capri1226
09-16-2004, 07:59 AM
I got engaged December 25, 2003. At first I was so excited about planning for my big day. I talked about what i thought I might like but then i realized that it was so far in advance that I didnt need to make decisions yet. This included picking a bridal party. My fiance and I did pick good friends to be in our party. I asked his cousin and i asked my cousin to be my MOH. Then we realized that we weren't sure how many guys to have because he wasn't sure if he was going to ask his close friend or family to be in the wedding. At the same time my brother gets upset and wants to know why he hasn't been asked andeveryone has given us so much slack because we haven't been talking about our wedding plans. My fiance told my brother that he wasn't sure how he was going to be incorporated because he has so many close friends.
Any comments or thoughts?
bjmy1975
09-16-2004, 01:18 PM
We talked quite a bit about who to have in our party... there was a lot of give and take. I'm sure we left out people who thought they should be in the party, but too bad. We chose the people who are closest to us now and we felt comfortable with. Honestly, we had our party picked out long before we announced our engaement. Decide who you want and then put the names in order of, I guess, importance and then assign them a position. If you have 6 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen it'll be ok... each guy gets 2 girls... Lucky him.... you don't have to have even amounts of people or whatever the ediquet books tell you. Have what you want.
I have 3 BM, 3GM, 2JrBM, 1JrGm, FG, RB, & 4 ushers (2 are female). I didn't find that in any planning guides. It's what we wanted. :)
HeatherLee
09-22-2004, 11:07 AM
It's okay to have an uneven amount of people in your bridal party, and quite common these days. Would your brother accept an usher position possibly?
I can understand a sibling being upset that he's not in the wedding, but there's nothing stating that it is required to be in your siblings bridal party.