Hey Everyone...I am a wedding Planner and I am here to help! [Archive]

brownidgirl73

05-16-2004, 03:42 PM

the planner

05-17-2004, 11:32 AM

I could sure use some help I know this might be jumping the gun since I have over a year to plan my weding (June,2005) but I like most new brides are probably wanting a lot done so when it comes closer to the date everything is done. But anyways I have a million questions but I'll sum it up in a few if that's okay. Question #1 My church isn't big enough for 300 guest's and I wouldn't mind it at a park & then go to the reception but then you have to rent chairs, set up and tear down for a 1/2 hour wedding doesn't make sense.
Question #2 I am also on a budget any sugestions for table decorations & cheap party favors that don't look cheap? Remember I have 300 guest 1.00 each would cost 300.00 just for party favors, ouch. Any other advice would be greatly appreciated. Cake, photogropher, gifts for wedding party.Thank you alot.

HI there....well let start off by answering your first question...you want to be able to have all of your guest present at your wedding...how much is the capacity at the church? I can offer you some tips on how to make the cost of renting the chairs to not be a hassle as well as some other ideas on how to incorporate both of your ideas..e-mail me at everafter_planners@hotmail.com. The second question for your table decorations is simple...I have done many weddings were the cost was less than $1.00 per person...I would rather tell you via e-mail since you want your day to be unique. I am here to help so e-mail me when you get a chance.
Anu

Hawaiian Bride

05-19-2004, 06:29 AM

Hello Anu. I am having a Beach Themed Wedding. My table centers are ceramic sandcastles. And I also got a bunch of really cute things at Kohls to set around it. They are like Aderondac chair candle holders and such things like that. I just don't have any ideas how to set it all together! My soon-to-be mother inlaw, told me things look nice in 3's, but we tried it different ways, and I just can't find anything I like. Any ideas? -Amber :o

the planner

05-24-2004, 11:39 PM

Hey,

I just wanted to know if anyone in the Toronto,Ontario region was looking for a caterer for thier wedding!

If u are his website is www.marinocateringcompany.com. He specializes in Italian food..and if he asks where u heard about him from..tell him Anu sent u!

Thanks

mary lou

06-17-2004, 04:01 PM

I have an invitation with no inner envelope. It is from Carlton Craft their Something Different collection. Is this appropriate? How do we address the outer envelope since we can not be specific with who we are inviting on the inner envelope? Especially in the case of a single person so we can let them know they can bring a guest!
Thank you so much for any advice!

the planner

06-19-2004, 08:23 AM

Hi Mary Lou,

First of all I wanted to say Congrats on your up and coming wedding and as well to thank you for contacting me.

Any card you pick is appropriate in the sense that it displays your uniqueness and creativity.

A few suggestions that I can offer you is that on the outside envelope you can write the persons name in which you are sending the card to. In the inside you can include either a engagement picture of you and your fiance and to write a small note or poem and include how many people are invited. As well another alternative is to create an evite or website where those that will be sending there rsvp can do so on a site and will be able to see exactly how many people are invited. You can also follow up once the invitations have been mailed out and at that time clairify with them that another guest of guest(s) are invited.

I would like to discuss this with you further please contact me at everafter_planners@hotmail.com! Good Luck Mary Lou

SouthernBelle4U

06-21-2004, 05:03 PM

the planner

06-22-2004, 02:08 PM

Hi Christina,

Congratulations on your up and coming wedding. You have mentioned that you would like to use darker colours in your theme. I usually provide my opinion based on some information that I know about the couple to be, however, the colour theme could be maroon type of colour accented with a lighter colour, for instance a gold, creme or even silver. If you do not want an extremely dark colour such as navy or hunter green then going a few shades lighter might help as well.

My understanding of the next part of your question is not having the bouquet toss or garter toss. Do you not want to have it at all or do you want to have a different type of bouquet/garter toss different from the norm? If you want something different what you can do is give your bouquet to an important female in your life/ or females and have them come up to the table as a token of your appreciation to them, the same for the garter. If this is not what you meant could you please send me an e-mail so that I will be able to provide you with another solution.

Take care and good luck Christina!

Hi! My name is Christina and my wedding is a year from now; July of 2005. In order for me to be able to afford it, though, I have to get alot of things together by the end of August. There are two things that are presenting a problem for my fiance and I. First, we don't want to use pastel colors in our wedding scheme. We'd like to use darker colors-sort of. . . Not dark colors like Navy or Hunter Green, but colors that are rich. We'd also like to toss out the bouquet and garter toss(no pun intended. ;-) ) What can we do to replace those?

Thanks,
Christina

Andrea

06-27-2004, 11:04 AM

Hi everyone,

My name is Anu and I am a wedding planner...i just wanted to come to this site..and help any of you....I am here with some tips if u like....

take care and good luck!! :)
does it really look bad if you have a cash bar at your event??

Andrea

06-27-2004, 11:10 AM

I could sure use some help I know this might be jumping the gun since I have over a year to plan my weding (June,2005) but I like most new brides are probably wanting a lot done so when it comes closer to the date everything is done. But anyways I have a million questions but I'll sum it up in a few if that's okay. Question #1 My church isn't big enough for 300 guest's and I wouldn't mind it at a park & then go to the reception but then you have to rent chairs, set up and tear down for a 1/2 hour wedding doesn't make sense.
Question #2 I am also on a budget any sugestions for table decorations & cheap party favors that don't look cheap? Remember I have 300 guest 1.00 each would cost 300.00 just for party favors, ouch. Any other advice would be greatly appreciated. Cake, photogropher, gifts for wedding party.Thank you alot.
1# try and reduce the wedding count some how without hurting there feelings or find a church with a bigger seat capacity or find a chapel in the pine or something with already seats provided otherwise your last resort should be outside but try to find a rent all place that rents chairs cheap!!!

2#go to dollars stores or make the decor your self and make it like it serves to purposes like cookies can be decorated as seating cards etc... that way you get twice the bang for you buck.

Andrea

06-27-2004, 11:14 AM

Hi! My name is Christina and my wedding is a year from now; July of 2005. In order for me to be able to afford it, though, I have to get alot of things together by the end of August. There are two things that are presenting a problem for my fiance and I. First, we don't want to use pastel colors in our wedding scheme. We'd like to use darker colors-sort of. . . Not dark colors like Navy or Hunter Green, but colors that are rich. We'd also like to toss out the bouquet and garter toss(no pun intended. ;-) ) What can we do to replace those?

Thanks,
Christina
if you are going to toss out the bouquet and garter trying replaceing it with a lucky sixpence in your shoe and make sure you have something blue new old and borrowed so at least you have good luck symbols still etc....

lmrs

06-28-2004, 11:51 AM

Hi! My name is Christina and my wedding is a year from now; July of 2005. In order for me to be able to afford it, though, I have to get alot of things together by the end of August. There are two things that are presenting a problem for my fiance and I. First, we don't want to use pastel colors in our wedding scheme. We'd like to use darker colors-sort of. . . Not dark colors like Navy or Hunter Green, but colors that are rich. We'd also like to toss out the bouquet and garter toss(no pun intended. ;-) ) What can we do to replace those?

Thanks,
Christina

Hi, I just hate that whole garter thing - so embarrasing! At my wedding, I just didn't do it, and I tossed the bouquet on my way out the door at the end of the reception.

Rach19031

08-04-2004, 11:40 AM

I am getting married at the beach in May and I am looking for something to replace the garter and the flower toss. This is my second wedding. I am inviting 150 people so it is not a small wedding. I am trying to come up with creative ideas to make this wedding special. I don't want to give the flowers to a special someone because everyone is special.

:) Thank you for your help.

RadioLyss

08-04-2004, 12:42 PM

I could sure use some help I know this might be jumping the gun since I have over a year to plan my weding (June,2005) but I like most new brides are probably wanting a lot done so when it comes closer to the date everything is done. But anyways I have a million questions but I'll sum it up in a few if that's okay. Question #1 My church isn't big enough for 300 guest's and I wouldn't mind it at a park & then go to the reception but then you have to rent chairs, set up and tear down for a 1/2 hour wedding doesn't make sense.
Question #2 I am also on a budget any sugestions for table decorations & cheap party favors that don't look cheap? Remember I have 300 guest 1.00 each would cost 300.00 just for party favors, ouch. Any other advice would be greatly appreciated. Cake, photogropher, gifts for wedding party.Thank you alot.

You should check out the D-I-Y section of this site! There is a great posting on there about making hersey kiss flowers, and one of the other brides to be said she bought all the materials to make 122 or so and it only cost her $10.00 total. The link for how to do this is in that sectoin but I will include it here as well. Good Luck- http://www.hersheyskisses.com/htm/crafts_roses.htm

RadioLyss

08-04-2004, 12:49 PM

Hi! My name is Christina and my wedding is a year from now; July of 2005. In order for me to be able to afford it, though, I have to get alot of things together by the end of August. There are two things that are presenting a problem for my fiance and I. First, we don't want to use pastel colors in our wedding scheme. We'd like to use darker colors-sort of. . . Not dark colors like Navy or Hunter Green, but colors that are rich. We'd also like to toss out the bouquet and garter toss(no pun intended. ;-) ) What can we do to replace those?

Thanks,
Christina

Just wanted to let you know that I am also getting married next June or July. We haven't acctually finalized the date since we have to be flexible in order to pick our reception/ceremony site. Anyway, we are using victorian lilac as well as regular lilac and either sage or celadon green. The are rich colors that aren't so pastely. (well aside from the regular lilac that is). Good luck!

RadioLyss

08-04-2004, 01:00 PM

Anu,

I have a couple of questions.

#1. We have decided not to include children at the reception, except for those that we have included in our wedding party. If we did, my family would number close to 100 people just in itself. I do have family who live in AZ. and I live in MA. They all have several kids. How can I word our save the date cards in such a way that will let these people know that childcare is being arranged for them should they want it?

#2. I have a cousin who recently married his partner of many years since MA passed same sex marriages allowing them to do so. My question is, what would be the best way to word their invitation?

#3. I don't knokw for sure, but I think my invitations will not have an outer envelope, how can I address them so that people will know that only parents are invited? Or is there somewhere I could buy envelopes that we could put as outer envelopes for our invitations?

Thank you.
Melissa

ginajames

08-08-2004, 08:36 AM

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missala

08-15-2004, 07:33 PM

Hi everyone,

My name is Anu and I am a wedding planner...i just wanted to come to this site..and help any of you....I am here with some tips if u like....

take care and good luck!! :)

Hey I was wondering my finance are both getting married for the second time I have two boys and he has one girl all under the age of 5. We are paying for this ourselves and I want this to be a great wedding. I didn't get a huge one or even a reception the first time around so I was wondering if you had any suggestions we are on a budget. Also is it bad to ask close family to cook stuff for the reception?

kittycarial

08-17-2004, 12:33 PM

does it really look bad if you have a cash bar at your event??
I am getting married in two weeks and we decided not to have an open bar. For one thing it would be too expensive. When someone asks us why we're not having an open bar, we just tell them that it would be too much of a liability if anyone got into an accident on their way home. That usually shuts them up. :)

bjmy1975

08-18-2004, 02:04 PM

I am getting married in two weeks and we decided not to have an open bar. For one thing it would be too expensive. When someone asks us why we're not having an open bar, we just tell them that it would be too much of a liability if anyone got into an accident on their way home. That usually shuts them up. :)

That's a great way to answer that question. We are having a cash bar and open bar. However, the open bar is only beer for like four hours. Our reception location only allows an open bar from the beginning of the reception until like two hours after dinner. That helps us out a lot. Your post will help me respond to those who think it should be an open bar all night.

mayshowers18

08-19-2004, 11:46 AM

I have been engaged for about a month and my fiancee and I agreed right away that we wanted to have our wedding where we first went away together. Plus it keeps it fair that all the family must travel for our blessed event and keep the guest list under 100.

So here I am with a wedding date of June 3 or 10 of 2006 and have no idea of what sort of timeline to follow. Plus, I live in Southeast Michigan (Detroit area) and am planning a wedding in Northwest Michigan (Traverse City).

We are pretty secure on the church and the reception/hotel. But it is all the little things like when to order the cake, reserve the dj, and when to send invitations I need help with.

the planner

08-19-2004, 02:59 PM

Hi melissa,

First of all I would like to appoligize for not replying sooner...i had to travel back home ( canada) for my cousins wedding, as well as another wedding I was planning...now that I have time I thought I would reply to your message...

#1 My suggestion for your out of town guests is to include only on thier cards an asteriks * on the invitation, and include a personalized letter stating that is for the in town guests to not bring thier children...as well as a follow up phone call just to clarify first if they understand that it was not directed towards them and secondly to make arrangement if they are bringing their children

#2 In my previous experience with same sex partners I have written both of their names together and if one partner has changed thier name to write it like you would with any other couple..since they are married they are a couple, there names should both be on the invitiation

#3 You can buy outer envelopes, and you do not need to go very fancy on them either, just buy plain white ones, and addres it to Mr & Mrs. ? do not write family, and on the RSVP bold if you can NO CHILDREN!

If there is anything else I can do Melissa please let me know and I am so sorry it took me so long to reply.
QUOTE=RadioLyss]Anu,

I have a couple of questions.

#1. We have decided not to include children at the reception, except for those that we have included in our wedding party. If we did, my family would number close to 100 people just in itself. I do have family who live in AZ. and I live in MA. They all have several kids. How can I word our save the date cards in such a way that will let these people know that childcare is being arranged for them should they want it?

#2. I have a cousin who recently married his partner of many years since MA passed same sex marriages allowing them to do so. My question is, what would be the best way to word their invitation?

#3. I don't knokw for sure, but I think my invitations will not have an outer envelope, how can I address them so that people will know that only parents are invited? Or is there somewhere I could buy envelopes that we could put as outer envelopes for our invitations?

Thank you.
Melissa[/QUOTE]

the planner

08-19-2004, 03:06 PM

Hi Missala,

I would like to appoligize for not replying sooner to your post...I was back home (TORONTO) for a few weddings and just got time to check my e-mail..To answer your first question..you can definatley have a reception because it is your day..and you derserve it..what I will need from you is what you are looking for in terms of a venue for you reception and then we can go from there..and I can offer you some ideas on a budget reception locations..

To answer your second question..I think that having family cook the food for the reception is a trend that is catching on...so it is not bad at all...it gives it more of a personal touch..and you know that the food will be great :)

Hey I was wondering my finance are both getting married for the second time I have two boys and he has one girl all under the age of 5. We are paying for this ourselves and I want this to be a great wedding. I didn't get a huge one or even a reception the first time around so I was wondering if you had any suggestions we are on a budget. Also is it bad to ask close family to cook stuff for the reception?

the planner

08-19-2004, 03:08 PM

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to appoligize for not responding to your replies as I was busy back in my hometown (TORONTO), planning weddings, helping my cousin plan his wedding etc. I am back now to answer your questions and help out in anyway that I can...

I am here to help

Anu

the planner

08-19-2004, 03:10 PM

Hi there,

I have a timeline that I work with and that has helped me throughout the years. If you could send me your e-mail address through a private post then I will send it to you there. It is detailed so if there is anything that is missing, just let me know.

take care and good luck

anu

I have been engaged for about a month and my fiancee and I agreed right away that we wanted to have our wedding where we first went away together. Plus it keeps it fair that all the family must travel for our blessed event and keep the guest list under 100.

So here I am with a wedding date of June 3 or 10 of 2006 and have no idea of what sort of timeline to follow. Plus, I live in Southeast Michigan (Detroit area) and am planning a wedding in Northwest Michigan (Traverse City).

We are pretty secure on the church and the reception/hotel. But it is all the little things like when to order the cake, reserve the dj, and when to send invitations I need help with.

Sabrina

08-20-2004, 06:59 AM

Hi everyone,

My name is Anu and I am a wedding planner...i just wanted to come to this site..and help any of you....I am here with some tips if u like....

take care and good luck!! :)

Hey I am just starting all the work for my wedding and I am having a lot of prob. with it. I need to do things cheeeeeep. My mom makes cakes and she does a lot of them for this lady that is a caterer. She wants to do my wedding for free, but I am having a hard time finding a place to do this at because they all say that I have to use someone they have on their list. I have found two places that will let you do your own but they are over my budget (one was $1500 + tax). What can I do????

the planner

08-22-2004, 07:36 AM

Hi,

Congrats and your up and coming wedding. Where are you getting married? What city, state, province? This way I can provide you with some alternatives on where you can bring outside food and be within your budget. Once I have a better understanding of where it is that you are getting married I will be able to point you in the right direction.

take care and good luck

Anu Sharma-Goswami

Hey I am just starting all the work for my wedding and I am having a lot of prob. with it. I need to do things cheeeeeep. My mom makes cakes and she does a lot of them for this lady that is a caterer. She wants to do my wedding for free, but I am having a hard time finding a place to do this at because they all say that I have to use someone they have on their list. I have found two places that will let you do your own but they are over my budget (one was $1500 + tax). What can I do????

Sabrina

08-23-2004, 06:18 AM

Hey we are getting married in Memphis, TN. We have found some nice spots but they are all over $1500 - $1900, and that is just for the place. We are going to look at the G-town center tomorrow but we are not sure what is all included with the room. The price for the room is $1625. Is this a good price?

Hi,

Congrats and your up and coming wedding. Where are you getting married? What city, state, province? This way I can provide you with some alternatives on where you can bring outside food and be within your budget. Once I have a better understanding of where it is that you are getting married I will be able to point you in the right direction.

take care and good luck

Anu Sharma-Goswami

Darla Nagy

08-25-2004, 09:56 AM

HI Anu, We are getting married at a beautiful quint bed and breakfast in Maine in Oct, 2months away YIKES, we are only inviting couples to come with us, I have no idea where to start, this will also be a seriouly budget wedding, I am looking for very simple yet very classy, this will also be very low key, I dont know where to start, andy ideas????
Thanks
D
I Hi everyone,

My name is Anu and I am a wedding planner...i just wanted to come to this site..and help any of you....I am here with some tips if u like....

take care and good luck!! :)

gandm

08-30-2004, 11:54 AM

Hi! My name is Christina and my wedding is a year from now; July of 2005. In order for me to be able to afford it, though, I have to get alot of things together by the end of August. There are two things that are presenting a problem for my fiance and I. First, we don't want to use pastel colors in our wedding scheme. We'd like to use darker colors-sort of. . . Not dark colors like Navy or Hunter Green, but colors that are rich. We'd also like to toss out the bouquet and garter toss(no pun intended. ;-) ) What can we do to replace those?

Thanks,
Christina

We also decided that we didn't want to do the bouquet and garter toss. We have decided to ask our DJ to invite all the married couples to the dance floor. As he is playing a song, he will ask everyone married less than 1 year to sit down, then less than 5 years, then 10 and so on. We are then going to just hand the bouquet to the couple that has been married the longest, and let them know that we admire them and hope our marriage is as long and good as theirs.

LaShawn

08-31-2004, 05:32 PM

Hi, my wedding is in April of 2005 and I am tossed between which colors I want for the wedding it is between apple red and peridot from david's bridal. I really like the apple but everyone is saying that it is a winter color. I also like the peridot but only has about five different stlyes to choose from for my bridesmaid, and I want them all to feel comfortable in their dresses. Could you give me some insight on what I should do?

Second, I am trying to find an original way for the procession. Most weddings have the groomsmen and the bridesmaid just walk in together. I want something different. Can you give me any suggestions? I went to one wedding and the groomesmen were at the altar and when the bridesmaid got to the center of the aisle at the back of the church they would leave the altar and walk to the back to get the bridesmaid and escort her to the front. I want something different like that.