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townclose
06-18-2004, 07:47 PM
I have two issues about inviting relatives:

The first are my godparents, who I can never remember ever meeting or speaking to. They were invited to my graduation, but declined to come. Should I invite them?

The second is my aunt and her kids (my cousins). My fiance is mixed-race, and my uncle (her husband) was a HUGE racist and said nasty things about my fiance. MY aunt and cousins never defended my fiance, always quietly went along with my uncle, although they never said anything bad about my fiance either. My uncle has since died. Should I invite my aunt and cousins?

My mother says I should invite both my godparents and my aunt and cousins because they are family and even if they do not attend, to not invite them would be an insult. They all live very far away and probably would not come anyway. Personally, I am not close to any of them, never talk to them, and would much rather invite people I am close to. What should I do??? :confused:

Sarah
06-18-2004, 10:55 PM
Just send them an announcement. These are usually dropped in the mailbox the day of or after the wedding and serve to let the out-of-towners know that you got married, without inviting them or seeming to ask for a gift. If I were you, I wouldn't invite them (I'd invite the godparents sooner than the aunt and cousins), but it's your unique family and ultimately your decision. Good luck.