First entry very long sorry!!!!!!

[blazinangel1702]

I am going to go nuts very shortly if I don't have aplace to write things down, and I can type a lot quicker than I can write.
...my fiancee and i just started planning our wedding...so as you can see i'm new to the boards...my name is Michele, my fiances name is Rick, Hi everyone...but anyways back to my question...is it okay to not have any alcohol what-so-ever at the reception if its at like 4:00pm?????? We don't want the responsibility of having to make sure that everyone gets home safely. We are having our ceremony in the morning at like 10 or 11 and then having everyone back to my moms house for like a cheese tray and fruit and stuff like that and so that we get to talk to everyone, and so that i get more wear out of my dress, and then having the reception at 4 with dinner...does that sound okay?? plus most of his family and friends of the family are recovering alcoholics and my family doesn't drink very much...Thanks a bunch!! Already had that question answered
BUT, now all of a sudden his dads mother as well as my mother now think that we should serve alcohol because our guests are going to be bring us nice gifts and they should be able to have a good time. Rick and I said that well, we agree with that but we are trying to pay for the wedding ourselves, and it is at least $800 cheaper (rough estimate) total for the reception without alcohol. Then my mother said well I'll pay for the alcohol.

My father died before i was born from what i was told from alcohol, and his dad is a recovering alcoholic and his mother has created a lot of drama for his family because she has this boyfriend and i don't know whether or not this caused his parents divorce or not but now she is engaged to thie guy and every time she goes out of town to see this guy his father gets very angry and I don't want his dad to to be tempted at our wedding and fall of the wagon if her boyfriend comes up for the wedding...so What is a poor girl to do??? I thought the drama in high school was bad...boy was i wrong! if this post didn't make any sense to you thats okay i was just kind of venting anyway...sorry...ttyl we are both going to be 20 at the time of the wedding in case anyone was wondering...we've been together for the past 4 years...love everyone!! God Bless

I just found out that Ricks mother is planning on marrying her boyfriend in the fall of this year...yipee!!!here comes more drama!!Hopefully Dad won't fall of the wagon when he hears that news, dad still thinks that they are going to get back together i guess because mom still sleeps in the same bed with him at the Knights of Columbus functions...his family is sooooo dang confusing its ridiculous! I just pray for Dad i guess thats all i can do... more later...

I am really frustrated right now...my FH mother won't give me a list of people to put onthe guest list....and FH doesn't really give a **** right now...at this point our wedding is 508 days away and we sill don't have any where to hold the ceremony, or the reception. I know we can't have the ceremony in a chapel because of the # of people that are already on the list...and finding a hall or somewhere to hold the reception that is relatively cheap but really pretty so far has turned up nothing...and its even harder when FH mother won't even give me an approximate # of ppl that could be on the list....errrrr!!!!!!Sometimes I just think screw it and just Rick and I will pack our stuff and fly away to wherever our honeymoon will be and we'll just get married there...all by ourselves, oh but no! that would **** too many people off....(yet my own mother threatened to elope, and my aunt stopped her and my mom said if you can plan a wedding in 6 weeks we won't elope and my aunt pulled it off) So I guess I'm just about done venting for now...

[nle5]

I think the two of you still have quite a bit of time to plan the wedding out. As you mentioned, we have already answered the alcohol question on a different forum. I still think that you DO NOT have to serve alcohol just because people will be giving you guys gifts. The people you invite will give you a gift because they want to not because you serve them alcohol. For example, look at the guests you invited that cannot make the wedding .... some of them will send you a gift because they want too. They won't be at the wedding or reception so therefore you can't serve them alcohol. Does this mean your parents want you to send them alcohol or something? No, all you have to send them is a thank you note and tell them how much you appreciated their gift. Have your guys' mothers ever had a good time without alcohol? You do not need it to have a good time.

I wish you the best with whatever happens with your FMIL and her wedding. Hopefully, everything will go ok.

As far as the end of your post, please go to your post in etiquette that references these same questions and read what I posted there.

Good luck!

[blazinangel1702]

We have a total for the guest list and we are going between two halls right now, Rick just has to take a look at them..And I still have yet to hear from the church...so I will be calling them again when I get home from class today...Thats about it...

[blazinangel1702]

YAYY!!!!whew! finally something is done! okay Well I should probably say what that something is first...duh...We now have the church...and the Hall!!!yayy!!!so now we jsut have save, save, save, save, save,save, save...The pastor called me the middle of last week and scared me by saying that he can't believe how many people have already booked the church for next august and I almost had a heart attack, and then he said but the 26th is open..and I see here that you wanted the other pastor to perform the ceremony, I don't see why that should be a problem, so now we have the church as well as the pastor that we wanted...and this past saturday we went to look at a hall about a half hour away that is "all inclusive" meaning that the cake, the dj, the linens, the centerpieces, the liquor, the food, the china, everything you need for the reception except the favors is included in the per person price and we loved the room we looked at and Rick was with us so we booked the hall and because we were booking right on the spot and not waiting and because we were booking with the owner, we got upgraded things and we got bonuses...like ice cream with the cake, and we got rice pilaf along with all our other food choices, we get a $10 discount per bottle on the champagne toast one bottle for each table...they even have an in house decorator that does the bouquets and tuelle and lights and flowers for the cake and the flowers for the centerpieces and everything for just a little bit more money. and the hall is beautiful, it has a spiral staircase going up to it and it has 2 waterfalls on the side of the staircase...and there is a terrace for smoking...oh i can't wait!!!!! :) :)

[reecey]

YAYY!!!!whew! finally something is done! okay Well I should probably say what that something is first...duh...We now have the church...and the Hall!!!yayy!!!so now we jsut have save, save, save, save, save,save, save...The pastor called me the middle of last week and scared me by saying that he can't believe how many people have already booked the church for next august and I almost had a heart attack, and then he said but the 26th is open..and I see here that you wanted the other pastor to perform the ceremony, I don't see why that should be a problem, so now we have the church as well as the pastor that we wanted...and this past saturday we went to look at a hall about a half hour away that is "all inclusive" meaning that the cake, the dj, the linens, the centerpieces, the liquor, the food, the china, everything you need for the reception except the favors is included in the per person price and we loved the room we looked at and Rick was with us so we booked the hall and because we were booking right on the spot and not waiting and because we were booking with the owner, we got upgraded things and we got bonuses...like ice cream with the cake, and we got rice pilaf along with all our other food choices, we get a $10 discount per bottle on the champagne toast one bottle for each table...they even have an in house decorator that does the bouquets and tuelle and lights and flowers for the cake and the flowers for the centerpieces and everything for just a little bit more money. and the hall is beautiful, it has a spiral staircase going up to it and it has 2 waterfalls on the side of the staircase...and there is a terrace for smoking...oh i can't wait!!!!! :) :)

Sounds lovely! Mind if I ask how much you're paying and for how many people?

[blazinangel1702]

no not at all...I am just so happy!!!and am trying to make a decision about whether or not I want to take a massage theraphy course which would end literally a few days before the wedding...so i have a lot on my mind right now...i have no clue what i want to go into...but i am absolutely thrilled that basically everything is in place for the wedding...so the cost is per person it is $37.95 and the minimun we have to pay for is 225. and I live in Michigan...and i think i read somewhere that you also live in michigan too reecey?

[carmela]

blazinangel,

I am from Michigan also. what hall did you get? and where are you from? I am from sterling heights.

[blazinangel1702]

I am from Livonia, and the church is also in Livonia, but the hall is Barnstormers and it is in Whitmore Lake.

[reecey]

no not at all...I am just so happy!!!and am trying to make a decision about whether or not I want to take a massage theraphy course which would end literally a few days before the wedding...so i have a lot on my mind right now...i have no clue what i want to go into...but i am absolutely thrilled that basically everything is in place for the wedding...so the cost is per person it is $37.95 and the minimun we have to pay for is 225. and I live in Michigan...and i think i read somewhere that you also live in michigan too reecey?

Yup, I'm waaaaay up north in the wonderful cherry capital, Traverse City. :)
so ladies. What do you think of this INSANE weather???? I mean, its normal for us to get a little dusting of snow, etc a few more times before June hits but dang! This is crazy stuff - 85 here on Tuesday 6 inches of snow on Saturday - and even though most of it melted, its still snowing now. UGH! hehe

[blazinangel1702]

I HATE SNOW!!!!!

anyways, my family and i used to go ***ping up in traverse city in what used to be the yogi bear ***p ground...lol...i was boo-boo a couple of times for the wagon ride...unfortunately...i finally found out what it felt like to be on the inside of one of those miserable hot full body fur costumes with a really heavy head that you can barely see out off...do you know how hard it is to stay completely silent????????? especially when your female??? no offense to anyone, i finally realized how much i talked when i was forced to shut up and not even sneeze or cough!

anyways even the weather down here reecey has been horrible, I've been going on job interviews for the past couple of days trying to get a full time job and driving from livonia to wixom and south lyon and farmington hills and everywhere else trying to find where i'm going and then where i am supposed to be while its pouring down rain and then i get home from work the other night, no i guess i was going to work the other day and i was getting out of my car and almost fell flat out on my butt in the snow...I love summer, i would move to wherever it stays warm all year long but unforunately i hate to fly and i love being around my family so looks like i'm stuck here in the state where you can experience all 4 seasons in one week!!!!

[blazinangel1702]

okay forgot to update about the week...lol oops! okay here it goes...so i pretty much have a new full time job, rick went into the hospital on tuesday for stomach pain and stuff like that it could be an ulcer or something to do with the intestines, we are going to find out on May 6th, but please don't feel sorry for him because 5 minutes before the doctor was going to come back in to discharge him, he decided that he wasn't going to wait any longer and that he was going to discharge himself and pull the iv needle out of his arm...i'm outside of the E.R. on my cell phone calling his dad who is still 40 minutes away from us and i'm hysterically crying because I want Rick to wait and he is sending me out to get a nurse every friggin 1.5 seconds, and because his dad was still so far away i called my mom at work and asked if she could come and help me because he wasn't listening to me...so i go back into the room and rick is completely dressed and the iv needle is sitting on the top of the table next to bed...he's like lets go, i said no you can wait for your father, he's 40 minutes away...and i left him at the hospital...i was really ****ed at this point...because he needed a doctors note to go back to work...otherwise he was going to be fired...so my mom is halfway to the hospital when i call her and tell her to never mind that he's already done it and that i'm on my way home and that i left him at the hospital...so I had to do something for my aunt at this retirement home, she runs a store there and she is out of town so i was helping her so i went and did that, while i'm setting the store up, Ricks mother calls me and is freaking out because his dad went by the hospital and Rick wasn't there and she went to the hospital and he wasn't there and they both went to our house and he wasn't there and he doesn't have a coat and his mom actually called his brother home from school, now his brother is in HIGH SCHOOL!!!! so Rick ended up walking home from the hospital, for whatever reason...i still don't know but later on that night, Rick calls me from his moms apartment and tells me that he is staying at the apartment until his procedure on May 6th, so then I am talking to his mom and she keeps going on and on and on about how her and ricks dad aren't trying to break us up, but now its her turn to be a mom to rick because he's lived with my family since last july and now its her turn to be a mom...and she keeps reiterating the point that her and ricks dad aren't trying to keep us apart and they aren't trying to break us up but that they think its best for Rick to stay with his mom until his procedure is over...
Come on this is a load of crap, the reason Rick is so screwed up is because of his mother!!!! There is a flame starting to burn somewhere but I just haven't found where yet...

[esp1087]

I HATE SNOW!!!!!
looks like i'm stuck here in the state where you can experience all 4 seasons in one week!!!!
Ain't that the truth!!! A record high and a record low in 5 days!!! lol

A friend of mine got married last weekend too and it was snowing like crazy! I felt so bad for them. They had planned to get pictures in an apple orchard and everything. :(

[reecey]

I HATE SNOW!!!!!

anyways, my family and i used to go ***ping up in traverse city in what used to be the yogi bear ***p ground...lol...i was boo-boo a couple of times for the wagon ride...unfortunately...i finally found out what it felt like to be on the inside of one of those miserable hot full body fur costumes with a really heavy head that you can barely see out off...do you know how hard it is to stay completely silent????????? especially when your female??? no offense to anyone, i finally realized how much i talked when i was forced to shut up and not even sneeze or cough!

anyways even the weather down here reecey has been horrible, I've been going on job interviews for the past couple of days trying to get a full time job and driving from livonia to wixom and south lyon and farmington hills and everywhere else trying to find where i'm going and then where i am supposed to be while its pouring down rain and then i get home from work the other night, no i guess i was going to work the other day and i was getting out of my car and almost fell flat out on my butt in the snow...I love summer, i would move to wherever it stays warm all year long but unforunately i hate to fly and i love being around my family so looks like i'm stuck here in the state where you can experience all 4 seasons in one week!!!!


Haha :) I live exactly 3/4 of a mile from that ***pground! I've never actually ***ped at that ***pground though, we bike through there - they have some great trails :) Weather is getting better here.


Sorry to hear about the turmoil with rick - its very much possible that they're not trying to break you up, but she's having a problem letting go of her baby. Hang in there. Let him have his procedure and when he starts griping about his parents, let him know that you're there to take care of him in these situations and that he doesn't have to rely on them for that anymore.

[blazinangel1702]

after the wedding it is going to be sooooo hard to not come back to these boards!!!! its part of my daily routine!!!! Reecey you have the best advice!!!!! when is your wedding??? :o

[Kelly1Mickey]

after the wedding it is going to be sooooo hard to not come back to these boards!!!! its part of my daily routine!!!! Reecey you have the best advice!!!!! when is your wedding??? :o

Of course after the wedding you HAVE to come back to the boards! We are all going to be anxious to hear how it was. And maybe you will have some tips that the rest of us haven't thought of since you will have been through it.

[reecey]

after the wedding it is going to be sooooo hard to not come back to these boards!!!! its part of my daily routine!!!! Reecey you have the best advice!!!!! when is your wedding??? :o

awe! thanks! :) My wedding is november 5th of this year. I'm sure I'll still be back after the wedding! I couldn't stay away! I can't wait to post pictures of the wedding hehe :)

[shannabelle]

okay forgot to update about the week...lol oops! okay here it goes...so i pretty much have a new full time job, rick went into the hospital on tuesday for stomach pain and stuff like that it could be an ulcer or something to do with the intestines, we are going to find out on May 6th, but please don't feel sorry for him because 5 minutes before the doctor was going to come back in to discharge him, he decided that he wasn't going to wait any longer and that he was going to discharge himself and pull the iv needle out of his arm...i'm outside of the E.R. on my cell phone calling his dad who is still 40 minutes away from us and i'm hysterically crying because I want Rick to wait and he is sending me out to get a nurse every friggin 1.5 seconds, and because his dad was still so far away i called my mom at work and asked if she could come and help me because he wasn't listening to me...so i go back into the room and rick is completely dressed and the iv needle is sitting on the top of the table next to bed...he's like lets go, i said no you can wait for your father, he's 40 minutes away...and i left him at the hospital...i was really ****ed at this point...because he needed a doctors note to go back to work...otherwise he was going to be fired...so my mom is halfway to the hospital when i call her and tell her to never mind that he's already done it and that i'm on my way home and that i left him at the hospital...so I had to do something for my aunt at this retirement home, she runs a store there and she is out of town so i was helping her so i went and did that, while i'm setting the store up, Ricks mother calls me and is freaking out because his dad went by the hospital and Rick wasn't there and she went to the hospital and he wasn't there and they both went to our house and he wasn't there and he doesn't have a coat and his mom actually called his brother home from school, now his brother is in HIGH SCHOOL!!!! so Rick ended up walking home from the hospital, for whatever reason...i still don't know but later on that night, Rick calls me from his moms apartment and tells me that he is staying at the apartment until his procedure on May 6th, so then I am talking to his mom and she keeps going on and on and on about how her and ricks dad aren't trying to break us up, but now its her turn to be a mom to rick because he's lived with my family since last july and now its her turn to be a mom...and she keeps reiterating the point that her and ricks dad aren't trying to keep us apart and they aren't trying to break us up but that they think its best for Rick to stay with his mom until his procedure is over...
Come on this is a load of crap, the reason Rick is so screwed up is because of his mother!!!! There is a flame starting to burn somewhere but I just haven't found where yet...

She sounds like she overreacts just a bit. Is he really not comming back until May 6th? I would be so hurt. He should depend on you now, not his mother. Those days are over. He and she both need to realize that.

[blazinangel1702]

he really isn't coming back to my house until the 6th! Yesterday, his mom Sandy, and his Dad Rick Sr, and his brother Bryan, with us went to see the hall together so that you know his mom can't say oh well we weren't in on any of the planning or anything like that...so after we are at the hall and they have seen everything, I kind of got the feeling like Sandy didn't think that we could find somewhere that is that gorgeous, or that we won't be able to afford it or something like that...She just kind of was like well, um, well...the whole time we were at the hall...it kind of made me mad...but then again I don't know what i was expecting from her either...oh well...if you all would like to check out our wedding website the website address is http://wedding.weddingchannel.com/micheleandrick
so i guess thats it! for now anyways...oh by the way I GOT THE FULL TIME JOB!!!!!YAYY!!!now i finally have a way to pay for the wedding!!! :cool:

[blazinangel1702]

oh forgot one thing...rick isn't coming back until the 6th and that is the day that he is having his colonoscopy or how ever you spell it...and his mother wants to be a mom sooo bad, and yet she isn't making him stay with her through the weekend ...

[reecey]

he really isn't coming back to my house until the 6th! Yesterday, his mom Sandy, and his Dad Rick Sr, and his brother Bryan, with us went to see the hall together so that you know his mom can't say oh well we weren't in on any of the planning or anything like that...so after we are at the hall and they have seen everything, I kind of got the feeling like Sandy didn't think that we could find somewhere that is that gorgeous, or that we won't be able to afford it or something like that...She just kind of was like well, um, well...the whole time we were at the hall...it kind of made me mad...but then again I don't know what i was expecting from her either...oh well...if you all would like to check out our wedding website the website address is http://wedding.weddingchannel.com/micheleandrick
so i guess thats it! for now anyways...oh by the way I GOT THE FULL TIME JOB!!!!!YAYY!!!now i finally have a way to pay for the wedding!!! :cool:

woo! congrats on the job! I'm so very happy for you!
I say, take your time to yourself and just relax. Mommy is taking care of him FOR THE LAST TIME. After this, he's all yours and she'll have to butt out. Why? Because you'll be married to him :)

[esp1087]

he really isn't coming back to my house until the 6th! Yesterday, his mom Sandy, and his Dad Rick Sr, and his brother Bryan, with us went to see the hall together so that you know his mom can't say oh well we weren't in on any of the planning or anything like that...so after we are at the hall and they have seen everything, I kind of got the feeling like Sandy didn't think that we could find somewhere that is that gorgeous, or that we won't be able to afford it or something like that...She just kind of was like well, um, well...the whole time we were at the hall...it kind of made me mad...but then again I don't know what i was expecting from her either...oh well...if you all would like to check out our wedding website the website address is http://wedding.weddingchannel.com/micheleandrick
so i guess thats it! for now anyways...oh by the way I GOT THE FULL TIME JOB!!!!!YAYY!!!now i finally have a way to pay for the wedding!!! :cool:
Beautiful website!!! I live in Troy, MI! Congrats!

My best friend is getting married August 26, 2006 too! :) Congratulations!

[shannabelle]

oh forgot one thing...rick isn't coming back until the 6th and that is the day that he is having his colonoscopy or how ever you spell it...and his mother wants to be a mom sooo bad, and yet she isn't making him stay with her through the weekend ...

I really hate to hear that. As I've mentioned before on a different thread, I had a MIL straight from Hell! Her son was perfect and never wrong. She actually told me one time to give him 15 years and our marriage would be great. Are you kidding?! 15 years? I had already given him 6. Needless to say just as our relationship didn't get better, my marriage didn't either. I hold strong that if she just would have left well enough alone and let her son be an adult, maybe things would have been different. I don't worry about it anymore, I have a GREAT guy and his mother is wonderful. I'm sorry you have a medlesome MIL to be. It only gets worse. I even tried to stand up to her once, which is completely out of character for me, it just made things worse. The strain it put on my relationship about did us in. So, if he's a mama's boy, and you just can't live without him, deal with it the best you can, but fronting her only made things worse for me. Good luck, you're going to need it. OH, hey, you only have three more days. I think that is such poo.

[reecey]

I really hate to hear that. As I've mentioned before on a different thread, I had a MIL straight from Hell! Her son was perfect and never wrong. She actually told me one time to give him 15 years and our marriage would be great. Are you kidding?! 15 years? I had already given him 6. Needless to say just as our relationship didn't get better, my marriage didn't either. I hold strong that if she just would have left well enough alone and let her son be an adult, maybe things would have been different. I don't worry about it anymore, I have a GREAT guy and his mother is wonderful. I'm sorry you have a medlesome MIL to be. It only gets worse. I even tried to stand up to her once, which is completely out of character for me, it just made things worse. The strain it put on my relationship about did us in. So, if he's a mama's boy, and you just can't live without him, deal with it the best you can, but fronting her only made things worse for me. Good luck, you're going to need it. OH, hey, you only have three more days. I think that is such poo.

I definitely don't miss my meddling ex-mil. We lived 1200 miles away and the woman still bought her little boy (my 22 year old husband) socks and underwear on a regular basis because she didn't think I would do it right. Erm. First of all, he's a big boy - he can buy his own ****ed socks and underwear. Secondly, I won't do it right? Lemme tell ya, that set me OFF! Heh - well it wasn't her fault we got divorced, not in the least. But I did make that very clear to her in the grocery store when she was gossiping about me right in front of me. I let the whole grocery store know heh. I felt better afterwards :P

[shannabelle]

I definitely don't miss my meddling ex-mil. We lived 1200 miles away and the woman still bought her little boy (my 22 year old husband) socks and underwear on a regular basis because she didn't think I would do it right. Erm. First of all, he's a big boy - he can buy his own ****ed socks and underwear. Secondly, I won't do it right? Lemme tell ya, that set me OFF! Heh - well it wasn't her fault we got divorced, not in the least. But I did make that very clear to her in the grocery store when she was gossiping about me right in front of me. I let the whole grocery store know heh. I felt better afterwards :P

I'm not blaming her for the whole divorce. We had problems on our own, just those problems mixed with the problems she created were to much for me to withstand. There was no way I planned to live the rest of my life playing second fiddle to his no life, gossip spreading, judgmental, contridicting, self righteous mother. I'm not a confrontational person, however, the day you let your ex MIL and the grocery store know how you felt all neglected wifes and girlfriends around the world stood a little straighter! lol

[blazinangel1702]

but that was when i first started posting...oh well...i'm giong to make a list of all the things that we have done:
*my dress, we just have to get it altered
*bridesmaids dresses are picked out, they just have to be ordered
*church
*reception, which includes:
~dj
~cake
~centerpieces
~food
~liquor
~chair covers
~decorations
~a free engagement party or co-ed shower for 75-125 people (worth up to $2,500)
~i get free tickets to 3 bridal shows before the wedding next year from the hall
*officiant
*my going away outfit from the reception
*half of the favors are already bought
*the invitations have been decided on
*that Nichole is singing at the ceremony and reception
*cake topper

okay now onto things that we have to decide on:
*where to go for the honeymoon
*where to stay the night of the wedding

okay now onto things that i have to work on and call about:
*the song that Nichole is going to sing at the reception
*photographer
*videographer
*flowers for the ceremony
*registry
*rings!!!!! we have to design them!!! i completely forgot!!
*gifts for the parents and bridal party
*SAVING MONEY!!!!!!
*getting addresses from everyone so that we can send out our engagement picture/save the date picture cards when they come in, in 3 weeks...



ummm thats all i can think of right now...i feel like i'm brain dead for some reason...

[reecey]

That's quite a list - and oddly enough - looks a lot like mine...other than you have a few more things in the "done" category hehe :)

[blazinangel1702]

oh my god!!!!!so the full time job is going amazing!!! and I love it here, but thats not why i'm posting, i am posting because I am so ****ed off right now it is ridiculous!!!!I planned a wedding for a "friend" last summer right as our senior year ended so of course i'm getting yelled at by my mom for everything because it was taking up my time, and we get to the day of the wedding which was August 6th, 2004 and there is a long story behind this which I will probably post in a little while, while i'm on lunch instead of my break, but anyways the wedding didn't happen because while my "FRIEND" was PA looking for an apartment for her and her FH, she neglected to tellher exboyfriend that she was engaged and they slept together, well to cut a long story extremely short, her original MOH backed out when "FRIEND'S" exboyfriend told her that they had slept together...so original MOH told me and I said okay well i'll do it, (why i don't know?!?!?!?!) I borrowed a dress from a friend that matched the other girls', and was now the new MOH, well now the "FRIEND" thought she pregnant!!! and this was the week of the wedding!!! so I'm thinking well who's baby is it, right???, well I told my FH about the incident in PA and told him not to say anything and he said okay...well after the rehersal dinner we girls were spending the night at one of the bridesmaids houses and I guess my dear FH called "FRIENDS" FH and told him about the incident, which I didn't find out about until like 2 months ago...but anyhow her FH called us an hour before we were supposed to be at the chapel and called off the wedding!!! well, he didn't specifically say why, but he just called it off...so now fastforward to about a week and a half ago, i'm at work and i'm checking my email at around 10:30 in the morning and what do I have in my inbox???? A SAVE THE DATE EMAIL FOR "FRIEND AND THE EXBOYFRIEND THAT IS THE SAME DAY AS MY WEDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I knew they were engaged and that they were planning on getting married in August and the last I had heard and seen was that it was the weekend before ours so that would make it the 20th of August! nope! not anymore!!!!well I guess she won't have any of our friends at her "wedding" if you could call it that seeing as you can look at her background and tell that it isn't going to happen, but still ITS MY DAY!!!!!!!!! AND SHE KNEW THAT!!!!! SHE KNEW IT FROM THE BEGINNING!!!!!! WE PICKED THE DATE RIGHT FROM THE THE DATE WE GOT ENGAGED!!!!!!!ERRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!! :mad: :mad: :mad:

[reecey]

oh my god!!!!!so the full time job is going amazing!!! and I love it here, but thats not why i'm posting, i am posting because I am so ****ed off right now it is ridiculous!!!!I planned a wedding for a "friend" last summer right as our senior year ended so of course i'm getting yelled at by my mom for everything because it was taking up my time, and we get to the day of the wedding which was August 6th, 2004 and there is a long story behind this which I will probably post in a little while, while i'm on lunch instead of my break, but anyways the wedding didn't happen because while my "FRIEND" was PA looking for an apartment for her and her FH, she neglected to tellher exboyfriend that she was engaged and they slept together, well to cut a long story extremely short, her original MOH backed out when "FRIEND'S" exboyfriend told her that they had slept together...so original MOH told me and I said okay well i'll do it, (why i don't know?!?!?!?!) I borrowed a dress from a friend that matched the other girls', and was now the new MOH, well now the "FRIEND" thought she pregnant!!! and this was the week of the wedding!!! so I'm thinking well who's baby is it, right???, well I told my FH about the incident in PA and told him not to say anything and he said okay...well after the rehersal dinner we girls were spending the night at one of the bridesmaids houses and I guess my dear FH called "FRIENDS" FH and told him about the incident, which I didn't find out about until like 2 months ago...but anyhow her FH called us an hour before we were supposed to be at the chapel and called off the wedding!!! well, he didn't specifically say why, but he just called it off...so now fastforward to about a week and a half ago, i'm at work and i'm checking my email at around 10:30 in the morning and what do I have in my inbox???? A SAVE THE DATE EMAIL FOR "FRIEND AND THE EXBOYFRIEND THAT IS THE SAME DAY AS MY WEDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I knew they were engaged and that they were planning on getting married in August and the last I had heard and seen was that it was the weekend before ours so that would make it the 20th of August! nope! not anymore!!!!well I guess she won't have any of our friends at her "wedding" if you could call it that seeing as you can look at her background and tell that it isn't going to happen, but still ITS MY DAY!!!!!!!!! AND SHE KNEW THAT!!!!! SHE KNEW IT FROM THE BEGINNING!!!!!! WE PICKED THE DATE RIGHT FROM THE THE DATE WE GOT ENGAGED!!!!!!!ERRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!! :mad: :mad: :mad:

I wouldn't worry about it too much - I think that you'll be fine with your wedding date. She's the one that's going to miss out IF she ever make it to the altar. I can understand your outrage in the situation though - I would be pretty ticked off as well. But kick back and relax. There's no point wasting so much energy over such a petty person. She's doing this out of spite. Don't let her get to you - that means she gets what she wants and she wins.

[blazinangel1702]

oops! well now we have the photographer booked and paid half off, we have decided on the food at the reception, we have also decided that we are just going to go mackinac Island for a few days, just to get away and then on like our 5th anniversary, we'll go somewhere big...

now my problem is that I kind of want to go with all one color for the girls instead of seperate colors, like we were going to do...and I absolutely love black, but i was going to accent it with like black magic roses or deep burgendy roses...but in my head i think is might look like a horror movie...give me some insight on this please, am i just going crazy???

Speaking of crazy, I am working full-time, going to school full time for massage therapy, (which by the way ends 4 days before the wedding) trying to keep the house clean, plan the wedding, and keep up with all the dang homework!!!! i feel like i am not getting anywhere with anything and that i'm not getting any sleep either!

[blushing_bride_2be]

Welcome to the boards and congrats! I am sorry to hear that your friend is getting married the same day as you but you have a more wonderful wedding than her to be excited about and it's your day to walk down the aisle. Cheer up and close your eyes and imagine your wedding with no problems.