Can i count on my sister to be a bridesmaid?

[pitcrewchic]

I am getting married in Oct. of 2005.I have all of my wedding party picked out except for one bridesmaid. I really want my 16yr old sister to do it. We have talked maybe 4 times in the last 6 months and we only live a couple of blocks from eachother. she is constantly bailing out of family gatherings when everyone would like her to be there. you really cant count on her, but she is my sister and i would love for her to be included. i dont think that it would even do anygood if i talked to her about it. she really doesnt care. what do i do? :confused:

[mike.w]

i think you should at least talk to her and see how she responds. Its one thing to be a bit rebelious and not turn up to family partys, but being a bridesmaid is a pretty big honour so it may well be a different story. you should make sure she understands that if she does agree she cant back out later though.
good luck and hope your wedding goes well either way , with or without your sis.

[reecey]

i think you should at least talk to her and see how she responds. Its one thing to be a bit rebelious and not turn up to family partys, but being a bridesmaid is a pretty big honour so it may well be a different story. you should make sure she understands that if she does agree she cant back out later though.
good luck and hope your wedding goes well either way , with or without your sis.

She's a 16 year old girl - its not cool to be at family gatherings. A wedding is different though. Keep in contact with her - try to include her as much as possible in the plans. Tell her you need her help, her knowledge of current style, etc - just make her feel included and she'll come around - she's a kid - she's looking for attention in one way or another - sometimes by not being there, she's getting more attention - I mean, you're thinking about her now because of it, aren't ya? :)

[Bizzels]

I am in the same boat with you. The most horrible thing is that my sister is 23, not sixteen. I contemplated what to do for a very long time :confused: I finally ***e to the conclusion that I had to trust that she would be mature and she would respect me enough not to throw one of her temper tantrums and decide she isn't going. You have to look at it like this; if you think you don't speak a lot now, just wait until you don't include her or tell her you don't trust her enought. The two of you probably won't speak for a long time.