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arishalom
05-04-2005, 05:45 PM
:mad: Ok guys,
I just need to vent. My FH has an older brother who lives in Korea. It is a 2-day travel time from Korea here. You gain a day going either from here to there or vice versa. He is a college professor and his semester will have started by our wedding date of 9/9/06. He wants us to move the date up 3 weeks to the last week of August. I have been married before in August and it is the most miserable weather for wearing a long gown and pantyhose!!
David has sent a reply back to his brother and I agree with this that when we go to book the chapel (early next month) if our date is still available, the date stays as is. If September 9th is not available, we will go with 8/26/06 so that his brother Peter can be here longer. We also told him that if the wedding date doesn't move, we will do whatever we can to make his stay more comfortable, like paying for his hotel, etc.
I don't want to seem selfish, but we're not the ones who decided to live in Korea. :(
reecey
05-04-2005, 06:23 PM
:mad: Ok guys,
I just need to vent. My FH has an older brother who lives in Korea. It is a 2-day travel time from Korea here. You gain a day going either from here to there or vice versa. He is a college professor and his semester will have started by our wedding date of 9/9/06. He wants us to move the date up 3 weeks to the last week of August. I have been married before in August and it is the most miserable weather for wearing a long gown and pantyhose!!
David has sent a reply back to his brother and I agree with this that when we go to book the chapel (early next month) if our date is still available, the date stays as is. If September 9th is not available, we will go with 8/26/06 so that his brother Peter can be here longer. We also told him that if the wedding date doesn't move, we will do whatever we can to make his stay more comfortable, like paying for his hotel, etc.
I don't want to seem selfish, but we're not the ones who decided to live in Korea. :(
Well, it didn't hurt to ask - :) Maybe he was just hoping you hadn't had it set in stone yet so that he could be sure to attend. If you can't change the date, you can't. just be sympathetic to the fact that he really wants to come - I'm sure he'll find a way :)
arishalom
05-04-2005, 08:28 PM
Well, it didn't hurt to ask - :) Maybe he was just hoping you hadn't had it set in stone yet so that he could be sure to attend. If you can't change the date, you can't. just be sympathetic to the fact that he really wants to come - I'm sure he'll find a way :)
Well, he has said that he will come either way, but he would be able to enjoy it alot more if we set the date to August. While I am not sympathetic to his plight, we did alot of talking and thinking about the date, since Jewish high holy days fall in September as well. I'm hoping that he takes the reply well-we'll see and no, it didn't hurt to ask. :cool:
Lacey
05-04-2005, 09:13 PM
I agree with you, you are not the one who moved to Korea. It is nice that you are considering his request to move the date. But, I don't think it is fair of him to ask YOU to change YOUR wedding especially if he would be able to attend either way. Go for September when you planned, unless the date has already been taken.
arishalom
05-04-2005, 09:27 PM
I agree with you, you are not the one who moved to Korea. It is nice that you are considering his request to move the date. But, I don't think it is fair of him to ask YOU to change YOUR wedding especially if he would be able to attend either way. Go for September when you planned, unless the date has already been taken.
Yep, that's what realllllyyy rubbed us the wrong way. When Peter got married, he refused to come to the states and get married so the whole family traveled to Korea in August for his wedding. David said it was the most miserable time he's ever had at a wedding and the ticket costs and travel time was horrendous. :mad:
I basically told David that while I would love for Peter to be able to spend a longer time here, that was the only way I would consider moving the date. Thankfully, David backed me up in whatever I decided on the matter. :D
I think I just needed to see if you ladies and gents thought we were being unreasonable at trying to stick with our date.
I agree with the other ladies. You can only do what you can depending on the dates the church and hall have available. I also agree that it is TOO hot to have to wear an elegant wedding gown in August. I know I would be extremely miserable if I had to wear my wedding gown in August and it is a halter top type gown.
I do think your FH's brother has plenty of time to either get another instructor to take his classes during the time he is over in the US for your wedding or he can cancel his classes during that week or so. College professors can do either of these with no problem. I know as a full time college student, many instructors will have other prior engagements they will need to cancel a class for and will just assign extra homework.
Good luck!