Maid of honor

[dcf1234]

I have a maid of honor who has not made much of an effort to partake in the planning stages of my wedding. I helped her for her's during a very rough and busy time of my life and only expect that I would get the courtesy of, if not equal help, then *some* effort. How can I address this without hurting her feeligns?

[Sarah]

Sit her down at a good time for both of you and candidly discuss it. Find out if there is something else going on in her life that is bothering her. Make it clear that you understand if she needs to just step down and be a bridesmaid. If she doesn't go for this, brace yourself, and gently and politely ask her to do it. Good luck; I know this is a hard situation.

A good friend of mine is getting married in 4 months, and she wants me to be the matron of honor. Another bridesmaid, without any input on the bride's part, has unilaterally declared herself the maid of honor. What's worse, she spends most of her time flirting with the groom! She couldn't talk to the bride last night about planning because she was too busy getting drunk. I gave my friend this same advice for getting rid of her poisonous "friend."

If absolute worse comes to worst, it has now become acceptable for a bride to have both matron- and maid-of-honor. if you have a married friend, let your maid have the title, but marginalize her while explaining that you want both your friends to be involved. Then the other two of you plan the wedding.

[angre69]

I Am Having The Same Problem With My Maid Of Honor. I Have Been Friends With Her Since I Was A Sophmore In High School And She Is Also My Fiance's Sister. Everytime I Try To Talk To Her About Getting Something Done For The Wedding She Pushes Away. I Basically Had To Give Me And My Fiance Our Own Honeydo Party Because She Kept Putting It Off On The Side. Luckely For Me I Also Have A Matron Of Honor Who Has Been Nothing But Help Since We Got Engaged. Back To The Maid Of Honor, It Had Gotten To The Point Where I Couldn't Put Up With The Push Off's Any More And I Turned Into A Bridezila. Couldn't Help It. After I Took Out All Of My Frustration, My Maid Of Honor Got Off Of Her Butt And Started Helping Out More.

[RedStiletto]

Alright, I have a little problem, my maid of honor, is my little sister, she will be 16 at the time of my wedding.

I am the oldest of three sisters, she is the next one after me, there is a seven year difference, but we are so close. I wouldn't have it any other way.

So I am going to miss out on a lot of pre wedding aspects, such as bacholeratte party (I have a feeling Libby Lu and Build - A - Bear is in store). Oh well, she really can't plan anything because she is to young.

Any ideas on how to incorporate my three young sisters into my bacholerette party and how to get my sister (maid of honor) more involved?

Red