Responsibilities of the bridal party

[cuddles1984nc]

This might sound like a stupid question for some, but I'm a little confused. Could someone help me out with what each person in the bridal party is responsible for? I think most of my friends just think they get to stand up there by me and look pretty and not have to do anything like planning the parties, taking care of certain things, etc.. so we're going to put a little card that tells what their responsibilities are in the invitations just so nobody is confused and nothing goes wrong. Does that sound ok?? *Heather*

[Sarah]

we're going to put a little card that tells what their responsibilities are in the invitations just so nobody is confused and nothing goes wrong. Does that sound ok?? *Heather*

In what invitations? In their wedding invitations? I hope you asked them to be in the party and discussed their responsibilities before sending out the wedding invitations! If it's just an invitation to be in the party, then....it would be a better idea to ask each person face-to-face, or at least one-on-one (over the phone). Each person will have specific ideas/questions/concerns for you, and it is important that you understand each other BEFORE they commit to being in your party. It is also more personal this way, and I assume you're asking them because you have a special, personal relationship. Once they've accepted and the planning is underway, it is definitely okay to give them little "reminder cards" so they don't forget anything you've discussed, but DON'T spring anything new on them in the cards.

As for their responsibilities themselves.....this will vary depending on what type of wedding, local and/or religious custom, your relationship to each person, etc. As far as parties....the attendants do not have any responsibilities in this regard other than attending, if at all possible, those to which they are invited. Many bridesmaids CHOOSE to throw a bridal shower for their friend, but keep in mind that this is a GIFT from them, and not an obligation. If you have specific questions, or would like me to research/brainstorm a specific person-by-person list for you, please feel free to email or PM me. Good luck!

[bjmy1975]

I invited each person in the wedding party in writting on a little scroll to be (Blank) member of the wedding party. (ie. flower girl, bridesmaid, usher) Then I plan on using the role responsiblities from this web page, with a few changes, for each of them. They will each get a little list at some point that tells them what they are responsible for. Each member of the wedding party has a number (ie bridesmaid #1) and they will all have tasks to do. Because I have so many younger kids and people who live out of town, I have pretty much chossen to to a lot of things by myself. Most of thier responsiblities will just be for rehersal dinner and the day of the wedding anyway. I'm really not too worried about giving them these cards tooo far in advance because most of them know what they agreed to do. And most of the younger ones cards will sy things like... take pictures at 2pm.. stay clean... keep track of flowers and stay in church with them.... simple stuff for kids you know... and then Bridesmaid #1 and groomsman #1 are responsible almost solely for keeping track of the younger kids. Anything haveing to do with decorations and stuff like that are staying strictly in the hands of myself, the mothers, and the matron of honor. I figure the less hands the better. I don't know if any of this helped. I guess that was a long answer to I'm using the roles off this web site, but suiting them to fit my needs. :confused: Did that help any? :confused: Now I think I confused myself. :D

[cuddles1984nc]

Yes, you both helped, thanks! Where is the role thing you said about on this page? I hear about it but can never find it... well, I did already ask everyone to be in my wedding, but nobody had questions regarding what to do, so like I said, I think they just think they stand up there and look pretty. Should I not say anything???

[bjmy1975]

I know that list of responsiblities is on the site somewhere. I can't find it again... :mad: It's in the book following dos and don'ts.