Maybe just going down town san diego for a few nights. Jamaica sounded so nice though! We also have 8k in dept because he spent too much on his sports car, so he said that we can do better things with our money like get out of dept than a honeymoon. The honeymoon is important to me, and I kinda feel that he spent all this money on his car when I told him not to, and I feel like he got all the car parts, and I got no honeymoon. Is that bad that I feel that way?

That kinda sucks that he did that! Especially with a wedding and honeymoon to pay for. So no don't feel bad. I would tell him that too. But I would make sure his butt took me to Jamacia as an anniversary gift if he ever wanted a moment of married peace again in his life. :D Your wedding is also 10 months away, you could still come up with something if you saved a little more. How about a honeymoon registry? I know www.weddingchannel.com has one that breaks down you airline tickets and everything so guests can chip in. That coupled with a little extra penny pinching could land you a week in Jamaica.

[Shanny]

I think the honeymoon registry is a great idea as well. You could also just ask for a few gifts but mostly cash, you can put the money in a savings account that is only reserved for your future honeymoon. Make a goal to take your official honeymoon on maybe your first or second anniversary (depending on your finances).

P.S. Kudos to you for choosing to not allow anyone to feel left out of the wedding instead of taking a well deserved honeymoon, you are a much better person than I!

[Kelly1Mickey]

Yes, that was something else we considered. Maybe just going down town san diego for a few nights. Jamaica sounded so nice though! We also have 8k in dept because he spent too much on his sports car, so he said that we can do better things with our money like get out of dept than a honeymoon. The honeymoon is important to me, and I kinda feel that he spent all this money on his car when I told him not to, and I feel like he got all the car parts, and I got no honeymoon. Is that bad that I feel that way?

I would feel bad too. Have you told him how you feel? He may not even realize how selfish he acted...guys can be kind of oblivious sometimes.

[Jen062406]

Anyone here not going on a honeymoon? And why not?



I don't think we will, because we invited more people to the wedding, instead of putting the money into the honeymoon. We didn't want to make anyone upset or dissapointed that they were'nt invited to the wedding. Is that stupid?

I don't think it's stupid at all. We're getting married in June and might wait until Nov. or Dec. to have our honeymoon..that way we can go somewhere warm and really enjoy it. Also we'll have time to save up for a nice honeymoon too. After our wedding we are thinking about going and staying somewhere nice and just relaxing for a couple days. Who knows, by the time Dec. rolls around we might just keep the money in our savings and put it down on a house. You can always vacation some other time. :)

[Kikki]

I thought about that! We need a lot of housing stuff though, and when I say a lot, I mean EVERYTHING!!! We're trying to buy a house as well here in San Diego, so it's hard. It's like what is priority and on top of our list. I think about this: we want to buy a house, is 3k gonna make or break us, I don't think so, would that 3k be better going into his cc debt, prob, but he put that money into his car, can I get enough time off work, why the heck not, it's our honeymoon!

I think a honeymoon is very important, especially since we are the type of people who very much enjoy our time away with each other and away from the world. Most people do, but we really do! I don't know, we will have to see if we go on one or not. I didn't think I was being unreasonable though when I said I wanted to go on one.

[Lacey]

Trust me, $3000 isn't going to make or break you when it comes to buying the house. But that credit card debt will. You live in a very expensive houseing market. You need anything that you can to help with those interest rates and house payment. You don't want to be still paying an your mortgage when you are 65. Pay off the credit cards and have the big wedding. I am so happy that I paid off all of my cards and that Sean had a good head on his shoulders and never abused his in college. No or vey low cc debt rocks!!! Beat him with the car parts if he spends another nickle! And start a little honeymoon fund. Figure out your expenses to get money save for the house, llive your lives, and get the cc's paid off before you start to finance that dream home. What is left over goes in the honeymoon fund. For your one year annivesary work within the fund limits and go on a great honeymoon/anniversary gift. And seriously, beat him about the head and body if he even thinks of buying a bottle of Windex for that car!

[Lacey]

Trust me, $3000 isn't going to make or break you when it comes to buying the house. But that credit card debt will. You live in a very expensive houseing market. You need anything that you can to help with those interest rates and house payment. You don't want to be still paying an your mortgage when you are 65. Pay off the credit cards and have the big wedding. I am so happy that I paid off all of my cards and that Sean had a good head on his shoulders and never abused his in college. No or vey low cc debt rocks!!! Beat him with the car parts if he spends another nickle! And start a little honeymoon fund. Figure out your expenses to get money save for the house, llive your lives, and get the cc's paid off before you start to finance that dream home. What is left over goes in the honeymoon fund. For your one year annivesary work within the fund limits and go on a great honeymoon/anniversary gift. And seriously, beat him about the head and body if he even thinks of buying a bottle of Windex for that car!

Holy hell! When did I turn into my mother!!!!!!!! :eek:

[SarahK]

I don't think its stupid at all, however, this is one issue that Jimmy and I will not budge on. We absolutely will not sacrifice having a honeymoon after the wedding. We both think its very important to have that time to unwind, to revel in being husband and wife, and just to be away on an extended holiday to celebrate your love. We want to go somewhere in the carribean or mexico, but even if we couldn't afford what we wanted, we would at least go somewhere for a week. Anywhere... just to be together and celebrate ourselves.

[AmberE]

I don't think its stupid at all, however, this is one issue that Jimmy and I will not budge on. We absolutely will not sacrifice having a honeymoon after the wedding. We both think its very important to have that time to unwind, to revel in being husband and wife, and just to be away on an extended holiday to celebrate your love. We want to go somewhere in the carribean or mexico, but even if we couldn't afford what we wanted, we would at least go somewhere for a week. Anywhere... just to be together and celebrate ourselves.

Exactly, I think its important that you take the time to enjoy being husband and wife together in a relaxing enviroment away from the stress of your hoem lives. Tommy and I have been discussing our honeymoon, and as of right now we can't afford much so we're just going to stay somewhere in Flordia for a couple of days and enjoy our time alone as husband and wife. Tommy and I have not had any alone time since I moved here to WA so we're going to get some one way or another! It will not be the honeymoon I have always dreamed of but thats ok, as long as we get something! We can always go on a cruise or something extravagant when we have money to spend on it. Right now our priorties are getting married, buying a house and having a baby, and making the lives of our children better then ours were as kids. Sometime in between all that we'll get a really nice honeymoon I am sure :)

[Kikki]

Thanks ladies for the advise. I've been getting different opinions which makes it hard. Patrick now says yes to the honeymoon, but it isn't a yes till I book it!

[Shanny]

Maybe you could try finding a honeymoon for less. Maybe go for 5 nights instead of 7. If you are going immediately after the wedding in July, there should be some pretty good deals to tropical destinations because it is low season. I would check out cheapcaribbean.com and stay closer to home (i.e. Cabo San Lucas or other Pacific Mexico destinations).

[Kikki]

Maybe you could try finding a honeymoon for less. Maybe go for 5 nights instead of 7. If you are going immediately after the wedding in July, there should be some pretty good deals to tropical destinations because it is low season. I would check out cheapcaribbean.com and stay closer to home (i.e. Cabo San Lucas or other Pacific Mexico destinations).

That's funny you say that, cause that's what I did! Dunns River in Jamaica, 55% off right now for early booking, 6 nights...around 3.5k
That's our price range too for the honeymoon. I think we are going to do it, cause it wont make or break us. It's less than 1 months pay, so why the heck not!

[Lacey]

Is Dunn's River a Sandals Resort? We are definately going to the Sandals route, the service and hotel and perfect. Besides that you know exactly what everything is going to cost you. (No surprise $150 bar tabs at the end of the night - don't laugh it happened to us in Vegas). We are going ot the one in the Bahamas though.

I am so happy that you are getting your honeymoon right after your wedding. You seemed really heart broken about it. $3500 really isn't that much for a week in paradise with your new hubby.

[Elaine]

We had to reorganize our budget and timing a little to allow for more guests too. But we just postponed the honeymoon to Christmas-time instead of cancelling it outright.

I think a honeymoon is important. I'm glad you're doing one.

[alley06]

Even if it comes down to it and you cannot take your dream honeymoon now, you could always just get away for a few days somewhere in your area and then save up next year and go for your first anniversary.

[Kikki]

Is Dunn's River a Sandals Resort? We are definately going to the Sandals route, the service and hotel and perfect. Besides that you know exactly what everything is going to cost you. (No surprise $150 bar tabs at the end of the night - don't laugh it happened to us in Vegas). We are going ot the one in the Bahamas though.

I am so happy that you are getting your honeymoon right after your wedding. You seemed really heart broken about it. $3500 really isn't that much for a week in paradise with your new hubby.

Hey Lacey-
Yeah Dunn's River is a Sandals. CHeck it out, cause the sale is huge. They usually have sales, but never this big! I went to this online travel adjency place...www.unforgettablehoneymoons.com. Kate Lamb was the ladies name got back to me within the same day and started planning my honeymoon. IT was awesome, this lady knew everything about everywhere and she makes sure all your plans and accomidations are done so that you have nothing to do but decide where you want and how much. This place is also included alcholic and non-alcholic beverages! I love!!! I'm going to book it soon, so if you have any questions just ask. It will only cost us around 3-3.5k. Not bad for 6 nights in the Bahamas :D

[Shanny]

I am so happy that you decided to go!! You can't go wrong with a Sandals Resort either! They cater to honeymooners and they are super-inclusive! :)

[apetties]

We are on a tight budget as well but I was not giving up our honeymoon. We both rarely take vacations and go somewhere so we were not giving up the honeymoon. Although, my guest list was more than I had anticipated & from the looks of it people will actually be r.s.v.p that they are attending. So, what I did was gave up some thing in some other areas to accomdate for my extra guest list. Instead of having a soloist/pianst sing live the my songs I picked. I will have all my songs on CD and my nephew will be playing the music behind the scenes. The saved me about $800.00. I may be giving up chair covers @ $5.50 per chair; although, they are gorgeous but I could live with their chairs. Their chairs does not match but the table linen will. So, I may give that up. My FH thinks the chair covers are not necessary anyway and he said that from the beginning but I wanted them but due to my guest list I probably won't. Their chairs are nice but the covers looks elegant but oh, well.

I was not giving up my Dove Release. So, I found other areas that I could live with out and still have the wedding of my dreams & my honeymoon. We are doing a Sandals honeymoon as well - we will be in Ocho Rios, Jamica for 7 nts. and it costing about $3,400 with about 3 execursion.

We did a honeymoon registry but our honeymoon will be paid for in Feb. from our X-Mas club savings. So, nobody is getting any X-Mas presents. My son will be getting $200.00 & that's it.

So, if need be find ways to cut some cuts in areas you can live with to still have your honeymoon.

Good luck

[Kikki]

We are on a tight budget as well but I was not giving up our honeymoon. We both rarely take vacations and go somewhere so we were not giving up the honeymoon. Although, my guest list was more than I had anticipated & from the looks of it people will actually be r.s.v.p that they are attending. So, what I did was gave up some thing in some other areas to accomdate for my extra guest list. Instead of having a soloist/pianst sing live the my songs I picked. I will have all my songs on CD and my nephew will be playing the music behind the scenes. The saved me about $800.00. I may be giving up chair covers @ $5.50 per chair; although, they are gorgeous but I could live with their chairs. Their chairs does not match but the table linen will. So, I may give that up. My FH thinks the chair covers are not necessary anyway and he said that from the beginning but I wanted them but due to my guest list I probably won't. Their chairs are nice but the covers looks elegant but oh, well.

I was not giving up my Dove Release. So, I found other areas that I could live with out and still have the wedding of my dreams & my honeymoon. We are doing a Sandals honeymoon as well - we will be in Ocho Rios, Jamica for 7 nts. and it costing about $3,400 with about 3 execursion.

We did a honeymoon registry but our honeymoon will be paid for in Feb. from our X-Mas club savings. So, nobody is getting any X-Mas presents. My son will be getting $200.00 & that's it.

So, if need be find ways to cut some cuts in areas you can live with to still have your honeymoon.

Good luck

Yup!!! Sounds about right :D We did the same, cut down in areas we didn't really need, like the upgrades. I'm going to book the one at Dunn's River. Which one are you going to?

[Kikki]

I am so happy that you decided to go!! You can't go wrong with a Sandals Resort either! They cater to honeymooners and they are super-inclusive! :)

I've heard so many good things about them. Have you been to one of their resorts?

[Lacey]

Hey Lacey-
Yeah Dunn's River is a Sandals. CHeck it out, cause the sale is huge. They usually have sales, but never this big! I went to this online travel adjency place...www.unforgettablehoneymoons.com. Kate Lamb was the ladies name got back to me within the same day and started planning my honeymoon. IT was awesome, this lady knew everything about everywhere and she makes sure all your plans and accomidations are done so that you have nothing to do but decide where you want and how much. This place is also included alcholic and non-alcholic beverages! I love!!! I'm going to book it soon, so if you have any questions just ask. It will only cost us around 3-3.5k. Not bad for 6 nights in the Bahamas :D

We already know that we want to stay at the Royal Bahamian. It just looks so relaxing. We are booking at the end of this month. I am waiting for Sean to finish adding up some airline miles. We used up a ton when we went to Key West this past spring so we needed to refill. But with his recent or upcoming trips to San Franciso, Orlando, Deitroit, and New York we should be good to go. We are looking at spending about $4000. But it is the only honeymoon that we get so it will be worth every penny. And hopefully the sedative will wear off enough that I will be able to enjoy the first day there. God I HATE flying!!!

[Kikki]

We already know that we want to stay at the Royal Bahamian. It just looks so relaxing. We are booking at the end of this month. I am waiting for Sean to finish adding up some airline miles. We used up a ton when we went to Key West this past spring so we needed to refill. But with his recent or upcoming trips to San Franciso, Orlando, Deitroit, and New York we should be good to go. We are looking at spending about $4000. But it is the only honeymoon that we get so it will be worth every penny. And hopefully the sedative will wear off enough that I will be able to enjoy the first day there. God I HATE flying!!!

That's a long flight to hear that you hate flying. My mom hates flying, so I know what your feeling. Maybe get a red eye so you can fall asleep :D To tell you the truth, having a honeymoon around 4k means you did your homework! 4k is not too much and not too little when it comes to a honeymoon! Nice that you have air miles, every bit helps! Good Luck and have fun. Good Luck with the flying part. I love to fly so I can't give you any advice but to go to sleep or have sex in the bathroom. My FH has always wanted to do that...men.

[Lacey]

That's a long flight to hear that you hate flying. My mom hates flying, so I know what your feeling. Maybe get a red eye so you can fall asleep :D To tell you the truth, having a honeymoon around 4k means you did your homework! 4k is not too much and not too little when it comes to a honeymoon! Nice that you have air miles, every bit helps! Good Luck and have fun. Good Luck with the flying part. I love to fly so I can't give you any advice but to go to sleep or have sex in the bathroom. My FH has always wanted to do that...men.

Actually the flight from Pittsburgh to the Bahamas via Charlotte is only like 3 hours with a layover. So it isn't that bad at all. The worst are the little 45-90 minute flights where I can't take anything to help me relax. My dad is the same way, he hates flying to Chicago and New York but flying to Afghanistan or New Zealand wasn't that bad for him because he just kepts popping something and going back to sleep.

[Kelly1Mickey]

James hates to fly too. He got a prescription for valium when we flew out to California. When we flew to Indiana to visit his family, we didn't bother getting the valium because we figured he could manage it. We had a layover in Atlanta and he got sick when we got off the plane. So from now on, no matter where we fly, he will be sedated!

We turned down a gift to go to Hawaii for our honeymoon because of his fear of flying. I didn't want him to have the stress of the wedding muliplied by the stress of the flight the very next day.

[Kikki]

It's official!!!!!!!!!!!! We booked our honeymoon! 3,614.00 for a Jamaican Honeymoon...not bad! We're going to a Couples Resort, Ocho Rios, all Inclusive! I'm so excited that we decided to do a honeymoon. Thanks Girls for all your input and advice! :D :D :D

If anyone wants to book a honeymoon, I have a great travel agent that booked mine. She was so awesome and she worked till 2am in the morning helping me online. She and I worked over the phone and through email. I recomend her because she found the best deals, gave me a lot of insights, and helped me find the place that would cater to what we were looking for in a honeymoon. Even though Couples Resorts early booking ended on Sept 30th, she still got us those prices. She was awesome and such a joy to work with. I was having so many problems finding places on line and keeping them seperated of which one was which but she did that all for me...and NO CHARGE!!!!!! I started looking into the honeymoon 2 weeks ago, and then today we booked it. She was very fast, and always got back to me within 5 minutes-24 hours. If any one wants her number, just give me a holler, and I'll give it to you.

[kl_life]

We were married Oct. 1, 04 and never had a honeymoon - mainly because we were planning a larger traditional wedding to renew our vows later. Now we are planning for our renewal for July 1, 06.
We had always talked about going somewhere such as a sandals resort however that is scratched now, maybe for a anniversary gift down the road or something.
So we decided that once we get back from the wedding - we are gonna work work work and save save save as much money as we possibly can - and go to Europe. He has already been there 2 or 3 times when he was young and has family there he would like me to meet. I think it's gonna be sooo much fun I can't wait.
Of course the sandals resort would be great - I definately wanna take the time to go to Europe now in case we don't later after we decide to have kids. Im sure those are gonna follow relatively soon after the honeymoon. :D

[TOTO]

When it comes to saving money, I found something that helps. If the money is in my checking account, I'm likely to spend it. ;) But if it is in a savings account that gets interest, I have to need it for something important such as a new furnace before I will withdraw it. I talked to a Financial Advisor and it really didn't cost me much at all. He set it up so that a certain amount is automatically withdrawn from my checking account each month on the date that I want. I made it right after my paycheck comes so that I barely even know it was there. Just another thought for anyone struggling to save something extra.