divorced parents

[kbinkely]

my parents have been divorced for four years this year and my father is still hurt about the divorce. im trying to keep his best intrests in mind so im trying to figure out the seating for the ceromony as well as for the reception. i would like them both to be in the front row for my wedding but i just don't know how that is possible. if anyone has any advice for me i would appreciate it.

thanks
kbinkley

[orangerze]

You could put the mothers (both of them) on one side and the fathers, on the other. This can indicate unity within the families....I don't know...just a thought

[E]

If you're not concerned with strict tradition (and who really is these days?), you can seat your parents each in the front row, but on opposite sides of the aisle. Perhaps place the groom's parents with your father and grandparents with your mother. Since it's rare to have an equal number of guests from each family, it can be nice to mingle so that neither side looks tiny.

[sweet pea]

I HAVE ABOUT THE SAME PROBLEM EXCEPT MY FATHER DID NOT HAVE AN AFFAIR AND HIS FIANCE IS NOT A YEAR OLDER THAN I AM;BUT SHE HAS A 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER,AND SHE IS ALSO A REALLY GOOD LIAR. SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE, I WOULD TELL YOUR DAD IN A LETTER FIRST,(WITHOUT USING BLAMING WORDS,INSTEAD USE "I FEEL" INSTEAD OF "YOU"). TELL HIM ABOUT YOUR DREAM WEDDING, ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM, AND WHAT HE COULD DO TO MAKE YOUR WEDDING DAY SPECIAL. IF YOU STILL WISH TO HAVE YOUR DAD AT THE WEDDING IF HE DOES NOT AGREE TO WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY,TELL HIM IN PRIVATE THAT HE IS WELCOME TO ATTEND,BUT HIS NEW WIFE IS NOT,BECAUSE YOU DO NOT WANT TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT WILL HAPPEN ON YOUR BIG DAY. BUT INSIST THAT YOU AND YOUR FIANCE ONLY WANT PEOPLE WHO ARE CLOSE TO YOU AT THE WEDDING AND OR RECEPTION. IF HE DOES NOT WISH TO WORK WITH THIS-DON'T GET BUMMED ABOUT IT, IT WAS HIS CHOICE, AND IT WILL BE HIS REGRET LATER TO MISS HIS DAUGHTER'S BIG DAY.

[mbrown6762]

I have divorced parents myself. Because your father walks you down the aisle the first row is generally saved for him so that it is easy for him to sit after he offers your hand to your groom. If your parents really love you no matter what the differences they have between them they will put them aside for your wedding day. Sit both of them down and explain that you want them both to be seated on the front row for your big day and see what the response is. My parents did not like the idea of sitting on the same row but when I explained that they were doing it to make my day the way I wanted it they gave in. Just talk to them and see if they don't understand and do it for their little girl

[swelch]

E is correct. Bravo E! for giving sound advice and having good taste.