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camarogirl03
06-06-2005, 04:43 PM
It has been 12 years since Shaun and I first met. It's amazing that after spending 5 years apart and not knowing what the other is doing we were able to be blessed with another chance at love.

It was March 3, 1993 that Shaun and I first met. I was in the 8th grade and Shaun was a big, bad, unbelievably cute 9th grader. It was during our teacher strike at Vallejo Jr. High that Shaun talked one of his friends into switching classes with him so he could be with me in my typing class. When Shaun first sat across from me I wouldn't look at him. I thought that he was the most irritating person in the room and didn't want anything to do with him. After spending the class period with him I realized that he was the greatest person in the world, aside from my Dad, and I wanted to get to know him. We started "dating" and we would walk around school holding hands and hugging and sometimes he would walk me home. It was the most amazing 2 weeks of my life. And then we broke up.

After the summer, Shaun graduated into the 10th grade and attended Vallejo Sr. High (right across the street from the Jr. High) and I proceeded to the 9th. A couple of months into the new school year Shaun and I ran into each other in the morning. He was walking to class while I was walking to meet with a friend. When he saw me he stopped in his tracts and said he was happy to see me. From that moment we were inseprable, at least for another 2 weeks. He broke my heart twice...how was I to survive?!

Shaun moved to Fremont for his last two years of high school. He ***e back to Vallejo in the summer of 1996. We ran into each other at our old Jr. High. He was coming out of the gate of the school as I was going in. I was surprised to see him and I was sooo happy. :) We talked for a few moments and then he had to go so we exchaged phone numbers and said we would call. Sure enough he called me that night and we went out. We picked up where we left off before he left; it was amazing. About a month went by and Shaun had made the decision for us to stop seeing each other. Unfortunately, I was already with someone and had invested 2 years with that person and Shaun had just met his now ex-wife. He said that if I couldn't make the decision to be soley with him then we couldn't be together and he said good-bye.

He went on to marry "the other woman" and I met my daughter's father and moved to Fairfield. I was with him for 4 years had a wonderful baby girl and thought about Shaun occasionaly about what he was doing and how he was doing. We never once saw each other during that 5 years he was married; no correspondence at all. I finally got my parents to move to Fairfield to be closer to me and their new granddaughter in late 2001. It was a great move. January 2003 ***e along and I received a phone call from my mother saying that I received a letter from Shaun. I was so surprised and getty inside I drove right over and picked it up. All it said was, "Cindy, Call me. Shaun." And he left a phone number. I held that paper as long as I could asking myself over and over again, "do I call, do I call?" So finally I called and he picked up and asked if he could call me back after work. I was in shock and was like, "aaaaa ok." Shaun decided that after his divorce was final that he would try to find me. He ended up mailing that little note to my parents old address but since they had moved 2 years prior it technically shouldn't have made it to me. My mom befriended the post lady (and they are still close friends till this day) and when Jackie saw it was addressed to me, against postal forwarding expiration, she sent it on its way to my mom and dad's place. I received it on January 15, 2003. We had our first face-to-face meeting on January 19, 2005 and knew that it was from then on that we were meant to be with one another. I have loved him from the very beginning and everytime we went our separate ways we were always pushed back together. I don't know how else to explain it except that we were meant to be with each other.

We did all our growing apart, had our families with other people just so we have more patience with each other and so we could blend our families. Now we have been blessed to have found each other and are making it official August 21, 2005. And I can't wait! :cool:

NYjerseygirl
06-06-2005, 06:23 PM
What a sweet story! I cannot wait to read more! When is your wedding date? :)

camarogirl03
06-07-2005, 09:54 AM
We made our relationship official February 14, 2003 when I moved in with Shaun. I had already made the decision to leave my daughter's father before Shaun even ***e back into the picute. I was in an abusive relationship physically and emotionally and our last physical fight my daughter witnessed the whole ordeal and that was the straw that broke the ***els back. Shaun's letter ***e in the right time.

We were up late on April 31, 2003 lying in the livingroom listening to music like we always did, flipping throught CD after CD finding songs that made us feel like we were in school again when I put Paula Abdul's Spellbound CD in the player. I played Rush Rush at first and then I jumped quickly to the last song which is Will You Marry Me? Shaun had never heard this song before so I just told him to listen while it played. When the chorus ***e on singing, "Will you marry me boy..." he jumped up off the floor where we were laying and was like, "if you're gonna ask me you gotta do it right...you gotta be on one knee holding my hand and things like that." :) So that's what I did. I took his hand on bend and knee and I told him how much I love him and how I have always thought about him and I can't imagine my life without him now. I told him that I feel that we were meant to be and that there is no other way to explain us having so many chances to be together over and over again. So he stood me up, backed me up to the couch and told me to sit. I did and he went into the bedroom and ***e out holding his arm behind his back. I asked him what he was doing and then that's when he got down on one knee in front of me and said, "I have loved you from the moment I saw you and knew that you were the one I would spend my life with. I know that we did our growing apart and I feel that we have been given this chance to make things right. I want to be the one who loves you for the rest of your life, the one who takes care of you, and the one you can come to depend on. I want to take care of you and Jai-lynn (my daughter). Cindy, will you marry me?" And he pulled his hand around and there sat a white leather box with a beautiful 4 karat single stone set in white gold ring. I was like are you for real? (Of course I said YES!) He took it out of the box and put it on my hand. I couldn't stop crying for the longest time and didn't think that I would ever catch my breath.

After I had calmed down we sat on the couch and he told me that he got my ring that February and that he was planning to take me to Disneyland (I'm 26 yrs old and still haven't been) and propose to me under the fireworks but I kind of ruined that and he couldn't wait any longer. :p So we've been engaged for 2 year now and are finally getting married in 74 days. I can't wait.

I have never met anyone I am so in love with and so connected to. I can honestly say that I am blessed. :D :)

camarogirl03
06-20-2005, 04:57 PM
Ok, so today is 61 days away from our wedding date. I'm nervous as nervous can be and it has finally hit me that I am marrying the man I was meant to be with since Jr. High. We went out and bought our rings on Saturday and I had my 2nd dress fitting. We've found our DJ, the officiant, and the florist. Our cake is going to be wonderful and so is the whole reception. (I'm praying!)

I know that I'm nervous because I keep having bad dreams: The ex's show up, my dress won't fit at the last minute, we can't pay for everything, I'll pass out at the alter, HE'LL pass out at the alter, he won't show...the list goes on and on.

Shaun assures me that everything will be perfect and not to worry. I have to worry because he's the cool and collected one. Sixty-one days until my Daddy walks me down the aisle, sixty-one days until I hyphenate my name, sixty-one days until the biggest day of my life (aside giving birth to my beautiful daughter).

When I'm not thinking about the wedding I'm fine. But with it this close it's hard not to think about it. We've just prepared and sent out our invitations. What if no one shows. We've paid for 40 people and that's non-refundable. Our guest list is already so small, it doesn't need to be smaller. OMG!!!

Okay, I'm calming down. But can someone please tell me that it'll be ok? :rolleyes:

reecey
06-20-2005, 05:13 PM
Ok, so today is 61 days away from our wedding date. I'm nervous as nervous can be and it has finally hit me that I am marrying the man I was meant to be with since Jr. High. We went out and bought our rings on Saturday and I had my 2nd dress fitting. We've found our DJ, the officiant, and the florist. Our cake is going to be wonderful and so is the whole reception. (I'm praying!)

I know that I'm nervous because I keep having bad dreams: The ex's show up, my dress won't fit at the last minute, we can't pay for everything, I'll pass out at the alter, HE'LL pass out at the alter, he won't show...the list goes on and on.

Shaun assures me that everything will be perfect and not to worry. I have to worry because he's the cool and collected one. Sixty-one days until my Daddy walks me down the aisle, sixty-one days until I hyphenate my name, sixty-one days until the biggest day of my life (aside giving birth to my beautiful daughter).

When I'm not thinking about the wedding I'm fine. But with it this close it's hard not to think about it. We've just prepared and sent out our invitations. What if no one shows. We've paid for 40 people and that's non-refundable. Our guest list is already so small, it doesn't need to be smaller. OMG!!!

Okay, I'm calming down. But can someone please tell me that it'll be ok? :rolleyes:

re-read your own message - you've already said its gonna be okay - how do I know?

it has finally hit me that I am marrying the man I was meant to be with since Jr. High.
sixty-one days until the biggest day of my life (aside giving birth to my beautiful daughter).


how can it not be ok? You're living your dream - RIGHT NOW and for the rest of your life! :)
The nervousness and dreams are normal - if you weren't having them, I might be a little concerned! :) Take a deep breath and when you have those little dreams, laugh about them like you saw them on tv! Sometimes I've heard, and I know I started doing this: put a notepad by your bed - when you wake up from one of these, jot down the issue so you can doublecheck it - when I do that, I don't have a dream about that anymore - because i know I doublechecked it.