Is this ok?

[krystin21]

My Uncle has just announced his engagement a month after mine, when he was not going to get engaged until dec. Then, he had told us that he was going to set the date in 2006, after ours and now is saying that he and his fiance want to have it a month away from ours. Because her mom won't let them get married close to ours they are going to get married next june. Is this ok? or am I being foolish by feeling that he is stealing my thunder?

[AngelicAlwys]

Its okay for that to happen, but I understand how you feel it is like "raining on your parade", I got engaged on August 13, 2002 and my fiance and I are planning a 2005 wedding. This past May my brother got engaged and his fiance said in front of everyone that she would be married before me and my betrothed, so they set their wedding date for June of 2004. I was hurt, everbody congradulated me on my engagement but apparently my brothers enagement was more important to my family. I have decided to let it roll of my back and that my special day will still be mine even if they get married the day before me. It doesn't matter that they want to out do your wedding, all that matters is that you and your fiance are doing this for you and you have they best day of your life because it is still your wedding!!

[jimandangelia]

Do NOT let this ruin your day!!! As long as he isn't trying to set the SAME wedding day, it's fine!! My sister-in-law to be announced her engagement two weeks after me, and then spent the entire time at my wedding reception talking about her wedding which was still a year away! I simply asked her nicely to put discussion of her wedding on hold for the remainder of my reception and focus on my day...it was her that looked bad, not me, for trying to steal the thunder (which, by the way, didn't happen, as my guests, especially those who didn't know her well, just walked away laughing saying how selfish she was!)

Your uncle's wedding will not steal the thunder from yours. People are there for you, not him, on your wedding day, so relax, have fun, and block out any negative things!!

[reecey]

Nothing should ruin your day...they're not trying to compete with you or steal your day...maybe its the only time that would work for them. Just because their engagement may be shorter than yours doesn't mean that they feel more important. I actually postponed my wedding by a year when my little sister announced she was getting married. they chose an august date, mine was september - about a month apart- we actually spoke on the phone after we set our dates and realized we had done this. Which, actually, is fine, but I really wanted to help her with her wedding so I postponed mine. She never asked me to but I wanted to. The way I see it, it doesn't matter what day it happens, as long as it happens - I don't feel the need to rush into the ceremony. I know its going to happen and be wonderful. Everything else disappears when it occurs anyway - who cares when it is or who's was first or second...what really matters is that particular day belongs to you - and your new husband better never forget that day as long as he lives! :D


Do NOT let this ruin your day!!! As long as he isn't trying to set the SAME wedding day, it's fine!! My sister-in-law to be announced her engagement two weeks after me, and then spent the entire time at my wedding reception talking about her wedding which was still a year away! I simply asked her nicely to put discussion of her wedding on hold for the remainder of my reception and focus on my day...it was her that looked bad, not me, for trying to steal the thunder (which, by the way, didn't happen, as my guests, especially those who didn't know her well, just walked away laughing saying how selfish she was!)

Your uncle's wedding will not steal the thunder from yours. People are there for you, not him, on your wedding day, so relax, have fun, and block out any negative things!!

[Andrea]

My Uncle has just announced his engagement a month after mine, when he was not going to get engaged until dec. Then, he had told us that he was going to set the date in 2006, after ours and now is saying that he and his fiance want to have it a month away from ours. Because her mom won't let them get married close to ours they are going to get married next june. Is this ok? or am I being foolish by feeling that he is stealing my thunder?

Nothing should ruin your day it is your special day and no one else's unique to your style tastes, love i am sure they are not trying to ruin anything they are just trying to celebrate in rejoice about the joyous occasion as should you this is not a contest who is better then anyone else!!! you have a right to live your engagement up and through partys to so make a big happy deal of your own wedding as you have a right to after you will be in love with one person for the rest of your life.