Another wedding party dilemma

[brandi_812]

I have a problem... I am planning my wedding (obviously) and have come upon a problem. My fiance and younger brother have never been too close. Only a "Hello" most of the time between them. Its not like they don't like each other, just that with almost 15 years age difference, it is hard to find stuff to talk about. Anyway, my problem is that my mother wants my brother to be a groomsman. In my opinion, that should be my fiance's choice, not mine (or my mother's) and he already has his best man (his brother) and two groomsmen (his close friends) selected. I told her he could be an usher and she ***e back with something along the lines of that isn't that important of a thing to do and if I was going to have him be an usher, why even wait until he gets back from over-seas to get married. After asking my brother about all of this (age 19), he told me as long as he could come to the wedding, he would be ok with it. But, I would like to have him do something in the wedding, perhaps something in the ceremony (reading?). What other things could my brother do in the wedding? Sorry this is so long, but any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am at my wits end. :confused:
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[reecey]

You could have him light the candles, do a reading, or basically anything you want. My brother is going to escort my mother down the isle and then go light the candles. I was going to have my best friend do this, but instead he's going to sing :)


I have a problem... I am planning my wedding (obviously) and have come upon a problem. My fiance and younger brother have never been too close. Only a "Hello" most of the time between them. Its not like they don't like each other, just that with almost 15 years age difference, it is hard to find stuff to talk about. Anyway, my problem is that my mother wants my brother to be a groomsman. In my opinion, that should be my fiance's choice, not mine (or my mother's) and he already has his best man (his brother) and two groomsmen (his close friends) selected. I told her he could be an usher and she ***e back with something along the lines of that isn't that important of a thing to do and if I was going to have him be an usher, why even wait until he gets back from over-seas to get married. After asking my brother about all of this (age 19), he told me as long as he could come to the wedding, he would be ok with it. But, I would like to have him do something in the wedding, perhaps something in the ceremony (reading?). What other things could my brother do in the wedding? Sorry this is so long, but any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am at my wits end. :confused:
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[Lilly]

True that it is the groom's choice to have for his attendants, however if the bride has siblings or a very close male friend, then it's ok for her to choose for him to be in the wedding. Only two groomsman isn't an over abundance, I would say have him in your wedding. But since you seem to not want to do this, a reading would be appropriate, however, not as meaninful as being in his sister's wedding. I am sorry to hear that you don't have a closer relationship, but that is the best advice I can give you.
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I have a problem... I am planning my wedding (obviously) and have come upon a problem. My fiance and younger brother have never been too close. Only a "Hello" most of the time between them. Its not like they don't like each other, just that with almost 15 years age difference, it is hard to find stuff to talk about. Anyway, my problem is that my mother wants my brother to be a groomsman. In my opinion, that should be my fiance's choice, not mine (or my mother's) and he already has his best man (his brother) and two groomsmen (his close friends) selected. I told her he could be an usher and she ***e back with something along the lines of that isn't that important of a thing to do and if I was going to have him be an usher, why even wait until he gets back from over-seas to get married. After asking my brother about all of this (age 19), he told me as long as he could come to the wedding, he would be ok with it. But, I would like to have him do something in the wedding, perhaps something in the ceremony (reading?). What other things could my brother do in the wedding? Sorry this is so long, but any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am at my wits end. :confused:
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[RadioLyss]

I agree with Lily.

It is perfectly ok for you to ask your fiance to include your brother as a groomsman. He is your brother, and soon to be his family too! So unless there is some reason you are only having 2 other groomsmen (aside from the Best Man) it should be a problem I wouldn't think. Have you even talked to your fiance about the whole matter? It can't hurt to ask him something like, "Would you mind including (insert brothers name here) in our wedding as a groomsman?" See what he says.

Good Luck!