how did you know?

[Marsha]

how did you know he was the right one? what made him stand apart from all the other fish in the sea?

[Debbie]

The way he treats me and makes me feel about myself ;)

[anababy1]

I knew that my guy was the right one because he always has been.. we have been best friends for 11 years and tried the relationship thing before about four years ago and it didnt work out.. needles to say..we have never stopped loving oneanother..and now i am getting married to my best friend...the perfect fit

[Kelly1Mickey]

Nobody had ever made me feel as beautiful and special as he does. And nobody has ever inspired me so much to make the most of myself.

Plus, he acts just as stupid as I do, so we can truly be ourselves with each other.

[SarahK]

how did you know he was the right one? what made him stand apart from all the other fish in the sea?

My situation was unique.. we were friends and I was involved with someone else. My FH told me that if I moved in the with the other guy that we wouldn't be able to be friends anymore because it would hurt him too badly. I said fine and that was it. I woke up the next morning and realized that the idea of living a day without him in my life was terrifying. Thats when I knew.

[kyzmit]

I knew Ryan was the one from the second we met... I was at the mall looking for things I would need to go to college. I went to the Original Cookie Company to get something to drink and this guy ***e and stood at the counter next to me and said "How'd you... Did you go to the Jamboree?... get that shirt?" was wearing a ***p Massaweepie boy scout shirt and a ostrich band as a thumb ring from the Boy Scout National Jamboree a year earlier. Turns out he's worked at the Jambo and thought he'd met all the "cute girls" there and had only seen the shirt I was wearing in display cases since it was from the 60s.

He was just too cute and I felt like I knew him from somewhere, so when he chased after me for my phone number, I gave it to him (I *never* do that normally). Turns out, his father and mine had been good friends for years and although he's sure we were never introduced, I'd probably seen him at a banquet or something... my bet is we had been introduced years earlier, but since I'd "developed" quite a bit recently, he had just thought of me as some kid at the time.

[SOM Z28]

Short story: I knew I had to keep him when he told me that he was considering a move back to MI to take a job working with one of his brothers. I knew when he said it that I couldn't live without him.

Long story: we met through a car group that I got into because of a guy I was seeing. He'd show up at parties I'd have and just chat with everyone, but kept a low profile. He'd show up at car meets and was always friendly and polite. But I never had a clue he was interested. After the relationship I was in went south, he called me up one night and we talked on the phone for ages and at some point, he very casually suggested we have dinner one night. It be***e apparent to me later that this 'dinner' was a date (I'm a little dense sometimes!). We went to dinner, but b/c my ex freaked out when he found out, I didn't see him again, and barely spoke to him. I was already dealing with a VERY unstable ex, and I didn't want to drag this great guy into it. It wasn't until 6 weeks later that I decided that I couldn't let the freak upset my whole life, and so I called my FH up and suggested we hang out. We were unseperable for a month, right up until I had to move. To hang with me, he put up with my ex calling him with threats and showing up at my house at all hours of the day and night making threats, calling other people who were mutual friends and telling horrible lies about me and my FH. And my FH never faltered. When I moved, he and I remained friends, although we didn't get to talk much the first couple of months I was here. After 7 months, he quit a job he'd had for almost 12 years and got a crappy paying job just to be near me. I wasn't interested in dating him...I was dealing with my own issues with the nutty ex and other stuff. But he was insistent, telling me that he was going to marry me (he told me this after our 1st date too!). He had said that when I was ready, all I had to do was say so and he'd buy me a ring. Well, it took me about 2 months to realize how stupid I'd been, and that I couldn't let him get away.

[Marsha]

i cant tell u all why its to embarressing. really it is

[lilone]

Quite honestly I near hated him at first but he's one of those guys that kinda grows on you.

After we be***e friends and started talking more I realized that he and I had been through a lot of the same things, abusive parents dishonest exes...all that jazz. So after much coaxing from a friend of ours we started dating and to answer the question I knew he was the one the day we started dating when I opened myself up to him and told him everything I had been through and instead of turning tail and running like all the other guys ever had he told me that I was still the same girl he wanted to date from the day he met me.

[Kikki]

I LOVE THIS POST!

I feel in love with my Fiance the night we met. I went to a 4th of July party, where I was just going to make my presence and leave, but 15 minutes into the party he walked in. I took one look at him, and turned to my mom and said "see that guy, he's my next boyfriend" We hit it off that night, and everyone at the party could see the sparks fly, and made several comments. The next day, I called my three girl friends and told them that I met someone special. After our first date, I knew he was the one, and that I would end up marrying him and spend my life with him. My mom and I think alot alike, and she always knows what's best for me, and we are extremely close. When he showed up to pick me up on our first date, my mom said "this man will change my daughters life" Boy was she right! I never believed in love at first sight, or knowing instantly that he was the one. And when they say, he will come when your not looking, so right! I had different plans in life before he ***e along, but after a week of being with him, my life was turning into the life I had always wished for myself. It is such a precious thing when you can find someone who wants the same things in life as you do, shares your morals, your lifestyle, and who ultimately compliments you in the ways that you have been striving for.

Just remember when you find that one person who compliments you, life is beautiful!

[Marsha]

i always live by the statement,

"you never know how somone is untill you spend a night with them"
and i dont mean sexually. i mean, you can usually tell a lot about a person when you take them away for a night.


where is reecy? and njgirl? hello? anyone out there?

[lilone]

i always live by the statement,

"you never know how somone is untill you spend a night with them"
and i dont mean sexually. i mean, you can usually tell a lot about a person when you take them away for a night.


where is reecy? and njgirl? hello? anyone out there?

I've been wondering the same thing. Did they go on vacation or just disappear off the face of the earth?

[SOM Z28]

i always live by the statement,

"you never know how somone is untill you spend a night with them"
and i dont mean sexually. i mean, you can usually tell a lot about a person when you take them away for a night.


where is reecy? and njgirl? hello? anyone out there?

Absolutely! Sex doesn't necessarily mean anything when it comes to knowing who you will spend your life with. I didn't have sex with my FH until after I agreed to marry him. It just never happened...we never felt the need to be all over each other when we dated, and after he followed me to FL, we didn't actually start dating again until after I agreed to marry him.

[Marsha]

lol thats funny after u said u would marry him. lol hey if it works for you then great!

i once was dating a guy and we went away for a mini holiday (down the street to the local hampton inn) and i was back the same night. he annoyed me so much at the point we had dated like for 3 months, he was like a little kid in a candy store and running all over the hotel like noone ever took him someplace as a kid. i dunno. anyway, i really had strong feelings for him untill this

[LHYQ051798]

I knew when their was a tornado warning in the city we both grew up in and he called me. He asked me if my mom was home and I told him that I was all alone with my sister who was 7 years old at the time. He told me that he would be right over. I kept telling him that he didn't have to. It was pouring down raining and it was dark. It seemed as if the tornado would hit any moment. He drove clear across town. When he arrived to my house, I knew that a man that was willing to go through a tornado for me, that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

Hey Marcia, where in Florida are you from?

[SarahK]

lol thats funny after u said u would marry him. lol hey if it works for you then great!

i once was dating a guy and we went away for a mini holiday (down the street to the local hampton inn) and i was back the same night. he annoyed me so much at the point we had dated like for 3 months, he was like a little kid in a candy store and running all over the hotel like noone ever took him someplace as a kid. i dunno. anyway, i really had strong feelings for him untill this

Betcha NYJerseyGirl is busy, busy, busy. Her renewal ceremony on the 25th. :D

[Marsha]

I knew when their was a tornado warning in the city we both grew up in and he called me. He asked me if my mom was home and I told him that I was all alone with my sister who was 7 years old at the time. He told me that he would be right over. I kept telling him that he didn't have to. It was pouring down raining and it was dark. It seemed as if the tornado would hit any moment. He drove clear across town. When he arrived to my house, I knew that a man that was willing to go through a tornado for me, that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

Hey Marcia, where in Florida are you from?



im in kissimmee/orlando area (8 miles from the money sucking rodent)

[ca_dawson]

Well, from the moment we met I felt sparks. I guess when I really knew was when I was 4 hours away in college. I got sick and had to go into the hospital. He dropped everything and ***e as soon as he found out. I guess when I was lying there in the hospital all alone, about to go into surgery, and didn't have anyone there with me, it put life into perspective and I didn't want to be without him. He left work and ***e to take care of me for a couple of weeks. We also drove the 4 hours to see each other every weekend from the time I left to the time I ***e back. We would just alternate weekends. He makes me feel beautiful and treats me so well. And his love for me is so intense. I know that this is what life's about and I couldn't be happier.

[kyzmit]

I knew when their was a tornado warning in the city we both grew up in and he called me. He asked me if my mom was home and I told him that I was all alone with my sister who was 7 years old at the time. He told me that he would be right over. I kept telling him that he didn't have to. It was pouring down raining and it was dark. It seemed as if the tornado would hit any moment. He drove clear across town. When he arrived to my house, I knew that a man that was willing to go through a tornado for me, that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

Hey Marcia, where in Florida are you from?

What a great guy! I hope after he got there you hugged him and then smacked him really hard for doing something so potentially dangerous!

[reecey]

I knew Michael was the right one the first day I actually spent with him. We used to hang out together in groups of mutual friends, etc. But then he ***e over to my house early one morning - I wasn't dressed, hair wasn't done, etc. We still weren't dating (and wouldn't be for a couple more years) Anyway - he was new to the area and we share a hobby of shooting sports. So instead of calling one of the guys he knew in the area, he called me to see if I could take him to the "best kept secret in town" - which is the local gunsmith. I guess it was just something to me that he would come to me instead of one of the guys heh. He didn't doubt my knowledge or abilities in something that is so "male oriented" = which usually happens around here with things like that. When you're at the shooting range and they ask where your husband is or where your dad is because you're a girl standing there (even though you're actually holding a shotgun) - or my favorite is when one guy actually asked me if I knew where the shells went in my shotgun. OH MY GOD. We went, spent the day together and just had a good time - I was completely smitten with him from the start. We just hung out as friends together for a long time. He had a girlfriend at the time - they were rocky but I never once even thought about trying to step on her toes. But something in me told me that it was going to work out someday. A long story short, it did work out and I was absolutely convinced on our first date, which was a hike out in the woods at the dunes on Lake Michigan. We've been inseparable ever since :)

[Lacey]

It took me a long time to realize that Sean was the one. I just figured he was going to be my summer fling that year while I was home from school. But, my mom got sick and I transfered to a local school so I kept seeing him. Then, about 6 months into our relationship, mom had to have surgery. (Nothing too major). I went to Sean's afterwards to stay over the weekend. He had made me an amazing dinner with candles and the whole works. He said that after spending 9 hours in the hospital I probably wouldn't have felt like cooking or going out. Unfortunately for him, I also had the stomach flu so that amazing meal didn't stay down for too long. But he took it in stride and went to the grocery store and drug store for "sick people supplies" When I finally ***e out of the bathroom he laughed and said "If you didn't like my cooking, you just had to say so. I would have ordered in. You didn't have to go to this extreme to make a point." I laughed as hard as one could with the stomach flu. I just realized that anyone that could make me laugh with the way I was feeling had to be a keeper. Fast forward almost five and half years... we are FINALLY getting married after living in sin for almost 4 years.

[kg4eoh]

I think i kind of always knew from the start. However, the longer we were together the more we realized how many times we had been close to meeting before we actually did. As we talked about our lives we realized we had been in the same places at the same time so many times. I guess we were just destined to meet and be together. Even found out later that my little sister's best friend (who practically lived at out house while we were growing up and my sister at hers) was his distant cousin and that he and my sister and her best friend had all been at family reunions together growing up.

[arishalom]

I knew that David was the right one when I fractured my collarbone and rotator cuff in 3 places in a martial arts tournament and he went to the hospital, cried when they were examining me and I shaking, took me home to his place and tucked me into his bed and he slept on the couch so as not to disturb the cast. It moved me how worried he was esp. when compared to my ex who when I had to have my appendix removed refused to come b/c his parent's garage sale was more important!!

[SusanM18]

I knew Chris was the one when we kept getting closer & closer & we both wanted to work on ourselves to be able to bring as much to the relationship as we could.
He just was perfect for me, he puts up with me, and laughs with me, and he's shy, but lets me talk for days & days.
I don't think it's one particular thing, I think it's everything, every fiber of my being just knew.

[chiefsgirl]

I think i kind of always knew from the start. However, the longer we were together the more we realized how many times we had been close to meeting before we actually did. As we talked about our lives we realized we had been in the same places at the same time so many times. I guess we were just destined to meet and be together. Even found out later that my little sister's best friend (who practically lived at out house while we were growing up and my sister at hers) was his distant cousin and that he and my sister and her best friend had all been at family reunions together growing up.


That is exactly the was it was for my FH and I. We were involved in many of the same activities and several times we were around each other but never actually met. From what he tells me now, he had been keeping his eye on me and finally got the nerve to ask me out. From the first date I knew we were supposed to be together. He is everything I didn't even know I wanted!

[Elaine]

how did you know he was the right one?

Well, we were set-up. I didn't have high hopes because I had so many bad blind dates. But we really clicked pretty quickly. On so many levels.

I kinda had a checklist of attributes (sense of humor, nice to kids and animals, good with money, similar political & social views, similar goals and timeline...) and he matched them all! (Seriously, I made a list of about ten things, narrowing it down to the key issues because I had been making some not so great relationship decisions pre-Ed).

It really is amazing. Even the little things click; it's weird sometimes, like we have the same brain. For example, we'll "nerd out" with our laptops at a coffee shop - we put them back to back like we're playing battleship. And at the same time we'll show each other something cool we found online and it will be the same thing!

We knew things were good from the start and we started talking about marriage pretty quickly. We are only 8 months in and already we're planning the wedding for our 1st year anniversary. It's just right and we just know. It's really a wonderful feeling.

-Elaine

[kg4eoh]

That is exactly the was it was for my FH and I. We were involved in many of the same activities and several times we were around each other but never actually met. From what he tells me now, he had been keeping his eye on me and finally got the nerve to ask me out. From the first date I knew we were supposed to be together. He is everything I didn't even know I wanted!


I agree, it is kind of like it was destined to be by fate...just took us longer to get there then we could have if we had just met a little earlier. I am just glad we finally did meet because I am so happy.

[Alexandra]

I knew he was the one when I couldnt even picture my self in a day dream with Brad Pitt, I just get butterflys everytime he looks at me or when he wakes up and looks so cute.. he is just so funny and nice.. I just know that my love for him is more than my need for him( he is in the AF always deployed)..it sad, but I love him, so much.

[Charo]

This post is great. I love reading everyone's experiences.

I'll add the short version of how I knew I was going to marry my fiance here: It was when I realized that this person made me want to stick around so that I could make sure he was happy and that his happiness was as important (if not more important) than mine. ;)

[lyndsaynicole]

This post is great. I love reading everyone's experiences.

I'll add the short version of how I knew I was going to marry my fiance here: It was when I realized that this person made me want to stick around so that I could make sure he was happy and that his happiness was as important (if not more important) than mine. ;)

Well, me and my man met in a strange way...on the internet. We met in October of 2000. I just happened to be online at 2am on a Saturday and in a chat room...which I had NEVER gone in before..that wasn't really my thing, but I was bored. He happened to be home from school that weekend and online at the same time-and in the same chat room, which was also something he never did. We sort of "bumped into" each other in the chat room and have been talking ever since. We hit it off so well. The only problem was that I was in Cleveland, Ohio and he was in Indiana. We grew to be great friends-long distance. Always calling each other, emailing each other, etc. And we had always said "man...if we just lived closer to each other...". Well, about a year and a half after talking for the very first time, we met in person. It was incredible. He ***e out to Cleveland to see me on spring break. That just made our relationship stronger. So, after two years of knowing each other, one of the weekends we were together we decided that the distance didn't matter and we were going to make it work because we couldn't be without each other. We dated long distance for five months and after that, we couldn't take being apart anymore, so we moved in together. I moved away from my family to be with this man. It's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. But I don't regret it at all. I love him more than anything and my family loves him and everyone has been very understanding. I remember one night on the phone before we started dating he said, "can you imagine if we got married? Man..that would be a story for our grandkids...".

Well, looks like it will be.... ;)

[Marsha]

i knew harry was for me when we were sitting on the couch and i farted like i was a truck driver. he just turned his head and looked at me like i was an alien. then burst out into the biggest belly laugh ive ever heard. we ended up haveing sex on the floor and after wards he said... baby, ill take u and your truck to bed with me any day! ( in a hillbilly voice) ok i know TMI but i thought it was funny and he dared me to write that to u all.

[Phoenix]

Travis and I met online, he msged me and after the first night we spoke, we hadnt even met yet, or spoken on the phone i knew he was the one. Just the way he made me feel.

[apetties]

I met my FH as a blind date through a mutual friend. I didn't want to do it I was the match maker not the matchee so it was weird for me at first. After talking to him several times on the phone and marking off my checklist. Yes, I really did have a checklist and he knew about because my girlfriend told him. He passed all but 1, he had more than my children requirements but his children are all grown so I decided to go out a date with him. We got along well from the very beginning. He's loving, considerate, caring everything that I didn't realized I wanted in a man. I knew he was for me when I opened up and he opened up and neither one of us changed it just got better and it gets better everday. I also knew he was the one when I couldn't stop thinking about him and even know the thought of him makes me smile.

[JenandTony]

Tony and I had been dating for about a month and a half and I was in this horrible play. It was the middle of December and the play had taken up all of my time and I wasn't able to see Tony at all. It really freaked me out how much I missed him...

One night after the show was over, I was leaving and getting into my car. It was snowy and slick, freezing and I was absolutely exausted. At this time, I had the bad habit of leaving my car unlocked, and Tony knew this. When I got to my car, there was a gorgeous bouquet of flowers and a note from Tony sitting on the driverside seat. He was encouraging me to get through the next few nights of the show and said that he couldn't wait to spend more time with me.

That was the first time I really thought that he could be the guy. By the end of the next month, we both knew.

[dgirl12]

I knew I was in trouble after the first date. He is just so honest and sweet. He makes me feel special and worth so much and he appreciates me in everyway. He has taken his time to show me how he feels and has gone out of his way to help me with my son. He isn't into games or drama and when we are together we laugh all the time. With him, I can be my true self, and I have never shown that to anyone. He is the first person I dated where I didn't have to worry about all the immature, petty issues that I dealt with before. He is what he is, and I am what I am, and we know this and love each other for it. I would never want to change him in any way, because if he was different, he wouldn't be him. That is how I knew.

[eca1027]

I knew Jason was the one the first day I met him. We met online, and spoke for weeks before actually meeting face-to-face for our first date! He had an interesting personality over the phone, but I wasn't really expecting it to go anywhere between us. When we officially met, he just blew me away. I'd never had anyone treat me so well!! We had this instant connection and chemistry and when he kissed me half way through our date, I knew! For weeks I told myself that he was too good to be true. I was just waiting for the skeleton to come out of the closet. But it never did! I didn't know that men still existed who had integrity and sincerity! He has never lied to me and all the little things that he did for me when we first started dating, he still continues to do just as much today! I love him!! :D

[brideinpa]

Brian and I spent a summer working together at a hospital through a Clinical Pastoral Education session. At the end of the summer, we had to say goodbye to each other. Literally, that was an exercise. One by one we had to say goodbye to each member of the group. When it was Brian's turn to say goodbye to me, he said "I just know this isn't really goodbye and we will see a lot of each other." Now as he keeps reminding me, I know that did not have to mean marriage, but I knew then that I could not really say goodbye to him. I thought after his comment "this is the man I'm going to marry." It took another year and about 4 months til we actually began dating, but I knew from that moment that I could not live without him. :)

[DNM1010]

well i think i knew nick was the one long before i admitted it to myself.

in high school he stole one of my little cereal box stuffed animals... and he kept it.. his mom thinks he always loved me even though he was in a 7 yr rship. also, he has a lot of photos from the art class we were in together in high school... and most of them are of me.

everytime i used to go into a shoe store i used to think of nick cos he has really enormous feet. hes tall (6'6) and is a size 18 shoe. i knew that in high school so when i used to go to finishline or footlocker i used to see the really big shoes (size 15) and i used to think- i know a guy named nick who has big feet. lol

then i was seing someone and nick and i had become best friends. we were in the car and i was just joking and i said something and nick understood me- we were on the same page- it was some joke or something but nick understood me just as i am.

and finally, after i finally agreed to date him i opened up to him and told him all the things i am difficult about and he understood everything and a few months later he told me that he knows how stubborn i am which is why he is always going to approach me with a loving manner, and he has. and it has had the best results.

GOSH SO MANY THINGS...

one more... my dad loved him which is so wierd for my dad. nick and my dad clicked immediately. all this sort of happened at once but and we were in the car and suddenly started talking abotu marriage and how we both want it soon and stuff.

[_Laurie_]

My sister and Tyler worked together so that's how we got introduced. Our first date, I thought that Tyler was so strange and told myself I would never go out with him again. For some reason something kept me going back to him. I fell in love with him because I realized that the reason I thought he was so strange was because he didn't hold anything back. He was 100% himself from the second we met and never changed. On most first dates, you try to make your best first impression and try to be so polite. Tyler was just himself and his attitude was "take it or leave it". He was very comfortable to be around and the most important thing, Tyler makes me laugh so much. He is such an easy going guy and when he first made me laugh, I knew he was the one for me. I love him so much!!!!!!

[Chelsea_Lynx]

My fiance and I actually met online. I was one of those people that always said "I'll never meet anyone off the internet". Anyways, he Instant messaged me, after seeing me on one of the various websites I'm on, I thought ok, I'll talk to him. I wasn't particulary attracted to him at the time, but we really hit it off. As time progressed, I ***e to find that a) I was in love with him and b) he had sent me terrible pictures :p. Anyways, he ended up asking me to marry him before we even met. *Shock!* I said yes. we finaly met in person 5 months later, and it was one of the most incredible moments of my life. I moved cross country to live with him 2 months after that. Been here ever since!

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[rx-7girl]

I knew my FH was the one when I wanted to find out what will happen in his life next and that I wanted to be there to experience it with him. I wanted to be part of his family and have him part of mine. He is just great and every minute with him; whether were fighting or cuddling is totally worth it. :D

[USUKgirl]

We met online and even just over the net the sparks were flying so I knew it was something special. Then, due to a really long story, we broke up and as I always say, I moved on with my life but I could never really move on in my heart. You really learn how you feel about someone when you live without them for 2 years. And I knew I didn't want to spend the rest of my life without him so when we started talking again, it didn't take him long to say he felt the same way and then we lived happily ever after! The end.

[vinsbride07]

I knew he was "the ONE" the first week we started dating. We had known eachother for a long time, but had only kept in contact on and off through the years. We had met at a part time job while we were both going through college. We be***e friends, but didn't keep in touch that much after he quit. Then one day we ran into eachother, a few years later. This time, we were both single and started to hang around together alot. After one of our dates I thought, "wow, I could really spend my life with him." Then I thought that I was being silly. It was just that he was so cute and smart, and we could spend hours and hours just talking about anything, from videos to politics. This was the first guy where it clicked not just physically (though he is a hotty), but mentally too. In the past it was always one or the other, physical or mental. He was apprehensive about us dating at first, because we had both just gotten out of long term relationships. It took a bit of convincing, but here we are a year or so later...Engaged, and happy to be planning our wedding:0)

[angel36918]

Eric and I met when we taught swim lessons together about 7 years ago and I had the biggest crush on him then. I remember I had a cold one day and the next day he brought me chicken noodle soup. He was so sweet. Anyway, we lost touch after that summer and I finally met up with him again in 2005. I asked him to go to a football game and we've been together ever since. I can totally be myself around him and we have so much fun together. We both act like 5 year olds so we get along great! I knew about a month into the relationship that he was the one. My sister asked me if I was going to marry him one day and I said yes.

[meghann]

As corny as it is, I knew Bryan was the one the first time I met him. He walked into the Pub 99 I was at with friends and I just got an indescribable feeling. I just knew it was something special that I had never felt and I had been with my ex for 5 years and I had never gotten a feeling even close to this. :D