Can mom walk me down the aisle?

[scangel86]

Here's the deal. My father was in my life sporadically until I was about 18, and was never a positive influence. He dropped out pretty completely after that, which was fine with me at the time. After spending years working on my own problems, I learned to forgive him and wrote him a letter telling him my feelings, with the hopes that he would at least respond, be it positive or otherwise.
Well, he never did respond (that was about five years ago), but I have continued to send him cards on holidays and his birthday, without any response. Obviously he does not want to be in my life, and I am ok with that at this point, and will probably not even invite him to my wedding, although I will invite my grandmother and aunt on his side. The problem is, I have no step-father; I was raised by my mother and grandmother. There is my fiance's dad, but I have never met him in person; otherwise there are no men in my life besides my fiance. Is it okay for my mom to walk me down the aisle?

[reecey]

Of course your mother can walk you down the isle. I'm sure she'd be proud to do it. Besides, your future father in law isn't giving you away - he's gaining you :)

Here's the deal. My father was in my life sporadically until I was about 18, and was never a positive influence. He dropped out pretty completely after that, which was fine with me at the time. After spending years working on my own problems, I learned to forgive him and wrote him a letter telling him my feelings, with the hopes that he would at least respond, be it positive or otherwise.
Well, he never did respond (that was about five years ago), but I have continued to send him cards on holidays and his birthday, without any response. Obviously he does not want to be in my life, and I am ok with that at this point, and will probably not even invite him to my wedding, although I will invite my grandmother and aunt on his side. The problem is, I have no step-father; I was raised by my mother and grandmother. There is my fiance's dad, but I have never met him in person; otherwise there are no men in my life besides my fiance. Is it okay for my mom to walk me down the aisle?

[rachmc]

Here's the deal. My father was in my life sporadically until I was about 18, and was never a positive influence. He dropped out pretty completely after that, which was fine with me at the time. After spending years working on my own problems, I learned to forgive him and wrote him a letter telling him my feelings, with the hopes that he would at least respond, be it positive or otherwise.
Well, he never did respond (that was about five years ago), but I have continued to send him cards on holidays and his birthday, without any response. Obviously he does not want to be in my life, and I am ok with that at this point, and will probably not even invite him to my wedding, although I will invite my grandmother and aunt on his side. The problem is, I have no step-father; I was raised by my mother and grandmother. There is my fiance's dad, but I have never met him in person; otherwise there are no men in my life besides my fiance. Is it okay for my mom to walk me down the aisle?


I think your mother will be honored to walk you down. I will be having both of my parents to honor them. My mom was a little hesitant at first but after I explained why (because she has been there my whole life even when my dad left for awhile) she is honored to walk with us.

[EngagedMouse]

I think it's a great idea to have your mom walk you down the aisle. If something ever happened to my father, I would have not thought twice about having my mother do it.

I'm sure it will be special for you mom as well!

[aurelia]

I think it's a great idea to have your mom walk you down the ailse. That position is so important. It should be given to the person you raised you, not just someone who happened to donate a sperm.

[alley06]

Nothing says that your father has to walk you down the aisle. Have your mom, she'd be more than honored too!

[eca1027]

I agree! I think it's a wonderful gesture to have your mom walk you down the isle!!!

[EngagedMouse]

I'm hoping that someone else has this issue too - this post was originally from July 2004 - whoops :D

[fmil0625]

Oh well, some things never change though. My DIL was in a similar situation and her mother walked her down the aisle. I dont' see anything wrong with it after all, it is the mother and father who give the bride away. It doesn't always have to be dad doing the walking part!

[kyethra]

My dad died when I was a small child. My mom will be walking me down the aisle.

[S4 Girl]

I have somewhat of the same situation, my dad was actually around and a positive influence until the last few years. I still have some contact with him, but only to see my youngest sisters. He knows he is not involved in the wedding nor invited and has to this day not yet said anything about it (thats ok with me, one less argument to have).

Initially I wanted my mom to walk me down and she LOVED the idea, however I have upgraded my decision to have my step dad included as well, so they will both be walking me down.

I think its a fabulous idea to have your mom walk you down the isle!!!!

[MrsThurston]

ABSOLUTLEY have your mom walk you down the aisle. There is no rule against it, etiquitte wise, and even if there was, who cares! I asked my mom to be my matron of honor, and if my father werent in my life, she would have been the one to walk me down the aisle as well.

I think it's a great show of thanks and appreciation to your mom for being there for you, and I know it will mean a lot to her to be able to give her daughter away :)

[Corrina soon to be Morris]

I plan on having my baby sister walk me down the isle. I don't have a relationship with my Father and he will not be attending my wedding. My Mother and I are not close. i think it should be who ever you feel deserves the honour of being by your side. :)

[22yearsl8r]

My dad passed away 5 years ago. So, I am hoping my aunt/godmother, his sister, will be able to make the trip for my wedding so she can walk me down the aisle. If she can't make it, then I will walk by myself.

I thought about asking my brother but he is not religious and having him participate in a catholic mass would be contrary to his beliefs. He will be present videotaping...I suggested he bring an Ipod since the prayer stuff would be maddening for him....ha ha!

It works for both of us.

[mslinda70caad]

I was also gonna do that, but then i changed it and now my brother is. My dad is also in my life very much so, but my mom is an outstanding mom and i love my parents dearly but my mom is like my best friend.