View Full Version : Future sister in law getting married week after us
Christine
07-29-2003, 12:42 PM
My fiance's sister got engaged 6 months after us and just decided on getting married the week after us. My fiance doesn't seem to mind but for some reason it sort of bothers me. She's always been the kind of girl who needs all the attention all the time, so it's not so much of a surprise that she'd do that, but I was hoping for our day to be all about us. Now I have a feeling she will be constantly comparing and still find a way to get all the attention on our wedding day. On top of that, my fiance's family live in the same city we live in (Austin, TX) and were initially going to help us with the planning...but now they said they will be too busy helping their daughter with her wedding. My family lives more than 500 miles away and I feel like Im going to be stuck planning everything by myself...any suggestions?
Angeltee4u
08-07-2003, 04:53 PM
I don't have any suggestions for ya and I feel for ya but I, myself decided to do my own planning and I have only asked one person to help me with my planning and that's my biological sister.
Teresa
Having her wedding the weekend following yours is disrespectful. Generally families are involved in wedding planning, and I'd expect that she would want her brother to be there. Considering that most couples wouldn't be back from their honeymoon a week after the wedding, it would be hard for your future husband to participate in pre-wedding activities like the rehearsal.
I would have your fiance speak with her and explain it without letting emotion get in the way... the logistics of it will also make it hard for her to participate in YOUR wedding, as she will be busy with her own last minute running around. Explain to your fiance that your feelings are hurt and that you want to be able to participate in her wedding, and have her participate in yours, but that you don't know how that will be able to happen with them back to back. Unless you're close enough to have a double ceremony, it's a bad idea to have weddings within a month of each other.
Christine
08-16-2003, 11:13 PM
just wanted to say thanks for responding and giving me some advice...It makes me feel better to know that I am "allowed" to feel a little bit uneasy about the situation. I was indeed hoping that she would be involved in the wedding and me in hers so maybe putting it that way will help her realize that it may be in her interest as well to have our weddings a little more apart. Thanks for your input.
Christine
08-16-2003, 11:15 PM
thanks for caring. even though you didn't give me any suggestions I appreciate your responding!
RachelAgnes
02-17-2004, 11:15 PM
well it seems like the sister need to be center ring at everything. sorry to hear about that. my sister in law is like that alot. she told jeff and i that we know nothing of each other. even though him and i were friends for 5 years dated 3 and just now decided to get married. and she knew my brother about 6mths. don't ask. but about the planning the wedding thing. well sit down and think about it. and is your soon to be hubby. willing to help you with some planning. when is your wedding? Email me. i will try to help you.... cause i am dealing with the same thing...
Rachel soon to be Gilliam. ;)
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