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SamaraBru
07-13-2003, 06:30 AM
Reading the first thread makes me feel better knowing I am not the only person with selfish parents. My father recently announced that he will not be attending my wedding if it is held in my hometown - since my parents went through a very acrimonious divorce (more than 12 years ago). According to my stepmother, he can't bear the humilliation of revisiting the community where the whole ordeal took place. The irony is that much of my extended family would love to see him - and while I want to honor both of my parents, I feel like ultimatums such as the one my Dad has presented taint the whole thing. Makes me kind of just want to go and elope...
You may want to sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your father... it is unacceptable for his selfishness to affect your special day. Explain to him that an event twelve years in the past may be embarrassing, but skipping his daughter's wedding because of it would certainly remind people of it (and add to any lingering bad feelings)far more than his proud and happy presence would.
birdlegs02
07-27-2003, 12:25 PM
Remind your father that it his YOUR day and that the city where it takes place shouldn't ruin his time. Tell him that your family is looking forward to seeing him and that he has to get over whatever happened 12 years ago. He needs to look past HIM and focus on making YOU and your new husband happy. Sometimes parents forget that being a parent means putting some of their pride aside in order to make the one's they love the most happy.