Am I having a Laura Moment?

[PrincessLaura]

So, John and I were talking about wedding music, he mentioned Ray Charles. I said I do not want his music played at our wedding because it is such public knopwledge that he cheated on his wife. I also said that anyone who the public knows cheated on their spouse, I dont want their music at my wedding. I dont like their values of marriage. Is this being stupid, or do I have a valid point?

[JoeysPrincess]

Valid point but cheaters make the best songs. Not many honest singers.

[KatylovesNick]

I agree Kup, being an avid country music fan (Lets hear the jokes) All the good songs are about cheating. However, if you feel strongly about that Laura then you are a better person than I am!

[PrincessLaura]

I dont mind listening to them outside of the wedding, it is just at the wedding that I dont want to hear them.

[steelcutter2003eeda]

Yeah I agree I don't think cheating songs are proper for a wedding, now as for the artists who sing them, I think your going to have a hard time finding ones that haven't cheated on thier spouse at some time. I do understand your point though, just as I would not have someone stand up for me or my FH in my wedding who does not value and cherish thier vows.

[calico4sr]

i agree with everyone here. you may have a hard time finding songs by artists that havent cheated at sometime or another. but you can do it. there are may beautiful songs out there best wishes

[PrincessLaura]

I am not going to do a deep search to find out if people have cheated, but those that it is very public knowledge will not be playing at the wedding, ie. Ray Charles, Johnny Cash, Garth Brooks, etc.

[steelcutter2003eeda]

I am not going to do a deep search to find out if people have cheated, but those that it is very public knowledge will not be playing at the wedding, ie. Ray Charles, Johnny Cash, Garth Brooks, etc.

I say go for it! To many people forget what the meaning of marriage is no a days. I think you sticking to your values should show your FH how very strong your commitment to him is.

[basebell6]

i'd say go for it if it is that important to you; its your wedding after all!! but do consider that you would have to do extensive research and not only count out the 4-5 mentioned. if you skip the research then what is the point of the 'no cheaters' theme?

if you dont go for it: keep in mind that 99% of your guests would not know if the artist was faithful in his / her personal life anyways. i didnt know about the ones you mentioned even (guess i'm not up on that stuff). our music was a mix of oldies, country, and contemporary christian, and i'm sure there are even christian artists that are cheaters. it's the words of the songs and not the singers that are important i think.

[PrincessLaura]

Well, Johnny Cash and Ray Charles BOTH had movies on their lives, and in them, it publicized their infidelity.

[liarliarz2000]

OK This might just be because I haven't been cheated on, (that I know of) but here is what I think. You don't wan't that music played at your wedding because your ex-husband cheated on you. Your FH didn't cheat on you but he is having to pay the price at his own wedding for what your ex did to you. It is not fair to your FH. You should turn a new leaf and keep all of dilemas with your ex as far away from your marrige as you can. This is yours and John's wedding, your ex should be no factor in any decisions you and John make not even the choice in music.

[KatylovesNick]

While I agree with what you said, having a song where the artist cheated in no way factor in other cheating problems. I think the issue is having this artist sing at the wedding may go against the beliefs of both Laura and JOhn for having someone who cheated be allowed to be played at their wedding that celebrates the joining of two people forever who love each other. JOhnny cash's cheating was very publicized and so has many others. I would want songs that reflected love and honesty. Not cheating and lying. I thinkt hat is what Laura was saying. I do not think that makes any sense... hahaha

[PrincessLaura]

You said it perfectly Katy! It really has nothing to do with my past, it is about my views on marriage, and that those musicians dont have the same view.

[KatylovesNick]

Well I was rambling but basically just having a singer who has the same views as you and is not a well known cheater. :)

[PrincessLaura]

Yeah, it is just those like, Ray Charles, and Johnny Cash, both had movies come out and they OBVIOSLY cheated!

[KatylovesNick]

Yup, althought that Johnny Cash movie was really good. But that is besides the point.. It is hard anymore to find singers who do not cheat, all though Tim Mcgraw and Faith Hill make great singers and married couple. Just love them!

[PrincessLaura]

Oh Yeah, definately!!!

[KatylovesNick]

There are so many good songs out there for weddings, how does anyone choose? We are doing an ipod wedding haha, no DJ and I am sure that puppy will be filled with TONS of songs. The good thing is I am makng a "wedding mix" so I will have that on my ipod forever.. I love that idea. So for our anniversary I can play our first dance song. :)

[Frogger_13045abaa]

I was thinking the same thing about Tim McGraw and Faith Hill as I was reading. We are actually thinking of having their song It's Your Love be our first dance. Basically because they sing it to each other and seem to have the same views on marraige as we do.

[KatylovesNick]

I love that song, very nice and romantic!

[jezzabree]

Values are all that we have left anymore....and weddings seem to be viewed as the beginning of the end of a relationship. It's such a shame the jokes and rib pokes that 'marriage' brings anymore. Just remember that a song is just a song. It has no face value for what your new lives will bring. I love music, I don't punish the words because of who may be singing them. The song writer may not be the same one that is performing. Heck, my fiance and I plan to karaoke to Jackson by Johnny & June Carter at our reception. We have made mistakes in our past...but still believe in love and marriage, and in music, it's the words that descriibe your love for one another...not the artist. Good luck to you!

[NovemberBride07]

i really think this is funny. i have no opionion on it but i think its funny

[CandyBear]

I think that everyone's being a bit hard on the singers. I read stats that said: 60% of wives cheat on their husbands and 50% of husbands cheat on their wives. I don't agree with infidelity (have very strong opinions on the subject myself), but let's face it...it's happened to someone you know and probably people we are friends with have done it.

Music is music and just because someone makes a mistake doesn't mean that he/she is a horrible person. Just another human that's made an error in judgement.

Johnny Cash movie focused too much on the negative aspects of his life, and probably was not a true representation of all the good times.

[lhall426bfcf]

Don't forget Elvis! For me, I don't think it would bother me....but this is about how you feel. If it bothers you, then you shouldn't play it. You don't want the memory of that for your day.

[crazydaisy514]

Wow! I've never even thought about that.
I think if it means that much to you, the don't worry about if you're over reacting or "being stupid". Everyone is different. It's your wedding!