Wedding Countdown-Manda and Shawn

[foreverinlove]

The last time I looked i have 349 days left till my wedding. I have a list of things I have to plan and do!

Shawn and I still have to buy rings we thing we found our set. They are gold with silver in it.
Still need-
Bridal party
groomsmen
theme
photographer(actually i was debating on setting 2 disposible ***eras on each table at the reception and letting guests take pictures. Makes for more unique pictures, dont you think?)
Car
Reception Area
Music
Attire
Ring Pillows
im not sure what else

[reecey]

The last time I looked i have 349 days left till my wedding. I have a list of things I have to plan and do!

Shawn and I still have to buy rings we thing we found our set. They are gold with silver in it.
Still need-
Bridal party
groomsmen
theme
photographer(actually i was debating on setting 2 disposible ***eras on each table at the reception and letting guests take pictures. Makes for more unique pictures, dont you think?)
Car
Reception Area
Music
Attire
Ring Pillows
im not sure what else

I would think you'd want photographs of the ceremony as well? Something to consider.
Have you set a budget yet?
Have you decided on flowers? How about where you'll have the ceremony?
Are you going to have a buffet or served dinner or just hors deourves?
With you being still in high school, you shouldn't have to worry about alcohol at the reception so that's a cut in your budget.
are you going to have your ceremony video****d?
What about musicians for the ceremony? Will your church provide this (if you're having a church wedding)
just some things to think about...

[foreverinlove]

I didnt even thing of ***aras at the ceremony. Thanx. Ill be graduated as soon as May comes along. The adults will probably buy alchohol for themselves. The ceremony will be on the beach. The reception probably at his parents or in my grand parents back yard, and as far as music we are making burned cds and im going to talk to the band my dad plays with and see if they will play to.

[foreverinlove]

wow things have gotten crazy. IM pregnant, and our wedding date has switched majorly. But we have all the help we can get which is a good thing. But last night shawn kept coming in the room and acted like something was wrong, so when i fianlly asked him what was wrong, he asked me "this isnt going to work is it?" I immediatly told him he was crazy and started crying. I asked him what made him think that, he said the fact that I have been acting weird around him. I told him that I loved him and I always would. I told him that we coulden't be more meant for each other and he asked me why I was with him. I could answer that but I wasnt ready for wha the asked me next- did I want to breakup? I started crying even more, and tried to get him to understand that I never wanted to breakup in the first place. Then he started telling me that he was sorry and He didnt want anything to change. I told him it wouldent. Is this predaddy jitters or pre husband jitters...I really have no clue...

[reecey]

wow things have gotten crazy. IM pregnant, and our wedding date has switched majorly. But we have all the help we can get which is a good thing. But last night shawn kept coming in the room and acted like something was wrong, so when i fianlly asked him what was wrong, he asked me "this isnt going to work is it?" I immediatly told him he was crazy and started crying. I asked him what made him think that, he said the fact that I have been acting weird around him. I told him that I loved him and I always would. I told him that we coulden't be more meant for each other and he asked me why I was with him. I could answer that but I wasnt ready for wha the asked me next- did I want to breakup? I started crying even more, and tried to get him to understand that I never wanted to breakup in the first place. Then he started telling me that he was sorry and He didnt want anything to change. I told him it wouldent. Is this predaddy jitters or pre husband jitters...I really have no clue...


Probably a lot of both jitters - you guys are young and its normal to have jitters at any age. Its a big change - for both of you. Just make sure that its the right thing to do for you now - if its not - if its too much pressure, then postpone it. If its meant to be now, its meant to be in the future as well.

[koolade]

I agree with reecey...its probably a bit of both jitters. he might be feeling overwhelmed-and not to make you feel bad, but maybe hes realized hes just not ready. maybe, he was into the whole wedding thing, and now theres baby, and its happening faster than he expected. i think you two should have a serious talk to find out what each other is feeling on the matter. good luck-it will work out-even if you have to postpone it. cuz like reecey said, if its meant to be now, it will be meant to be in a year, or even two.

[Kelly1Mickey]

I agree with the other girls. Please don't think that now that you are pregnant there is even more of a reason to get things going with the wedding. I've seen friends of mine go through this same situation and trust me, it works out better if you take your time.

[foreverinlove]

Alot has happened since my last post. I was taken out of school on medical leave due to my doctor putting me on complete bedrest. Well, today is my first day back in over a month. And things have changed very fast. Shawn and I have gone back to our original date. November 15 or 17 is one of the days. basically back to the same plan as before. We no longer have the baby, I lost it on february 18 :( . We are trying to look at it as a blessing in disguise even tho we both know that we wanted to have the baby. We have decided that we are having no children or trying to have children for the next year. But I am back to planning a fall wedding. :p

[nle5]

Sorry to hear you guys lost the baby. I know how that feels as I lost one myself. Everything will workout and you guys still have a long time to have other children in the future.

I am glad to hear the two of you have worked things out. Remember, the two of you are still very young and have a long time to be together. My advice is to make sure it is absolutely what you want and don't rush things. It sounds as if you are on the right track again with your relationship and I wish you both the best.

[foreverinlove]

thank you. We have discussed waiting longer to have the wedding, but he doesnt want to wait. He told me that he wants to get married asap to start the rest of our lives together (pretty sweet for a 19 year old!)

[koolade]

so sorry to hear you lost the baby-i have actually been wondering how youve been! but, like you said, its a blessing in disguise. im also glad to hear wedding plans are back on track!!!

[foreverinlove]

thank you. Actually i felt bad for leaving every one in the dark. ihave internet at home, but shawns brother is a net junkie- i can rarely get on. The only time i can really get on is during school hours- dont worry I dont play with my schooling, i am in what the call GED exit, so i do nothing all day.
AS far as the wedding, I was just looking online for cute things, and i go caught up in precious moments. I really have no clue what to do!!!!

[Kelly1Mickey]

I also want to say I am so sorry about the baby. Like the other girls said, it may work out for the best in the long run. Now the two of you can take a deep breathe and really get used to being husband and wife before you have to figure out being mom and dad too.

[koolade]

thank you. Actually i felt bad for leaving every one in the dark. ihave internet at home, but shawns brother is a net junkie- i can rarely get on. The only time i can really get on is during school hours- dont worry I dont play with my schooling, i am in what the call GED exit, so i do nothing all day.
AS far as the wedding, I was just looking online for cute things, and i go caught up in precious moments. I really have no clue what to do!!!!


when is the wedding planned for again? you still do have some time to figure out what you really want, but not too much time! i think precious moments is a great theme, and there is so much you can do with it and so many great accessories to go with it. i also like your idea(from a different thread) of a fairy tale wedding. but, whatever suits you best!!! good luck and of course, you know where to go if you have any questions or need any help! :D

[foreverinlove]

:) I have a little over 9 months! january 7, 2006 and I will be marrying the most awesome guy in the wprld( for me of course) Everything is starting to fall in to place little by little.

[WillsBride2006]

:) I have a little over 9 months! january 7, 2006 and I will be marrying the most awesome guy in the wprld( for me of course) Everything is starting to fall in to place little by little.


what all have you guys planned?

[foreverinlove]

Our theme- romantic beach
our colors- light blue,silver, white
Our ideal ceremony- a lightly lit arch in a dim or dark room with white lights under a light blue mesh
Our ideal reception- romantic beachy, candles lit, sea shells on the table

[foreverinlove]

its been a long hard road, but we fianlly have everything on track . we are opening a savings account soon and I am on the path to finding everything i need for a fun causual wedding.

[foreverinlove]

i have been disowned from my grandmother. She is not attending my wedding, and i dont know if my mother is. :( According to my grandmother, I am a disgrace to my family for getting pregnant, I have dishonered my family. And all this started was because I told my mom I couldent babysit anymore because I am trying to get a job and start my life.

[reecey]

i have been disowned from my grandmother. She is not attending my wedding, and i dont know if my mother is. :( According to my grandmother, I am a disgrace to my family for getting pregnant, I have dishonered my family. And all this started was because I told my mom I couldent babysit anymore because I am trying to get a job and start my life.


People's emotions run high when there are things like weddings and babies. Things blow over when people calm down. If they don't blow over and this is how these people really feel and they aren't tolerant of real every day life, are they really people you want to bring your child around anyway? I know it may seem harsh sounding, but you've got another one to think about and YOU are the one that's going to assist this being into growing into a wonderful person - don't allow horrible outside influences to ruin what you're working for and that's a beautiful child that grows into a beautiful adult, both inside and out.

[esp1087]

People's emotions run high when there are things like weddings and babies. Things blow over when people calm down. If they don't blow over and this is how these people really feel and they aren't tolerant of real every day life, are they really people you want to bring your child around anyway? I know it may seem harsh sounding, but you've got another one to think about and YOU are the one that's going to assist this being into growing into a wonderful person - don't allow horrible outside influences to ruin what you're working for and that's a beautiful child that grows into a beautiful adult, both inside and out.
I'm sorry maybe I'm confused.... I thought she unfortunately lost the baby...

foreverinlove, do you have a child or is your grandma just upset you got pregnant? Why is she upset now? You were pregnant in November right? Did you not tell her and she just found out?

I am sorry to hear you are having more problems, and I hope your grandma will come around.

Elizabeth

[foreverinlove]

yes, I did loose the baby, but I may be pregnant. Definatly not planned for. We were waiting but I have this odd feeling that I am. And my grandmother knew from day one, im just a disgrace

[esp1087]

yes, I did loose the baby, but I may be pregnant. Definatly not planned for. We were waiting but I have this odd feeling that I am. And my grandmother knew from day one, im just a disgrace
I'm sorry you did lose the baby... Keep us updated though on if you're pregnant again! :) I am sorry that your grandma is acting that way, but some people are very traditional and grounded in that tradition. It is unfortunate that she can't be more excepting of her future great-grandchild, but maybe she'll come around... Good luck!

[foreverinlove]

believe me ill keep everyone updated. My grandmother is definatly old fashioned, but im hoping shell accept it eventually.

[foreverinlove]

Today is mine and shawns 5 month anniversary. We have prom tommorow, engagment photos in about two weeks. I cant wait to announce to all of the city how much I love this guy. He is so supportive of me. When I was upset over not being able to walk because of taking my ged to late, he told me not to worry something would come through for me. And it did. I take my ged the 19 and 20th of this month. I am so excited. ITs the best. When I get to stressed from planning he takes everything and sets it on the floor, makes me hot tea or hot chocolate and sets me up with a movie-either the wedding planner, sweet home alabama, or mmaid in manhatten and watches the movie with me. He is being so supportive.
We also found our rings. They are so pretty. We;ll have them in like 2 months. Until then I have my sterling silver cz 15 dollar walmart ring (which after we get the other rings will go on my other hand.

[koolade]

i hope you two have great fun at prom!!!!! i was reading the other posts, i take it you arent pregnant again?!? did your gramma ever come around? i sure hope so-i know what its like and i know that it sucks(when your family isnt supportive). Well, i really hope that you guys go with the valentines theme, it could be so fun, and also very elegant and beautiful. even though i dont know you, im just really excited about this theme:) lol

[foreverinlove]

I think I am most definatly pregnant. No test yet, I'm also nervous cuz this pregnancy is acting just like the other one. I have been constnatly eating at least three meals a day and like 8 snacks. I never eat that much, it used to be 2 snacks and 2 meals. Always unless i was feeding two. That was one thing then this morning I went to put on my egagment ring and had to struggle to put it on when it fit fine 2 days ago. While i was pregnant I couldent wear a size 8, i had to wear a 10. Certain smells have been making me sick to my stomach. They water our school grass with egg water(that really smelly water) and that made me completly sick on the spot, and Istill feel sick. Im scared to death because we didnt plan this. We dont have the money to establish enough for a family right now. But we did the deed we pay the price. IM not saying I dotn want it, I do definatly.
:) Prom was so fun!!! I had a blast. The only bad thiong was I only got to stay for two hours. We women take long to get ready for things like this? HAHa! Shawn didnt have his clothes until 8. thats when we were supposed to leave!!! Then he got an attitutude before we left. He didnt really want to go but he had promised me a while ago that wed go so... Yea we got two hours. So then my best friend is a senior next year. She has invited shawn and I to HER senior prom with her. My mom is really excited cuz we didnt go to get my dress together so this year were gonna go to get a princess dress or I may just have to use my wedding dress. Shawn felt bad for ruining the first part of prom and then having to leave early, so next year hes getting a limo for all of us going that are friends, paying for my dress (which the types i want are like 300-350) and all that.
Things have been good. Saturday when i got up(prom day) My grandma called and apologized, we stayed on the phone for about an hour.
:D

[esp1087]

I'm glad to hear that Prom went well, and I'm really happy to hear that your grandma ***e around! :)

[foreverinlove]

Well, things have definatly slowed down for us. I too k a oregnancy test, not positive, which is a good thing because it added more stress. I passed my ged. I am graduating, thank god. i am so happy. Finally able to ge ton with my life now.

[esp1087]

Well, things have definatly slowed down for us. I too k a oregnancy test, not positive, which is a good thing because it added more stress. I passed my ged. I am graduating, thank god. i am so happy. Finally able to ge ton with my life now.
Congratulations! Sounds like things are looking up and headed in a good direction!

A GED is so important and a great accomplishment. Congrats!

[nmb082005]

Well, things have definatly slowed down for us. I too k a oregnancy test, not positive, which is a good thing because it added more stress. I passed my ged. I am graduating, thank god. i am so happy. Finally able to ge ton with my life now.


I guess its good and bad about not being pregnant it would be kind of sad thinking you were going to be expecting a little bundle of joy and then finding out other wise but good at the same time knowing you really weren't ready. But I'm glad to hear you had a good time at prom, and that you passed you GED what a great milestone to have completed!