alchol

[cracin]

i am having a bit of trouble on if i should servre alchol or not. There are a few people(family memebers)that have a problem in knowing when to stop drinkin.I don't feel it is right that i should not have alchol at my wedding but at the same time i do not want any problems. What should i do.

[orangerze]

I think that you will be perfectly justified in NOT serving Alcohol. My fiancee and I are having the same discussion and we just decided that it is easier to not have the temptation there. His dad used to be an alcoholic and we don't want to tempt them.

This also ends the problem of possible having guests getdrunk and ruin the reception (happened to my sister when her fiancees step-dad and real dad both got toasted). We also decided that we don't want to run the risk of someone getting drunk and possibly driving home.

If you DO decide to have alcohol please have someone at the door to take keys or to provide rides home or a room.

[E]

If you're concerned, but do want to serve some alcohol, I'd recommend sticking with just beer and wine and the champagne for your toast. Beer and wine tend to be more filling than hard liquor. You may also want to have only a set amount of time that liquor is available, for example during the cocktail hour.

Regardless, I recommend not having alcohol available for the last hour of the reception, to allow guests who've been drinking a bit of a cooling off period. Have trusted (sober) family members or friends keeping an eye on people and have them keep a cell phone handy so that they can call a cab for anyone who shouldn't be driving.

[Cheryl]

I am having the same problem. My fiance's family does not drink at all. My family likes to party. My mother suggested that I have just beer, wine and soda so the younger people (my stepsisters) won't get trashed and take the disposable ***eras into the ladies room (like they did at my sister's wedding). The adults in my family can stick to just beer and wine and if anyone wants hard liquor, they can buy it themselves. We are also going to ask the bartender to limit the number of bottles and definately card anyone who looks under 21. (Once again, at my sister's wedding, there was underage drinking that I would not want to be responsible for). Hope that helps a little.
Cheryl

[FinallyPlanning]

i agree with everyone else. I've decided personally not to have alcohol but children are invited to my reception, and we also have a few family members who we don't want drinking. So it's just easier. But, you could also just serve wine with dinner and champagne with your toast. It will save you money on the open bar anyway :).

[amberwesterlund]

Be tasteful, have a limit, like six bottles of champagne... or do sparkling cider, if people are going to disrespect you by drinking too much, then don't make it available, sparkling cider is a great thing, don't let morons who don't know when to stop ruin your day!!! :)

[MattnAng07]

I went to a gorgeous wedding that had an open bar and a much simpler one with just beer. The experiences have helped me to determine that we will be going with just wine and beer. I can not imagine having a get together without alcohol. My Dad's side is Italian and when we get together, we eat and drink. However, I did downplay it a lot. At first I was going to go with an Italian/Wine Theme reception. But, since FH side is a bunch of teetotalers, we decided to compromise. I would hope that guests would respect us enough to not get trashed. Plus, in Indiana, you have to have an officer on hand. I am certain he will help keep things under control.

[calico4sr]

if you think your family will make a scene, it is perfectly fine to have a dry wedding. that decision is completely you and your FH choice. if you want to have alcohol that is fine if not that is fine. its your day. what you decide goes. dont worry about what others think

[bellavista]

If posable inform them, in a respectful way to cool it during the reception.
Let them know how special this day is to you & how important it is that things run smoothly.
If this isn't an option op for a dry wedding.

[cutie1515ffaa]

I worked at a reception facility/wedding for 3 years. Being on the outside of the wedding and being able to people watch people have a much better time with alcohol. HOWEVER...beer and wine and champaign for the toast is the best thing. Liquor just creates to much drama. People who don't have alcohol, guests tend to leave a lot earlier and seem board. I'm just telling you from what i've seen working wedding and receptions.

[amy_beth30]

WE don't know what we are going to do yet! I think that we are going to just have a cocktail hour right before dinner (if you are having one) that way the food will soak up all the alchol. LOL And then just have the champaign for the toast. No hard alchol. But so much has changed that could change to! I dont want hard alchol. To many "bad" things could go so wrong! LOL

[lizardbnorton773]

We are planning on going all out. We are having hard liquor since most of the people we know drink it rather than beer. We are going to stop serving 2 hours prior to the end of the reception though. Food will be available through the whole reception, so people willbe sober enough to drive.

[PrincessLaura]

Liz, I think you should make sure that people aren't "sober enough to drive" but completely sober if they are going to be driving. Someone in my FH's family is in jail right now because he was "sober enough" to drive, and ended up hitting and killing someone. Everyone who is having alcohol at their wedding needs to make sure that no one is driving drunk. Make sure you have a cab number available so that if people are too drunk to drive home, they have it right there!

[lizardbnorton773]

That's what I meant. That's why we are not going to serve alcohol throughout the whole thing. With 2 hours of no alcohol and food in the system, people shouldn't have nay alcohol in their systems. It only takes an hour for the alcohol level to drop to nothing after an average sized person stops drinking.

[steelcutter2003eeda]

That's what I meant. That's why we are not going to serve alcohol throughout the whole thing. With 2 hours of no alcohol and food in the system, people shouldn't have nay alcohol in their systems. It only takes an hour for the alcohol level to drop to nothing after an average sized person stops drinking.

Wow, where did you hear such a thing, that is so untrue. It can take anywhere from 12 hours for someone mildly drunk to days for some one way over the limit to get the alcohol out of their system. I'm sorry I don't mean to sound mean, but what you heard is way off base. i hope you do have someone who can call cabs or have someone to drive people home.

[TerriAndJoshua]

i am having a bit of trouble on if i should servre alchol or not. There are a few people(family memebers)that have a problem in knowing when to stop drinkin.I don't feel it is right that i should not have alchol at my wedding but at the same time i do not want any problems. What should i do.

Fiancee and I discussed this for about a minute. The only alcohol we will have is the Champagne toast. I'm going to see if the hall we wish to have the ceremony/reception at will remove the alcohol after everyone has had their glass to toast.

We do NOT want a bunch of people all drunk and making a ruckus.

[janet.weigelcfaf]

We are doing beer and wine before dinner and opening the full bar after dinner. That's what the club recommended and the bartenders there will cut people off just like it's a regular bar. That way, when people have had too much, you don't have to be the bad guy! :-)