Matron of Honor

[Hawaiian Bride]

I was wondering, I already have a Maid of Honor, but I haven't talked to her in awhile, and she really hasn't helped me AT ALL with any wedding planning (or doesn't even seem the slight bit interested). Infact, I haven't talked to her since my son's b-day party back in March. Can I change my mind? I want my fiance's mother to be my Matron of Honor instead of having my Maid of Honor. Has anyone been faced with this sort of problem before? -Amber-

[samanthaandmatt9/4/04]

I was wondering, I already have a Maid of Honor, but I haven't talked to her in awhile, and she really hasn't helped me AT ALL with any wedding planning (or doesn't even seem the slight bit interested). Infact, I haven't talked to her since my son's b-day party back in March. Can I change my mind? I want my fiance's mother to be my Matron of Honor instead of having my Maid of Honor. Has anyone been faced with this sort of problem before? -Amber-

I have never actually been faced with this, but my future sister has been. She changed her matron of honor because of a family conflict. I think that you may have a valid reason to change your mind. Just make sure that if she has already purchased her dress that you reimburse her for it. My future sister in law also was just kicked out of a wedding because she is pregnant and the couple refuse to pay for her dress so now she is stuck with a dress that she will never wear. I don't see a problem with changing your mind, but just explain it to her so that she doesn't feel any resentment to you. Maybe find another place in the wedding for her that won't require as much responsibility.

[herlocs]

Hi, there, I sent you an e-mail at your aol address as well.*cm2836@sbc.com)is my e-mail address. My name is Chanda.
However, I am some what running into the same problem. The person I wanted for my maid of honor has an illness that affects her joints and she could be hospitalized at any moment. So I'm kind of disappointed in that. So that's causing me to have to look for another MAID OF HONOR or just have a MATRON OF HONOR. Decisions, Decisions, Decisions. I don't know. I'm not quite sure.
Umm.. Well what I think you could do if you haven't already resolved this, is just what another bride to be suggested. Tell her nicely and find another place in your wedding for her so that she can still be a part of it and won't have to do as much work. Her response will be 1 of 2 (she's going to be upset and maybe not really understand but will still be glad to be in your wedding if she's truly your friend.
Secondly, she will understand and desire to be more helpful with being your Maid of Honor if that's where you still want her to be. Or you may pose the question as such, Ask her if she truly wants to be your Maid of Honor then ask her what does she understand the duties of a Maid of Honor to be. Those r just thoughts.
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I have never actually been faced with this, but my future sister has been. She changed her matron of honor because of a family conflict. I think that you may have a valid reason to change your mind. Just make sure that if she has already purchased her dress that you reimburse her for it. My future sister in law also was just kicked out of a wedding because she is pregnant and the couple refuse to pay for her dress so now she is stuck with a dress that she will never wear. I don't see a problem with changing your mind, but just explain it to her so that she doesn't feel any resentment to you. Maybe find another place in the wedding for her that won't require as much responsibility.