Tatooed bridesmaid

[Cheryl]

My older sister is most likely going to be my matron of honor but I have two ugly problems: her two ugly, huge tatoos on her upper back. I do not want them showing at all during the reception or ceremony but the one comes up pretty high. The only problem is that I don't want the girls (5 of them) covered like nuns or old women, since they range in the ages of 21-23 (in 2 yrs. when the wedding is). Does anyone have suggestions on a dress style that could help me out? Thanks
Cheryl

[Dandalion]

Hey!
I think it would be fine to have your sister wear a different top than the other girls since she is the matron of honor. If that isn't an option, suggest to her that she wear cover-up (they make the kind that covers anything) so that all of your girls look the same. Another idea is a wrap all of your girls could wear. Most dresses have a matching wrap.
Hope this helps!
Smiles,
Amanda

[bronzedoll]

Not to be rude and tout another site her but if you go to theknot.com and visit their store they have a tatoo cover that works great.

[FinallyPlanning]

try the tattoo cover kits i hear they really work.

[MrsBogie2B]

This may be a dumb question...but how do the tatoo cover sheets work exactly? I'm so glad that I read this because it reminded me that one of my bridesmaids has a huge butterfly on her upper back. How do I address this situation with her? I dont want to offend her. Thanks in advance for your advice. :)

[reecey]

If you don't want to offend her, just say that there will be a lot of elderly people there that are stuck in their ways and really conservative, or say that the church would prefer that they be covered. Be sympathetic, etc. The tattoo covers really do work - another option would be to have her wear a pashmina or wrap that matches the dress.

[nmb082005]

A wrap would work great durring the ceremony but I don't think you could convince her to wear it throughout the entire reception, it could get difficult to dance and have a good time trying to hold a wrap up all night. Although I do not know exactly how they work being that I have never used one I have heard that the tattoo kits work pretty good. Just realize that the tattoos are a part of her and a part of who she is, so when asking her to cover up be careful in what you say because if you tell her the real reason why you want them covered up (just because they are big and ugly) she could take offence at this and feel as if you are rejecting her being that they are a part of who she is.

[Yodabean]

I am glad you posted this. I had no idea they made tatoo cover up kits. Anyone know where to buy these? I knew you could try to cover them up with just makeup and stuff but if this kit works better I am going to maybe try it. I have a little butterfly on my back sholder (stupid turning 18 choice I made!) One of my bridesmaids also has a butterfly tatoo on the same sholder mine is on. We have talked about options on what to do. We were kinda thinking it would be funny if the other 3 girls in my wedding party all put on fake butterfly tatoos on the same sholder so we all matched but that was more of a funny kidding around idea we were putting up in the air cause I don't think everyone would see our humor in it.

As far as for your MOH I think you should bring up the cover up kit to her and see what she thinks. If she is upset with you asking her to cover them up then I guess you need to decide if it really bothers you that much if they are showing. I don't think she would be upset, I wouldn't if someone asked me but I also don't care for the thing anyways.

[nmb082005]

I know some bridal shops cary or can order the cover up kits, somone else mentiones that theknot.com has a kit and I'm sure other bridal websites would carry them as well

[cl_peterson]

Instead of a wrap, something like this:

http://store.nordstrom.com/product/product.asp?StyleID=2863230&Search=True&SearchType=keywordsearch&keyword=bolero+%3E+In+All+Categories

A cropped sweater or bolero would be comfortable and they are popular right now so you should be able to find them in many different kinds of fabric and colors.

[reecey]

I am glad you posted this. I had no idea they made tatoo cover up kits. Anyone know where to buy these? I knew you could try to cover them up with just makeup and stuff but if this kit works better I am going to maybe try it. I have a little butterfly on my back sholder (stupid turning 18 choice I made!) One of my bridesmaids also has a butterfly tatoo on the same sholder mine is on. We have talked about options on what to do. We were kinda thinking it would be funny if the other 3 girls in my wedding party all put on fake butterfly tatoos on the same sholder so we all matched but that was more of a funny kidding around idea we were putting up in the air cause I don't think everyone would see our humor in it.

As far as for your MOH I think you should bring up the cover up kit to her and see what she thinks. If she is upset with you asking her to cover them up then I guess you need to decide if it really bothers you that much if they are showing. I don't think she would be upset, I wouldn't if someone asked me but I also don't care for the thing anyways.


this is the best price I've seen on the ones I've actually seen work
http://www.bridesave.com/search/index.cfm?action=details&product_id=cvtattookit

[maybride]

I have a tattoo on my right shoulder too. It is not that big and I rarely even think of it anymore. I am playing with the idea of covering mine for the wedding day, but it is a part of who I am. I have been true to the real me while planning this whole event, so I don't think it will bother me that much with it showing. I do think my MIL would prefer I cover it, so I may do it for her and my grandmother.
As for your MOH, I wouldn't address it at all. I would simply have her wear a different dress because of her status as a MOH. I know a girl who has tattoos all over both of her shoulders and when we attended a ball last year, she was very uncomfortable about them. I would hate for your MOH to feel that way on the day she is most proud to be standing up for you. Help her choose her dress and she will most likely pick something that will cover them. If she doesn't, explain to her that you think they will distract people from looking at you and you want ALL the attention that day. It sounds better than you being embarassed by her tattoos. I hope this was helpful.

[Kelly1Mickey]

I have a tattoo on my right shoulder too. It is not that big and I rarely even think of it anymore. I am playing with the idea of covering mine for the wedding day, but it is a part of who I am. I have been true to the real me while planning this whole event, so I don't think it will bother me that much with it showing. I do think my MIL would prefer I cover it, so I may do it for her and my grandmother.
As for your MOH, I wouldn't address it at all. I would simply have her wear a different dress because of her status as a MOH. I know a girl who has tattoos all over both of her shoulders and when we attended a ball last year, she was very uncomfortable about them. I would hate for your MOH to feel that way on the day she is most proud to be standing up for you. Help her choose her dress and she will most likely pick something that will cover them. If she doesn't, explain to her that you think they will distract people from looking at you and you want ALL the attention that day. It sounds better than you being embarassed by her tattoos. I hope this was helpful.

I completely agree with you that tattoos are a part of the person that has them. BUT, the 'real' me, wears minimal make-up, jeans and t-shirts, and relaxed hair styles (and the tattoo). And I would like the think so far my wedding represents the 'real' me. But I won't be in the jeans and t-shirts, etc. Get where I am going with this? As beautiful as tattos are, they are 'casual' in a sense. And your wedding day is anything but casual.

[Lizzerd217]

I completely agree with you that tattoos are a part of the person that has them. BUT, the 'real' me, wears minimal make-up, jeans and t-shirts, and relaxed hair styles (and the tattoo). And I would like the think so far my wedding represents the 'real' me. But I won't be in the jeans and t-shirts, etc. Get where I am going with this? As beautiful as tattos are, they are 'casual' in a sense. And your wedding day is anything but casual.

I totally agree with you. Weddings aren't casual and tattoos are. Two of my friends have tattoos are on their upper arm and since I'm having a summer wedding the tattoos will be showing. So i'm definately going to ask them to put make-up on them. i have no problem asking them. When it comes to their wedding I'll do anything they ask.

[reecey]

I totally agree with you. Weddings aren't casual and tattoos are. Two of my friends have tattoos are on their upper arm and since I'm having a summer wedding the tattoos will be showing. So i'm definately going to ask them to put make-up on them. i have no problem asking them. When it comes to their wedding I'll do anything they ask.


I think its really up to the bride and groom to see what they want. I know there are a couple of people here that are proudly sharing their tattoos in their wedding and I admire that. Its about how comfortable the bride and groom are with the situation, in my opinion :)

[esp1087]

I think its really up to the bride and groom to see what they want. I know there are a couple of people here that are proudly sharing their tattoos in their wedding and I admire that. Its about how comfortable the bride and groom are with the situation, in my opinion :)
Absolutely! One of my bridesmaids has a dolphin tattooed on her shoulder blade. She even asked me if it was bother me if it showed, and honestly, it won't. As long as it doesn't bother her, it doesn't bother me. :)

[Lizzerd217]

Absolutely! One of my bridesmaids has a dolphin tattooed on her shoulder blade. She even asked me if it was bother me if it showed, and honestly, it won't. As long as it doesn't bother her, it doesn't bother me. :)

A dolphin is cute, but what if it's something not so cute. what if it's big and not very nice looking.

[esp1087]

A dolphin is cute, but what if it's something not so cute. what if it's big and not very nice looking.
Honestly, I don't think that would bother me either. Everyone has different comfort levels though.

[SusanM18]

I agree, everyone's tolerance and comfort levels are different. I personally am not at all offended by tattoos, and I don't think anyone in my family is either. My uncle is sleeved on both arms pretty much, and at a wedding, he always wears long sleeves, but everyone knows he is sleeved, and no one relaly cares. My grandparents have even become accusomed to it. I wouldn't want someone with a tattoo that said..."F*c* marriage" or something, but whether or not I think it's tasteful is really not relevent, it's their body and I am not asking them to be in my wedding based on their body art.

That said, if they want to cover it, I won't object to that either.