father in law and daughter in law song

[lee_not_homeccba]

Hello everyone,
My name is Leonie. First time user here, so i might sound silly cause i dont know what i'm doing(lol). I was wondering if anyone can help me with two things. First thing.... i need to find a special song for my father in law and i to dance too. The thing is i never had a father role in my life so i dont know how to word my feelings in that way. When i meet my FH, i fell for him(as we all know that feeling lol). When i meet his mother and father, there was this bond like a father and daughter thing with me and his father. I think the world of his mum and dad, so i really want to let him know that his my father in my eyes. So i'm having trouble finding a song that doesn't sing about step dads or how he watch his little girl grow up. The second thing is, i need advice about having the dance. The thing is he has a nautral daughter and i dont want to upset anyone. Cause right now these rough grounds between her and i. I have been planning my wedding for months and my honeymoon. I planned and paid for two weeks away. She in the last to weeks has set her date, one week after mine. Should i have the father/ daughter dance with her father at my wedding or not? Should i break my honeymoon plans to go to her wedding or not? Is it wrong for me to be mad at her for setting her date one week after me? Please can anyone help me.
Thank you if u can
Leonie.

[AMM2007]

Hello Leonie,
I understand how you feel about your FFIL. I felt the same way about mine. He passed away unexpectly a year ago and so it's been a hard time for the entire family. My FMIL has since moved on which is for the best but it's still kinda hard on everyone...including myself. I was in the picture several years before he passed on and had a strange bond with him. Almost a better relationship than my FH and him. Anyways, dance with him. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I was going to dance with mine. Now as far as your FSIL...forgive but how rude! I'd be so ticked that she'd plan her wedding right after yours. If you have your honeymoon booked...then OPPS...

As far as songs....hmm...I like Billy Joel...Just the Way You Are....it's an older song but it's fun...

[lee_not_homeccba]

thank u for ur reply. i was thinking something like that song. sorry to hear about ur ffil, im closing to mine then my fh is to his dad. so i would hate that to happen. i hope everything goes well for ur wedding day. once again thank for ur adive and reply.
lee

[lee_not_homeccba]

p.s ur dogs r so cute

[kkf_23acad]

I don't really have advice on a song, but as far as the FSIL goes...well that was very rude of her to schedule her wedding that close to yours. Sounds like she's alittle jealous and wanting to steal the limelight. If you and your FH already have your honeymoon booked I would not cancel it. I would have thought out of courtesy she would have atleast waited until you were back from your honeymoon to have her wedding. And as far as dancing with your FFIL I would definately go for it. I think he would be touched that you think so highly of him.

[KatylovesNick]

I would have to agree with KKF, she is not considering you on your day. My brother was going to propose to his girlfriend a day after my wedding. Then I talked to him and asked to do it either a few weeks before or a few weeks after. A) I wanted him to not steal my thunder (Mean I know) and B) I wanted to fully be able to enjoy him asking her since she is like a sister to me anyway. With them getting engaged a day after I would be still on a high from my wedding and getting ready to leave for my honeymoon that I wouldn't be able to fully congratulate them. So your sister should not have been so quick to schedule her wedding that fast. ENJOY YOUR honeymoon!

[AMM2007]

p.s ur dogs r so cute
Thanks! best of luck;)

[sept07bride]

I don't have any advice about you ffil either. But that was very rude of you fsil to do! Don't feel selfish or anything, she should not have done that. Tell her that you're sorry, you won't be able to make it to her wedding as you've already paid for the honeymoon. Maybe she'll change the date. If not, it's not your problem. Enjoy your honeymoon.
And Katy, I don't think it's mean that you asked your brother to rethink his proposing. Actually, I thought it was really unselfish of you to tell him that he could propose before your wedding.

[KatylovesNick]

Thanks Sept07- I did not do it to be mean, quite the opposite, I just want to fully be there to congratulate her rather then saying well sorry, this is about me right now, I wll congratulate you later! I want to be there to help her start the planning process, hand over my knowledge and TONS of wedding books for her. She is like a sister to me already, I want to be there to be there. So I am HOPING keep your fingers crossed that he waits until after we are married and back from our honeymoon and ready to fully commit to ANOTHER wedding! hahaha

[lee_not_homeccba]

THANX ALL. I got a surprised visit from my fsil and her fh today, i found it hard to chat to them. They acted if it was alright between us. My fh told his sister that cause they decide to put there wedding so close that we cant come. They told him that we can come off our honeymoon and come to it and then go back but my fh stood his ground and said no. I feel really guilty on one side but the other i am really mad that they can act that why. Im really confused about it all, i want to be close and share our day as sisters but i cant. I think its because they wont put our feeling in to count(on the phone or face to face) but they want us to think of them and stop our honeymoon. Plus they have rub everything in our face, like today they had to show off there new family car.... knowing that ours(a piece of crap they sold us and said that not much is wrong with it) after spending $1500 on it to fix one part it still had to come off the road. Then she had to tell us about how with her other car (both car aint cheap) she wants it done up with a stereo and wants my fh to do it close to nothing. well i better stop here cause im mad as hell but im feeling guilty cause i shouldnt think of her like that. sorry for all of u to here this but i have to get it out and i cant talk to anyone i know. i thought planning my wedding would be a happy time but it full of drama and i only like drama in soaps. lol. if anyone else is having trouble like this, it would be nice to hear from u so i know that im not going crazy here. thanx leonie.